Yet ANOTHER spanking question? Open to spankers and non spankers?

Question

What is your opinion on spanking with pants down? I'm personally not opposed to spanking, although I don't really use it except for a couple of rare occasions, but smacking your child's bare bottom? Doesn't that seem wrong somehow? Maybe not so much for a toddler, but certainly a 4 or 5 year old. Anyway, what are your thoughts/reasons on this?

Answer 1

My husband and I swore not to, BEFORE we had kids. We agreed:
Never spank angry.
Only when the child's safety is at stake.
Only during early years (18 months to 3 years) when a child is not able to understand adult communication well enough.

My Friend spanked (okay, she used the belt), right up til her son was DRIVING. Then she was shocked he slapped his girlfriend in college.

Answer 2

A Dad spanking his son's bare butt ... it ain't fun, but it can be very effective. Once the kid has learned to "stay in place" for the spanking then, IMO, it should NOT be otk .... getting the belt while bent over the sofa arm or whatever ... As long as it is just dad and son, the belt can sure make an impression that way ... lesson learned without harm or injury. And yes, spankings should be RARE occasions!! [Though sometimes the butt can feel 'well done' after the belt has finished.] If I were to come home late, well beyond 'curfew', without having phoned, I figure belt to bare butt would let me know just HOW worried they had been. And I'd sure remember to be on time or at least to phone in the future!!
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But most spankings can be quite effective even on the seat of the trousers, whether at 5, 10, or 15 years of age.
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The kid needs to feel loved [though it sure don't feel like it when being spanked]. And after the spanking, let the kid know he is still loved and welcome as a member of the family.

And let the kid know the spanking is not because he 'is bad'; just because he did something 'bad'.
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Answer 3

We only spank "pants down". Why? - it just works better. A spanking is NOT to be a joyful experience (they should also be used sparingly), getting one on the bare bottom just adds to it. I'm sure many won't understand, and that's fine - I can just tell you from my childhood, I'd get spanked both ways, and the pants downers always had more impact. I never thought getting a pants downer was more humiliating then being chastised in any other way. UNLESS others are watching, I never thought of ANY spanking I got as humiliating, sure they hurt like (you know what), but humiliating? It's just a spanking - The way most people used to call spankings.

All in all, I know I'm in the minority here, and that's fine. It seems as many more feel like you, and that's GREAT. Who really knows whats best, we just do what works for us.

As to all the questions lately, ya there are some pretty strange folks running around here. If you think those are bad, you should read some of the emails I get.

Answer 4

I believe that spanking is a good tool if used properly and I only believe in spanking with pants down if the child was naked when the spanking action was done.. then spank (just got out of the bath and streaking through the house after being told not to) otherwise I think that it is very abusive to expose your childs bottom even for a spanking ...spanking shouldn't be extremely painful just uncomfortable. so a little padding never hurts

Answer 5

I personally don't believe in spanking past the age of 4 or so, by then I think there should be a better way of reasoning with them. I don't think a bare bottom spanking is okay ever, and the only time I believe spanking to be right is when they do something repeatedly that endangers them or someone else.

Answer 6

There's no need to pull a child's pants down. It's humiliating and the parent could end up hurting the child more than they intended to, because there is less clothing protecting the child's bottom. I'm against the bare bottom spanking because of the potential for the child to be accidentally abused.

Answer 7

well i spank with clothes on and without. although now that my kids are older...11, 15, 16 ....my 15 and 16 yr old doesnt ever really get spanked. has been a long time. there are other punishments or form of discipline, i dont feel they should be spanked for everything they do or else it really doesnt help. but if it doesnt hurt somewhat then it defeats the purpose. trust me. when your 10 yr old says...it doesnt matter because it doesnt hurt anyway when you spank me then you will understand what i mean. my older children are pretty well behaved. of course my 11 yr old has ADHD and we go through alot of different kinds of discipline. usually a good spanking helps better than the rest. you know the difference between a spanking and a beating.

Answer 8

my kids got spanked when they were younger, usually a slap on the hand or back of the leg. Once they got older you can use other discipline, like grounding, banning from games/friends etc. I wouldn't be against spanking a bare bum but you know, once they get to a certain age it actually hurts you more than them so it is not effective. By 4-5 other things would be better, like, not having friends around, no tv, no games, no toys, extra chores.....

Answer 9

The only reason for spanking with pants down is to cause embarrasment and/or pain to the child. If you are spanking to inflict pain/suffering then it is no longer discipline it is abuse. A swat on the butt is different from trying to actually cause the child pain. One is a form of letting your child know that you are serious and getting his attention, the other is simply abuse.

Answer 10

Seems wrong at any age to make someone be bare bottomed spanked. It's making an already bad situation down right degrading for the child.