Thank you all so much for your answers. I prayed with her and talked to her again and she admitted she made it up because she was mad at him. She is in some sort of counceling and own Abilify,Trazodone ,lamical and Concerta.She lives a 150 miles away and is staying with us through the holidays for one more week. My daughter and I became astranged for almost 5 years. My granddaughter stayed with us the first 4 years of her life. After she moved 1500 miles away ,something happened.My daughter called and said they put her in a mental hospital.I started asking questions and our relationship fell apart. I believe my grandaughter was abused or raped then by someone my daughter left her with.Now I,m afraid for her to remain in my home since she will be with her grandfather alone. I,m not worried about him. Should I share with him and the mother and send her home? She doesn,t want to go. I just don,t know which direction to go. I love her so much and don,t want to do further damage.
2007-12-28 16:11:41 · 4 answers · asked by justMe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My advice would be to let the grandfather and mother know, and do not leave the grandfather alone with the girl. In this situation, he is guilty if accused, whether the charge is true or not. Continue mental/psychological counseling for the granddaughter.
2007-12-28 16:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Cecil n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you should definitely tell him and the mother. You will have to figure out a way for the granddaughter and grandfather not to be alone together so that there can be no more accusations made.
I am so sorry that your granddaughter is going through these mental problems, I hope she gets the help she needs.
she might possibly need a second opinion and medication change as well as a different therapist.
where is the child's father? Does she have a good relationship with him? It is important for her to have positive male and female figures in her life. Also I don't know the mothers schedule (I know many of us parents including myself have very busy schedules) but the child might possibly need some extra attention and a day set aside for mother daughter stuff all day long. Also maybe the family should go to counseling with the daughter.
Good Luck and again I am so sorry that you all have to go through this.
2007-12-28 16:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by littlemisscontroverse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband right away. I would expect him to be angry but he'll be angrier if you have to bail him out of jail if he's arrested for child molesting. Call her mother and tell her what happened and ask her mother what she wants to do. Like it or not, this is not your child and its her mom's responsibility to get care for her. I'm sorry your granddaughter is so damaged, that's a boatload of med's to be on and simply be 10years old.
2007-12-28 16:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry i got confuseddd =S
2007-12-28 16:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by cursed_cutiepi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋