I moved to another city almost a year ago and my brother said I can stay with him and his family. And now he has kicked me out! He says it's because me and his 12 year old daughter couldn't get along and I was a bad influence on his 6 year old daughter, who really likes me. I mean it's true me and the 12 year old didn't get along, and usually I just wave off her sassiness but the other day she really bugged me and we got into it. I didn't curse her or anything like that but it was an intense argument. He says I'm a bad influence on his six year old because I let her do yoga and things with me and she always dresses like me in jogging pants and a sports bra, and she likes going shopping with me and my friends and we talk about all kinds of things that she goes back and tells her parents about, I'll admit some of the things aren't approriate. when he kicked me out I called my mom in Baltimore and now she's mad at him and refuses to talk to him and he blames me. is it really my fault?
2007-12-28 16:38:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
whoa STOP! look alot can be said but heres the jist. i understand how infuriating a 12 yr. old can be, and i understand that a person can only take so much....if the kids a brat then yeah you're gunna get angry...maybe a long argument wasn't the best thing, but hey we're all human....it sounds like your bro. has a real problem with communication....big surprise there..hes a GUY. he should have talked to you first and SET limitations for you about what to or not to talk about with his 6 yr old before he got angry and kicked you out....the pants and sports bra thing? not so bad as long as its only at home with family....yoga isnt bad at all. you're teaching the child the benifits of excersise and relaxation. so you called your mom...so what? that's what you're supposed to do when you need somebody . thats what moms are for...but your mom needs to chill out and let you and your brother settle things on your own....your brother's just acting like a child if he blames you....he needs to place blame he needs to place it where it belongs....on your mom its HER decision not to talk to your brother and its your BROTHERS decision to be mad at you for your MOMS actions....don't get me wrong...its not ALL their fault....you know what you did wrong...but as far as your family? life is all about choices....choose to be mad or GROW UP and let you handle your own.....i'll say it...crap. but hey if all else fails? time passes and people forgive. expecally people who love each other....hope this helps.
2007-12-28 17:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by ✿私 Forever Me 私✿wait.... WHAT?!✿ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not 100% your fault, no.
If your brother didn't set rules and limits for you when you came, and if he was not consistent with you, then it's just as much HIS fault.
Hon you are far too old to be arguing with a 6 year old. She looks up to you and so you really needed to try your best to set a good example.
We all make mistakes, even when we are fifty years old, like i am! Live and learn for all our lives!
Please THINK before you tell young children things... she doesn't need to know it all at her age.
I hope you and your brother can make up and try to move forward with life.
I'm not there, and i don't think it's a good idea for an adult to "blame" a 12 year old because he can't get along with his own sister. Seems there is quite a communication problem in your family.
2007-12-28 16:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably now no longer a hundred% your fault, no. in the experience that your brother did no longer set regulations and bounds for you together as you acquire here, and if he was now no longer consistent with you, then it is merely as plenty HIS fault. Hon you're far too historic to be arguing with a 6 year historic. She looks as much as you and so as which you fairly had to have a look into your passable to set a nicely occasion. all of us make blunders, whether we are fifty years historic, like i'm! stay and be knowledgeable for all our lives! Please think of until eventually now than you tell toddlers concerns... she does not have have been given to appreciate all of it at her age. I wish you and your brother could make up and have a look into to transport forward with existence. i'm now no longer there, and that i do no longer think that's a nicely suggestion for an individual to "blame" a 12 year historic pondering he can't get on the factor of his own sister. seems there could be fairly a communique impediment on your loved ones.
2016-10-02 12:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be on your own, not mooching off relatives, even if he did offer. You are not a member of his family so your actions could be construed as interfering in how he wants to raise his kids. He should be accepting responsibility for his error in letting you stay with him, rather than putting all on you. And your mother shouldn't blame him for not taking care of you, because as I said before, you should be making your own way in the world. Everyone in this mess needs to grow up.
2007-12-28 21:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though he is your brother...he is the parent..and you should always respect that...I'm sure it wasn't easy for him to do...but maybe in some way..he felt he had no choice..and thought it would better this way...if you feel that you were at fault...you need to fix this...especially with your mom and brother...this is your problem with him...did you in the least bit exaggerate to your mom to where she felt the need to defend you..it's hard enough raising kids these days...and there is a fine line when it comes respecting others wishes...search your heart and think about things...then your answer will come
2007-12-28 16:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by ~Jenny~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋