2007-12-28 15:17:42 · 11 answers · asked by someguy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Don't worry Silvatic im atheist too.
2007-12-28 15:32:42 · update #1
You may end up being surprised. If they are against homosexuality, they will be angry for some time. Eventually, they will accept it and maybe even try to understand you. The main thing you need to remember is your sexuality is not your identity, you are still the same person. So whatever you do, do not identify yourself solely on your sexuality. Like the above person stated, have a strong support system in place. Most parents, even if they had trouble accepting this, would eventually realize that they are letting something so small get in the way of the love they have for their child. If I was gay, and told my dad, he would disown me for a time. My best friend is a lesbian and she was shunned for a couple of years by her parents...they finally realized it wasn't worth it and moved on.
2007-12-28 15:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come out about being an atheist? (Because you are making such a question in R&S I think so)
Well, if your parents are very religious people and your community is too committed to go to Church, it would be a problem. You'll find not only the opposition and rejection from your parents and family, but from friends and other members from your community.
If that is your real question, I suggest you try to check how they all feel about atheism first. Don't be so open at the beginning, because you'll suffer without any need.
Being an atheist in this society is very hard. Some people see atheist as they are all evil. Or that they have no moral at all. They try to "cure" you and convince you or you'll be rejected from many places.
The good news is that once you become an adult you can embrace whatever you think and feel is right and that you'll find a huge community of people that think like you and make questions.
Meanwhile, read and inform yourself. Don't try to convince anyone, communicate with others that feel like you, ask more questions, grow and mature.
When you can show your parents that you care about the world, about people, about many things, just think and feel different, maybe with more commitment towards this world and the people and other species in it, they may accept you...and will see that it is no sin to be atheist, is just another way (a more mature, I think) way to see the world.
Be brave, because it is a long and hard way that you are going to take...but also full of wonders and a new concept of what love, acceptance and forgiveness is.
2007-12-28 23:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by SilviaTic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very carefully.
Contact PFFLAG for some advice and literature to give to your parents. They've got some great literature.
If you have a support system lined up, let them know that you're going to talk to your parents (or one parent at a time). Be ready for any reaction from wanting to kidnap you and get you cured to total acceptance. It's usually somewhere inbetween.
Good luck and hang in there. And ignore anyone telling you that you're damned if you don't change.
Added: You might ask this in the Gay and Lesbian section too.
2007-12-28 23:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Aravah 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There just comes a point in time where you must live an authentic life, and if people don't accept you for it, you have to live with that.
If you know you are gay and have been hiding it for your parents' sake, that means you haven't been living your life fully -- I really believe that eventually they will come to accept you as you were made, after all you are their child. That's a strong bond and in most cases it would take more than a kid being gay to break that bond.
2007-12-28 23:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that is important is that you are a child of the universe and that makes you OK. Just start loving you and everyone else and don't worry what others think.
2007-12-28 23:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by nikola333 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to honor your father and mother. If you have respect for them, they will have respect for you.
Like your parents, I would urge you NOT to "come out". I could list 100 reasons, but the fact that they will be destroyed by your PRIDE is reason enough.
The Word of God says, in Proverbs "Pride goeth before a fall"!
You need a little pride to fight off low self esteme, but too much pride (or too much of almost any thing) is poison!!!
2007-12-28 23:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know everyone wants to be accepted for who they are but there are many things we don't discuss with parents. You know them best and it is your decision. You also have a right to privacy.
2007-12-28 23:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by bountifiles 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
aww ((you))
I hope you have a strong support system somewhere outside of your parents? Friends/BF?
I guess tell them, let them be angry, but tell them that they will have to get over it- and if they love you i hope they will.
2007-12-28 23:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
come out? of the closet? well if that is your question you will just have to take it one day at a time........
2007-12-28 23:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what are you gonna do, just lie about it or be a good child and be honest? Up to you, if they love you they will accept you and send you to therapy. Then you can please them and go to therapy and still make up your own mind for your life decisions.
2007-12-28 23:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋