Hello everyone
I just have to run this by someone and I thought you guy might have some insights.
Okay, here we go
I am 26 and I met a girl, she's in university and pretty young 20. We met up, I made it clear that I was looking for a serious relationship (GF/BF situation) she said ok but she wants to get to know each other. That's great!
I did my best to be a gentleman, we had fun, never any pressure, went out on some dates. Now here it is:
I went away for Christmas, we communicated by email. I told her and I quote: "I like you and I have missed you."
I guess that was a mistake, she went werid. Said she was afraid I would force here to move faster then she wanted and she didn't have those feelings. I reassured her that it's cool, I don't want to push her and I didn't expect anything.
I guess she wasn't into me cause she won't even see me or talk to me as a friend anymore. I am very sad about it cause I did really like her and she was everything I wanted. Opinions?
2007-12-28 16:22:14 · 25 answers · asked by Karce 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks everyone, lots of good mature responses. I appreciate it.
Yeah, I've told her no worries, sorry about it and that I won't bother her anymore until she feels ready to contact me again (if ever).
It's hard, it sucks, but from the moment we first talked to our first date to that email I was completely honest with her and what I was looking for.
I can be proud of that at least.
lol, I will move on and find someone else (if she doesn't contact me in a week or so)
Just hard to find girls I am interested in
2007-12-28 16:38:13 · update #1
she is obviously not ready for any serious type of relationship. you can do two things...
let her go
be patient & woo her
2007-12-28 16:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the girl is feeling stressed up. Besides she's still young and she felt pressurized when you mention a serious relationship. I figure that the girl must have assumed that you mean a marriage. I suggest you to sit down quietly and think about this carefully to make a decision. Talk to the girl about how you feel and you also let her make a decision. Whatever the choice is, best of luck to you!
2007-12-28 16:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
w0w! that's a very big problem. Age doesn't matter unless shes 20 and your 50 or something but it seems to me that she is scared. You need to take things a little slower with this girl. If she was everything you wanted and she stopped tlaking then you need to go to her house or find some way or contacting her and tell her you onlywant to be friends. (of course not for long if you take things slow) I am not sure if this helped so much but you need to show her your only friends (for now) becuase you will have to do that if you really liked her. Stray clear of I missed you and I really like you for now.
I hope this helped!
2007-12-28 16:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ginny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. How long had you been dating?
Your email does not appear to be unseemly or pushy, she sounds like a very young 20.
She still may come around, but I'd not wait for her. It sounds like she flipped at the most simple of communication.
Again, sorry....
2007-12-28 16:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by ruth s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bruh, just move on. You two want different things. I'm sure you'll find a girl who wants to be in a serious relationship too. I know it hurts, but some things you just have to let go of.
2007-12-28 16:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Deela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im no love doctor but i guess the whole "i miss you" think probably weirded her out, do you try to talk to her more than she tries to talk to you too? she might see you as too clingy or something, that's happened to me...just try not talking to her for like a week (i know it'll be hard) like cut all communication with her, then if you walk past her say hi and see how she responds, let her come to you...it sucks, but it's necessary
2007-12-28 16:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man thatsreally sucks, i guess she has a right to not talk to you, but over you saying that u liked her, and missed her. thats kinda crap. its not weird to have feelings for someone and if you guys were just friends at the point, its not weird to miss a friend. and even after you told her you wouldn't rush in to things... and now she wont talk to you, she most likely took things wrong but, still, best of luck.
2007-12-28 16:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its either she is playing hard to get or she never liked you in the first place ... but i also feel like maybe you should have chilled some people are afraid of commitment!!
2007-12-28 16:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was comfortable enough with you as a friend, but she doesn't want more. Now she feels all weird about it since you pushed a little...she isn't interested in more period. Sorry.
2007-12-28 16:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by angieblossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it probably sucks at the moment but it will pass..and let it pass! she isnt the ONE..obviously so i would just leave her alone and move on. anyways she is too young for a serious relationship
2007-12-28 16:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't a mistake to say that. This whole thing makes me think that you might need someone who can handle her feelings (and yours, for that matter) a bit more maturely.
2007-12-28 16:26:11 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋