Girls & Guys I really need your help?

Question

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Ok I am a thinker and I tend to think alot, so one day I was thinking how my gf acts when she is around her friends, but I didn't want to be direct so I tricked her into giving me the answer. she said "Friends are supposed to be there for each other" ok that was fine with me and then she said some more " It doesn't matter if they hold hands walking down the streets or lay together holding each other" With more things still to be said I am a nice guy and work hard to give my gf what she wants but after telling me that im concered on the things that she might be doing with her freinds. Because we hold hands and lay togther under blankets, and also she's not honest to me when I know she talks about sexual things to this one dude who i had to find out on my own was her ex bf of 2yrs.

So is there anything that you can help me with.

Answer 1

yea slap her one, and tell her that the only bed she should be in is yours

Answer 2

I'm not exactly clear on what the question really is but here's what I think of what you wrote!

First off you're alluding to the possibility that she is being dishonest in some way while you actually state you "tricked" her into giving you an answer on something you asked her because you didn't want to be direct! You never said what that question was or why you think you needed to trick her into the answer. The answer she did give you was one you didn't like and now you're concerned about what she may or may not be doing with her friends.

Next is the ex boyfriend with whom she had a relationship for two years. How does it happen that you KNOW she talks about sexual things with him? So you had to find out "on your own" that he used to be her boyfriend. So what? Is that something you should have known, had been given the opportunity to know or are you just the type that needs to know the historical data of your girlfriends?

You're such a nice guy that you're on this computer asking strangers to give you help on topics you should be talking to your girlfriend about. Perhaps you just need more time to trick her into another set of answers you won't like! Why don't you try being honest with her and asking her about the things you wish to know? Give her a chance to answer you directly. It seems that she did so on the trick question...what would make you believe she'd do anything differently on the next one? I know what you think and wish to ask her. I really feel sorry for her when she answers the questions you have. Either way, she won't be able to win with you! You say you're a thinker...I say you're not! I think you're judgmental, immature and insecure.

Answer 3

Assuming her friends are guys. It doesn't sound too good here. It sounds like you might be acting like too much of a push over. If so girls will sometimes get bored and leave. It sounds like she might have lost interest. Any g/f or b/f is going to have friends from of the opposite sex, but think how you are with your friends opposite sex friends. Do you hold hands, and cuddle under the blanks It seems like she is being kind of shady on more than one occasion. I would think about moving on if i were you. There are a lot of fish in the sea.

Answer 4

Tell the same thing her that you're doing the same with your friends. Waite for her reaction. As you know laying together holding each other is not friendship!! It should be sexual desire. So dont waite, ask her to stop this if she really loves you! But remember friend that you should not remind her the incident in future!!

Answer 5

If they are holding hands and holding each other (opposite sex or not) I'd say there may be more than friendship. If she doesn't own up, find someone who will be honest with you and respect all aspects of a relationship.. One in particular - loyalty.

Answer 6

Friends are allowed to do what she said, but there should always be a distance between friends of different gender. If it bothers you, you should tell her about it and not just let her continue doing it. If she cares enough for you, she would change. I'm serious. There are boundaries between friends of different gender. If you are a trusting bf and knows her ex or guy friends well, nothing should bother you. But if you think something's up, talk to herrrr...It doesn't take ONE PERSON to KEEP A RELATIONSHIP GOING

Answer 7

In her mind, she has just confessed that she is fooling around with other guys, and since you know about it now, it will be okay for her to do whatever she wants. You know about it already, right?
Put your foot down. Let her know how she has made you feel by giving herself the permission to mess around with other guys, and ask her how she felt if she learned that you were doing these same things with girls.
If she wouldn't have a problem with it, maybe you two need to stop dating, exclusively at least.

Answer 8

I'd strongly suggest having a personal talk with your lady and be open with one and other. Tell her you don't want to hurt her and that in effect you don't want to be hurt by finding out that she is cheating on you. In effect, talk with her what she wants in your relationship and if she still wants it how to make it better for her because you feel uncomfortable having your gf talk about that kind of thing to her ex. Trust is also an issue in this.

Answer 9

speak to her as why she's lying to you,try to figure out the reasons behind sometimes girls do behave in such a way when they find others more interesting than you maybe it's cause you are acting in a weird and aggressive way ......so is there any changes in you towards her now days try to figure that out ..........there are many up-down in love ..........it's not only abt kissing,hugging,and dancing together .........sometimes you need to do something and even after trying hard on her she is not being good to you then dump her as she's worth for nothing.............so go ahead

Answer 10

I have 2 best friends we hug when we see each other and we tell each other we love each other when we get off the phone and we have held each other but that was at funerals of our loved ones......not just because. i look at my best friends as sisters and love them dearly. i can say we have never laid in bed holding each other....we have past out together but not holding each other. tell her you feel uncomfortable about this but you understand the friendship thing just not the holding thing.

Answer 11

hmmm she gave you a real shifty answers...she doesn't seem like she's really committed if she talks like that to her ex...I would sit down and talk with her again ( especially about the ex thing) and see if her opinions change... she needs to remember what might define certain actions to her are seen differently to the eyes of others..and most importantly to you... maybe you could flip the tables and ask her how she would feel if you acted like that with one of your female friends....she probably wouldn't like it one bit...sometimes people need to be shown a mirror ( in the theoretical sense).