me and my ex didn't ever really get along after we had our son. And now he's four months old are we haven't been together since he was about 2 1/2 months old. He cheated on me in January, i stole 20 dollars from him in November.... But he broke up with me for that but for some reason i stayed with him after i found out he cheated. But for some reason i feel like i need him. He's dating the girl he cheated on me with, he doesn't buy our son anything now, he was always emotionally abusive in some ways. Like calling me retarded for little things, calling me whore, slut, ***** ect. And was always accusing me of cheating when i never did and he was. And i want to know why i still have feeling for him?? I dont really want to but its extremely confusing!!!! HELP!!!!!!!
2007-12-28 16:55:02 · 9 answers · asked by Kirby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like you are both young. You feel the way you do because you aren't the one who cheated, and you are the mom of his child and you do need him, in a way. However, since he is acting this way, you should NOT allow him back into your life or your home without some professional counselling and he MUST participate. Meanwhile, hang in there and know that time will pass, and the pain will become more tolerable. You will come out stronger for all this. Be the adult for your child, and don't let him know how sad you are, if you can avoid doing so. I suggest you find some counselling for yourself very soon, because you have a lot of (unfair) things to sort out, and you could use some professional help with doing so. Hang in there, and while it isn't fair to you, you are the only adult in this whole situation, so you must be that adult from here on, forever. You can do this. Bless you and your child.
2007-12-28 17:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by purplesometimes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 13:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always love the father or your child, regardless of how poor the relationship is. That is normal, what is not normal is to want things to work out because it just seems like he will never trust you. No offense but it seems like he does not want things to work and apparently you promote his distrust because you stole from him so he has probable cause to question you but then again he doesnt he cheated. Maybe his rudeness to you is out of his own insecurity and wrong-doing.
HE is dating the girl he cheated on you with, wow he really does not sound like the right guy for you....NEVER MAKE SOMEONE YOUR PRIORITY IF THEY ONLY MAKE YOU THEIR 'OPTION'!!!!!!!!!!!
I think you have feelings for him because aside from the fact he is your child's ather, you are very desperate and lonely. From what you have typed it seems like a bad relationship that tried to work but did not. If this guy is disrespecting you like that you really need to know that nothing can really come of your relationship. He does not trust you nor does he respect you to talk to you the way he does so why would you want to hold on because this sounds like verbal abuse imo...
Take it from someone who has been in a mildly abusive situation, never take a man treating you that badly even if he is the father of your child. You should not be with someone who cheats on you, is possessive, insecure and rude to you. You deserve more than that, dont you think. Girl, you need to be single for awhile and find out what IS BEST for your child, what you deserve, what it is you want in a real man because you did a poor job choosing this loser baby daddy you got now...please move on! He did.
2007-12-28 17:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♥CJ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is still hard for me to this day for me to get over my ex. Once you have shared something special like having a baby with a guy that you love it is hard to think that they are dating someone else. You most likely want to work things out since he is your baby's daddy but if he's moving on then you probably should too.
2007-12-28 16:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced my first wife for a number of reasons including falling out of romantic love. I still loved her as the mother of our children. Sort it out and don't confuse the two. There is more than one kind of love.
2007-12-28 17:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Gerald G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason why you think you still have feelings for him is because he is the only one that you think about..
find someone else or at least open your eyes to new options and you will see that this dude is a loser and you were waisting your time.
dont ever say you NEED a guy babe! your stronger that that!
you do not what so ever need this dude!
2007-12-28 17:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk what to say but u probly still have fealings cuase u probly been with him for a long time and still have all the memories of him maybe you should get away from him find someone else.. i know thats hard but if hes not helping you with ur child and only putting you down thats gonna stress you alot and ur probly gonna be realy depressed
2007-12-28 17:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by NONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have feelings for who he used to be. just think of a new love, maybe it will help. or dont focus on it and just focus on your son:)
2007-12-28 17:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
coz
2007-12-28 16:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋