Tonight I went out with some friends. All we did was play video games and eat some food. When I came home tonight my Mom accused me of drinking. She has been complaining to me the whole night saying that I am too young to be drinking. That very fact makes me really mad right now. For one I did not drink anything and also I do not even know what would cause her to accuse me of drinking. I am really starting to get tired of them saying stuff like this to me. I have tried to be respectable to them in every way that I can and even come back at decent times. I am 19 years old and I think that it is time for them to trust me more. My parents have it in there head that I am wild. What should I do?
2007-12-28 16:02:06 · 11 answers · asked by ~~dodgers~~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Is there any reason they treat you this way like have you given them reason to doubt you or not trust you?
It might also have to do with who you hang around with, are your friends wild and do they drink?
Sadly parents (not all) but some look at their children in a sort of your guilty till you prove otherwise. Some parents are way overprotective. While others do this sort of fishing for the truth by acting like they know you did something wrong (hence the accusations) another thing parents are guilty of is thinking their children are as badly behaved as they were when they were young. So your mom may have been a wild party animal or she might have drank a lot whilst hiding this fact from her parents.
Try communicating your feelings in a very calm and respectful way. Try your very best to remain calm and respectful and make sure you get your point across. Let them know what their lack of trust makes you feel and what you would like from them. On that same note ask them what it is that you could do to help them be more at ease. Remind them how good you have been about the rules and respect of the house. Also remind them of the values that they have taught you and how you are following those excellent morals they have instilled.
If for any reason you have made mistakes and your parents try throwing them in your face or using your mistakes against you ask them respectfully and calmly how they would feel if their boss or another individual held every mistake over their head or if every time your parents turned the corner their boss or someone they respect was doubting them or accusing them of wrong doing.
You have to make your parents walk in your shoes somehow even if for a moment so they can realize the damage they are causing to you and to your relationship with them.
I am not saying that your parents fall under any of these "parent ways" nor am I saying that what they are doing is for these reasons I am merely trying to help you figure out why your parents are doing what they are doing...I hope I have helped a little.
2007-12-28 16:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, some parents can be really overprotective and that sucks sometimes. Maybe, you have given them a reason to believe that you are wild. So, maybe you should try and prove to them that you are not wild. Plus, if they keep doing that, maybe you should move out, cause all that fuss, can cause a lot of head aches!
2007-12-29 00:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could support yourself and move out. Otherwise, be an adult and explain to them how you feel about drinking. Tell them what you are doing right with your life and ask them why they don't trust you. If your culture is different, maybe of Asian heredity, they may find your behavior out of line. Just keep doing what you are doing and eventually it'll pass.
2007-12-29 00:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The legal age for drinking in Australia is 18. My 19 year old son drinks all my beer now. tell your mum Icy Gazpacho said things could be worse.
2007-12-29 00:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your flaking off in some way, and they are starting to resent a lack of responsibility on your part.
Parents just don't start going off for NO reason...how is your attitude towards them?
2007-12-29 00:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe it is something your parents did when they were your age and now they suspect you are doing the same thing. Just be "the better person" and don't do it and eventually they will believe you. Just don't lose their trust.
2007-12-29 00:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by no name 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...you're nineteen so i would think you would be out of the house...for instance, COLLEGE. maybe they would take you more seriously and consider you an adult if you took the initiative and got a job or made an investment in a home of your own...video games are kinda for kids
2007-12-29 00:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. Find a job, make your own way...and earn the respect that you so richly deserve!
2007-12-29 00:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by Chaz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that u arent drinking, that u arent like the others who drink like theres no tommorow and tell them they should be trusting u more and trusting that u arent doing rebel stuff
2007-12-29 00:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like it move out. Get your own place and grow up.
2007-12-29 00:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by Spring M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋