What is a woman supposed to do if?

Question

her husband is only interested in one thing? Whether she is willing or not? If he acts like an animal clawing at a piece if meat?
(Serious answers plz)

PS
Please don't misunderstand, I'm not asking this question becuz I'm in such a situation, I am just asking to gain more knowledge about this topic.

wht is diz - I'm not sleepy enough to go to bed yet even though it's 05:53am here!

Philomela - lol I totally agree with you!

Answer 1

A woman is there to satisfy her desires as well as of her husband's .. but it doesn't mean that a husband always have the authority to get his desires fulfilled anytime. This is why it is very important for the couple to have Respect for eachother, understanding,friendship and care. He should be able to understand the Yes or No of his wife. If sometimes she is not willing to have it, then he should understand that by taking a promise from her that she will do it the next day or in a couple of days and a wife then should understand this and prepare herself for it.

A man should not abuse his authority. He should handle it with care and love. not just get started whenever he desires. takecare of his wife too, and behave like a good husband.

Wife should remember that she should take care of her husband's wants, desires and needs. but if a husband is interested in one thing only, then she should sit and discuss it with her husband. make him understand what she thinks, make him realize the right women have got.
It forbids the man to be unjust to her, or to transgress her rights, and urges her husband to be kind and generous to her.

Allaah says (interpretation of meaning): {And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable...}[2:228].

Allaah also says (interpretation of meaning): {And live with them (your wives) honorably.}[4:19].

Besides, the Prophet (p.b.u.h) said: "Indeed Allaah instructs you to be good to your women; they are your mothers, daughters and aunts."
A woman in Islam is therefore a protected jewel, not an exposed one, honored not humiliated, and is precious and not a cheap product.~!

Answer 2

You've gotten lots of great answers and advise needing your attention. In addition, after talking to him, having some of your closest friends whom you trust to make unbiased judgment talk to both of you, seeking counseling and doing all you can in order to save this relationship, if nothing seems to help and you truly feel that you have given it all your best, the next thing is to seek a way out. You and all of humankind deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. You can only love others as much as you love yourself. If he loves and respects you, he'll treat you like a human being, not like an animal. His input into your life as a person worthy of respect will determine the type of output he gets in return. It is the law of supply and demand.

Remember also that you cannot change him, you can only change yourself. Only the Power of God has the capacity to change anyone. That said, the person also has to be willing to change.

Be safe. All the best.

Answer 3

The first thing that comes to mind is that it would appear communication has broken down between the couple.
Where is the love and respect if he as you say "claws at her like a piece of meat".I personally could not and would not tolerate it, if my marriage got to that point.
But it must be acknowledged that this does not happen overnight but by a slow disintegration in the level of communication.
The Qu'ran says a woman must be obedient to her husbands needs, but he also has a duty to treat her with respect.
If this is the situation then I can only see resentment building up in both of them and this will put enormous stress on the marriage.
It may even get to a point where the marriage is considered by one or both parties to be irredeemable if this is not addressed and attended to.
Hopefully through communication the woman's needs and feelings will be better understood and respected by her husband and vise verso ISA
It may be that professional assistance and advise from a marriage counsellor is in order.

Answer 4

As salaamu 'alaikym.

the husband seem to be abusing his authority and postion by not truly caring for his wife with love, respect, kindness and compassion nor is he treating her as an equal in the relationship.

He seems to have forgotten the lived example of the Prophet Muhammad (salaahu 'alaihi wasalaam).

I don't actually konw what the woman's rights in such a situation may be however, I would advise her to pray to Allah, Subhanna wa Ta'ala, that he husband be rightly guided to live as a Muslim husband should live and to treat his wife as a Musims husband should.

Ma'a salaam.

Answer 5

Salam

If a man is like this he has low soul levels for sure! No women on this earth should be forced into anything.

I never met a women that did anything wrong that she didn't learn from a man first.

Answer 6

if my husband was like that, i would be mad, and i would question the reason why he married me. first i would talk to him about it. then if he doesnt stop i will get someone involved like am imam to talk to him. and if he doesnt stop, then i could possibly divorce him. if a man is going after his wife like that, its not islamic, he should not approch her in such a manner. i am not a piece of meat and i refuse to be treated like such.

Answer 7

If he is only interested in one thing, most likely he does not even care about her, they should sit down and talk about it, if he still acts like he only wants one thing, and doesn't care about her, he should get lost, in my opinion.

I suppose marriage counseling would help, but that's kinda rare that it helps, or that the guy even agrees to do it.

Uniqu3 summed it up nicely :P.

Answer 8

The truth is that, in the Quran, that is ok. In the translations, a word is translated as marriage but in the actual Arabic text it means literally penetration as in sex. According to the Quran, that is what women are for.

Answer 9

it is very easy to say get rid of him as it is very hard to do but men likr this :if you sit down and tlk to them they dont understand they not willing to listen they do not care about your emotions or feelings or change they just asumme that you as the woman must be going elsewhere if she is not interested.it causes arguments as this is his weakness and to question him about it they get angry and take their insecurity out on you as the woman .

it is very difficult all i can asy is that pray to allah to make your situation better and that make his heart soft and understanding to the situation


otherwise in time ask allah to get you aout of this situation he does listen it just takes time and sabr lots of patience is required

Answer 10

i think tyler got this questions answer perfectly
so a thumbs up for him
peace