people say time is the cure for getting over heartbreak...which is true but its so hard when you through you were going to be with that person forever! he told me he wanted to marry me and i seem to not be getting over it any time soon! its been like 3 months and it hurts still just the same as day one..i mean i cope with it better when i see him with the 'new girl' but i still cant get passed seeing life without him forever. i keep thinking he will come back one day...even though i know he might not...what shall i do in this time? ugh
2007-12-28 15:59:15 · 18 answers · asked by kamdgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was also broken hearted. Even when I met the guy I would marry I still had a little bit of my heart aching for him.
One day my mom ask me if he came back around would I leave the guy I was dating? I was so shocked at the question I realized I was finally over him.
Life goes on, sometimes very slowly.
Keep going forward your guy is out there. So rinse those tears off your face and smile. Your new guy might be looking at you right now.
2007-12-28 16:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ♥ C.J. ♥ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself dressed up, doll yourself up, and go out. Not with the intention of meeting another guy mind you - that would be a bad idea right now. What I'm talking about is getting out of the house, enjoying life, and figuring out who you are now. There is life beyond men. You relied on him too much for your own happiness. Go discover what else is enjoyable and wonderful in life. As for him - he's missing out. You can take this and make it into an opportunity to live for you, without the strings. Travel, try new things. Get off your butt, get out of those sweats, and put down that gallon of ice cream. Use this time to be all about you!
Time, and a positive outlook will heal your pain. I know it's not easy, but there is more to life than him.
Best Wishes,
~J.M.
2007-12-29 00:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by lightninbug76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im kind of going threw the same thing, my first love said he was going to marry me , I was suppsed to be married right now actually, and well that didnt work out. Im 19, and I have lived the life of a 50 year old to be honest I have tried to make myself a nice life , and I tried to put me and him back together I left him a message on hes phone saying how I feel, even after everything he said such horrible thing's to me. But I guess you really cant help who you love huh?
If I could help it then I wouldnt have fell in love with him.
I still remain crazy for him, and will love him for the rest of my life. But the way I look at it is , I cant make him feel the same for me. My answer would be , you really cant get over any kind of love, you just got to kind of live with it , as hard as it may seem. but hey when you turn 70 one day...you will look back at this and laugh .. :-p
2007-12-30 01:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You learn from every relationship, so you should be happy that you felt that love at least. Just try not too think too much about him because the more you think, the more you'll miss him. You should try to go out and have some fun. Don't you have any friends that can help comfort you or go out and eat with? It would be great to act like you're single again! =)
2007-12-29 00:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is not the only cure for a past love. Another love is a better cure. Give yourself another chance.
2007-12-29 00:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by MoreOfMe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am also suffring from same problem as you so i suggest that you should be busy in new things where you feel some relax and never feel upset do something new like reading, listning music you will forget that guy soon and marry where your parents want..........
2007-12-29 06:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mukesh V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody really forgets their first love.
But in due course of time, people find better persons and move forward. Never wait for the prodigal lover to return.
2007-12-29 00:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by Seby M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself! TIME! I know it must suck to hear that over and over. But BELIEVE me, it will be better. Try to talk to other guys, helps you get him out of your head. You don't necessarily have to "hook up" with them, just go out more you know. Socialize. Good luck though, I'm sorta going through the same thing, good luck!
2007-12-29 00:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was your first bf and he said you were gonna get married, then that's really intense. I would say try to stop thinking about it and enjoy life. if you stay cooped up in your house/apartment/condo etc you will drown in your own misery. go do fun stuff with your friends!
2007-12-29 00:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by snowflake216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never will get over it but over time it will become easier.
The love of my life left me only to go back to his ex-girlfriend. He was my first love.
2007-12-29 00:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋