please, this is a serious issue don't be giving rude answers! just help if you can!
2007-12-28 16:17:51 · 21 answers · asked by whatever............ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You stay out of it. I do not know how you found out, but this is their issue. A person suggested you sit down both your parents and talk to the, I highly disagree. You are not their parents, they are your parents. They will handle it their way and you need to completely stay out of it. Unfortunately, and I know this is harsh, but it's none of your business. Sounds weird, but it's true. I'm sorry you found out and more importantly I'm sorry it's happening.
If you feel you absolutely need to say something, say it to your dad. Let him know privately that you know what he's doing and that you are furious and have no respect for him. None. That it is a shame he chose to be a dishonest and disrespectful father and husband. And leave it at that.
2007-12-28 16:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm pretty sure you're pissed as hell at your father right now. But first you shouldn't let this stress you out YET because this is between your parents & you don't know the truth to it. For example, what if your father probably had a good reason for cheating on your mom? Maybe you never knew how horrible your mother was making him feel? Or were they having problems before the affair started? You have to see BOTH sides to it before getting stressed & pointing fingers at who's at fault. Try to be understanding and then start questioning each one and see what they have to say. Who knows, you could put in a word or two by saying how this is breaking the family and maybe they need to see a marriage counselor or start things over again for the sake of their kids. Well...good luck sweetie, I know this isn't one of the greatest answers or problems to deal with. I hope it turns out okay. =/
2007-12-29 00:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you tell your Mom, she will need proof....that's just how women are. I wouldn't say anything to either of them at this point. I would just plan way's to let my Mom see for herself what is going on. Examples are "Mom, why does Dad stay out so late on Tuesday nights?" "Hey, I accidently opened this cell phone bill...who's number is this that is on here so many times?!?" Or just anything that can make you look innocent, but open your Mom's eyes to what is going on. Good luck and I'm sorry you are having to be in the middle of this bs.
2007-12-29 00:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad straight up! That is no reason to do that in front of you and do it to YOUR mom! Tell your mom and move out with HER. But talk to your dad FOR THE TRUTH!
2007-12-29 14:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very difficult situation. First you need to confront you father about it and tell him that either he can tell your mom or you can. Hopefully he isn't a coward and will confess it to your mother instead of letting you break the news for him. You are in a bad position, but your mother needs to know.
Be strong!
2007-12-29 00:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I sort of knew and I did nothing because I didn't have concrete proof. I decided to stay out of it because I didn't want to choose a side and I was scared- I was still a teenager. Def. tell your mom!!!!! I regret waiting for my mom to find out on her own, because I think she def. went through more pain.
2007-12-29 00:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your dad you know and see what he says about it. Maybe he will stop. I guess you could tell your mom or tell him if he doesn't you will. I don't know that would be tough. But definitely talk to your dad about what you know and how you feel about it.
Good Luck
2007-12-29 00:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by littlemisscontroverse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u have a sibling like an elder sibling if yes well that could possibly help tell him/her and s/he will break the ice,, if no then first make sure if he is cheating and tell your mom
2007-12-29 00:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think your mom have an ideal, if not I would talk to my dad about it and try to get him to stop. If not, I' would tell my mom.
2007-12-29 02:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by lee lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, i'm sure you are devastated being in the middle like this.
i think the best thing for you to do is go to another adult who knows you and your parents, and who you trust and respect for good, sound advice.
we don't know you or your family circumstances, so it's hard to give 'advice' on this.
i don't think it's right or fair for a child to be put into the middle of adult problems. this is between your parents, and has nothing to do with you. Please remember it's not your fault.
2007-12-29 00:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋