How do I handle with guys that hit on my girlfriend?

Question

I've been dating my girlfriend for almost two years now. We have lived together for nearly a year. There's no problems in our relationship, but there's something that's just perplexing my mind. Many times when we go out, there's always several nagging guys that go up to her and try to flirt.

The thing is, I don't have a freakin' clue how to handle this. Should I be aggressive and ward them off? Or should I just pull her away? Every time it happens, she doesn't say anything to me about it afterwards -- and I know it aggravates her -- and I don't say anything to her either (I don't know what to say).

So, in hindsight, and prospectively, what the heck should I do when put in these situations?

Thanks

cantbeme_2000, it's not her behavior that's causing anything. It's just that when we go out for the night to a restaurant, or anywhere else for that matter, there's always someone that wants to flirt with her. Has nothing to do with the way she dresses or her attitude at all.

Answer 1

I've always hated guys coming up to me when I'm out. In the end, I just ignored them as even smiling to some guys makes them think they're winning. You obviously have a beautiful girlfriend, and you're obviously committed.
My tip, don't get violent, that will reflect badly on you, not them. She is the one who needs to put them in their place, and then the both of you can go on with the rest of the night like it didn't happen.

Answer 2

First things first kudos on keeping your relationship together. I'm a girl and if I were in ur girlfriend's shoes, I wldn't want you to be aggressive so as not to cause a scene...and then being aggressive will only portray u as a guy who is insecure about losing his girl which u ain't.
Simple walk up to her and mark your territory by a slight peck or kiss on the lips or her ears even and do it wiv a firm smile, actions speak louder than words.
Also, u dnt have to ward them off all the time. Lay back and let her handle it. Cos if u keeping stepping in everytime u might mke her feel like u r being too protective. Give her room to handle them....and even walk away from the guy and up to you.
Dnt let it get to u soo much focus on each other and ignore the guys they just wish they were u.

Goodluck!!!

Answer 3

YOu two talk and let her know it is polite for her to let her know THIS is my boyfriend and for them to have a nice night. If they dont get the hint then you politely ask them to have a good night and leave you two alone. If they persist then it may become a situation where you have to bite as they call it but you let her try and be polite first, then you and then you may have to let them know you are serious. But never take it out on her. If you want someone that doesnt get hit on date an ugly chick. Never be mad you are dating someone hot!!!!

Answer 4

when a guy is hitting on her just walk up to him, smile and introduce yourself. put your arm around her or kiss her on the cheek or something like that. when guys hit on me when i am out i ask them if they would like to come meet my husband, they usually chat for a minute more and then leave me alone for the rest of the night. if they don't take my nice hint then i get rude. most guys will take the hint to leave her alone if you walk up and introduce yourself and touch her in a semi intimate way, if they don't then just walk away with your girlfriend. if you handle the situation tactfully you can scare the losers off with out looking like a possessive jerk. good luck, i hope this works for you.

Answer 5

I would try to embarass the guys who hit on her. If you embarrass them, then of course they'll turn red and back off. Just be like, "Uh, hello, this is my girlfriend. Have a nice life." :)))
and try talking to your gf about it. tell her that it makes you uncomfortable and you know she feels the same way and it's not her fault. ask her what she would do if girls hit on you. like what she would say or how she would act. she might have some good adive.
communicate.
:)))
lolz
yeah.
that's about it.
signing off now.

Answer 6

your girl needs to somehow show these guys that she's already with someone. Sounds like there’s something that draws guys to her, and clearly it's not obvious that she's with her boyfriend. Sounds like she needs to change her behavior or the way she comes across. If it been two years for you guys then you shouldn’t be afraid to be open about how you feel to her.

Answer 7

first of all..your awsome for not acting like a big dumb phuck..you should be proud to have a hott chick..shes yours! as long as you have full trust in your girl then whatever let em flirt dude seriously..but if i were you i would mention to her something like.. thats right they can flirt all they want..you are my baby..
saying that will not show jealousy at all and you will also show her that you ARE actually acknowledging the fact that there are dudes flirting with her in your face and she will se that your not one of those jealous a**wipes

Answer 8

Be proud guys are hitting on her maybe shes beautiful take it as a complement ...and tell her she must be beautiful for that to happen all the time..just smile and take her away ....she is yours

Answer 9

I think how you are reacting is the result of how your girlfriend is responding to the advances. I think she is testing you and that's what's making you crazy. It's time you had a talk with her about her behavior.

Answer 10

shes YOUR girl . she'll not get lost in the crowd . just as long as you trust her and believe in her . you have to be a rEAL boyfriend . and i mean cmon! ......you have to BE REAL , if you love here than you wouldnt care if other boys flirt with her . BECAUSE YOU KNOW THERES NVR A TOMROW WITH OUT HER AND THAT YOU TRUST HER AND LOVE HER VERY MUCH .........IF YOU WANNA BE AGRESSIVE AND ALL ...........YOU MIGHT LOOSE THE ONE AND ONLY GIRL YOU LOVE....SO BE SMART.....AND THINK RIGHT....DO YOU LOVE HER? OKAY LET PEOPLE FLIRT WITH HER....SHE LOVES YOU....LIKE IF SHE'LL LEAVE YOU.....MAYB BECAUSE YOUR GF IS JUST HOTT.YA KNOW.AND SHES LUCKY T0 HAVE A MAN LIKE YOU..