after another. I know the problem stems from his homelife. His Mom is my niece, so he is actually my "great nephew". He comes from a broken home and even before they divorced, the kids were allowed to run wild. I have tried so many times to let him come over here to play with my 6 year old son, but he stresses me out so bad I am afraid that this might be the last time. He lives with my sister now (his Nana), so I know he is being cared for, even though it isn't the picture perfect home life with Mom and Dad at home. So far today, he wouldn't listen to me at the store so I had to have him walk with his hand in my pocket so I knew he was with me the whole time. In the check out line, I had to go 2 lanes over to get me a drink and I left him and my son there and when I came back, 30 seconds later, he was ripping stickers out of a sticker book where they have the last minute "gotta have" items. I paid for the book with all the stuff and left. When we were in the car I tried
2007-12-28 16:06:43 · 6 answers · asked by Corona 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talking to him about how he knows better than to act like this and that he is 7 now and this type of behavior isn’t right. I guess I was boring him with my conversation because he started pushing a button on a talking bee in the back seat. I thought, maybe things will be better once we got home and they could run around and play. They wanted to play with this certain toy you lay flat on the ground and put these Frisbee type discs on and they fly up in the air. He kept picking up the toy and aiming it and I told him that the toy needed to be laid flat or he wouldn’t be allowed to play with it. Next thing I know my son comes in crying because he aimed it into the sewer drain that goes from my driveway to my neighbors. It rained yesterday so I was down on my knees in the water with a rake digging for that Frisbee piece. I got it and I put him in time out for not listening. After that he said he wanted to draw a picture so I gave him some markers and some paper and him and my son
2007-12-28 16:07:42 · update #1
went in the bedroom. Here comes my son crying because my nephew wrote on his shirt a huge line on his back. I had all I could take for the day so I put him to bed. I know this is long, and I apologize. Here is the question. I love my nephew, and I don’t want to give up on him, but I also don’t want to be so stressed out around him. Should I just stop letting him come over? My niece is pregnant and I had already told her he could stay here while she has the baby and recovers from a planned c-section. I have no idea how I am going to survive that. I don’t know what to do. Please, give me some advice on how to either deal with this.
2007-12-28 16:08:03 · update #2
or stop letting him visit. Sorry so long ya'll.
2007-12-28 16:08:31 · update #3
the child needs professional help, and i hope someone gains the sense to get him some.
he's had a rough time seeing how his mom and father have obviously ABANDONED him. consider this -- how would you have felt at 7 years old if you were abandoned by your mom and/or dad and left to live with a grandmother? Probably not so great.
please suggest to his guardian a visit to the pediatrician for some help or a referral.
2007-12-28 16:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep putting yourself into positions that you don't want to be in. Your niece has one child that she isn't parenting and you are supporting her bad behavior by letting her stay with you, when you know its going to disrupt your home? She has a mother, she needs to be taking care of the daughter she didn't train well enough to be a mother.
Your nephew is acting like most other 7yr olds, and you need to learn to be consistent with your discipline. When a child acts up in a store, you take them out, take them home right then, right now. And you tell them why. Take him right back to his grandmother and tell him when he can behave in public, you will try it again. When he drew on the shirt, you should have had him wash it. He's not too young as long as you show him what to do and don't leave him alone with it. Why were you digging the toy out of the drain? He should have been doing that, again with complete supervision. You shouldn't have paid for the book without him having to work the cost off.
Ignoring his behavior isn't doing him any good and apparently no one else cares enough about this little boy to make sure he's not a monster.
2007-12-28 16:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have two trains of thought on this one, firstly, I wouldn't have been on my knees fishing out his frisbee. I would have said "well, thats your bad luck for throwing it in the drain" and when he drew on your sons shirt, I would have taken the markers off him and put them high up in the cupboard. My son who's 5 has ADHD so I have to be really strict with him and even though I can feel really evil sometimes, I know its the best because he needs really strong boundarys otherwise he is just impossible. One day in the car he was poking me in the back of my neck with a pencil and I told him to stop several times and he didn't so I grabbed it and threw it out the window. He cried at first but now if he pokes me with something, I say to him "do you want me to throw this away" and he usually stops. And he used to blow bubbles in his drinks and it would spill over and one day I said to him, Do that again and I'll throw your drink away. He blew bubbles again and I threw his drink away and of course he was upset but he never did it again.
If your nephew has a problem like ADD or ADHD, that could explain some things, otherwise, he probably needs discipline because he probably never got it from his parents. Some kids need to be treated how they were in the past, kids were seen but not heard, spare the rod and spoil the child. I'm not saying you should smack or beat him with something, you just have to be extra strict and lay down the law and give him one chance and then either the toy goes in the top of the cupboard or you throw his cookie away or throw his dinner away and no dessert if he doesn't finish his dinner or swings on his chair or eats with his hands.
Hope this helps somewhat.
2007-12-28 16:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he does not want fries from Hooters and does not must move within there both. inform him both McDonald's or no fries in any respect be company he's a baby for those who supply in now he's going to assume his manner the leisure of his existence
2016-09-05 10:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by caspersen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! sounds like you have a major case of O.D.D. (oppositional defiance disorder) going on Mixed in with a bit of ADHD or possibly Bi-polar disorder... I would have whoever his gaurdian is get him to a pyschiatrist Quickly!!! before he seriously hurts someone...
2007-12-28 16:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by dylansmom25 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry Corona, I believe in one good spank and he will know you mean business.
And I don't care how many of you out there don't believe in it. Never hurt me or my twins.
Children need to know who is the boss!
2007-12-28 17:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by jalady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋