If you are choosing to put on a party, the ppl you invite are your guests. Why should they be asked to pay?
2007-12-28 14:52:30 · 18 answers · asked by pete the pirate 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
They shouldn't have to pay if they've been invited, but hey, some people have different ideas about this. I personally think it's very bad manners.
2007-12-29 08:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is beyond bad manners. It's beneath contempt, and if you spend more than 1/2 minute worrying about it you've wasted valuable time.
Don't accept the "invitation" and if the birthday boy is a close friend of yours, you might want to discuss the fact that anybody who receives the invite will be grossed out.
Some people (not me) accept this sort of gimme-party when it's coming from a bride or new homeowner, but nobody tolerates it for a 40th Bday!
2007-12-28 23:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by noname 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be in very poor taste in my opinion. A person invited to a birthday party should be a guest and not expected to pay for their dinner. I have heard of birthday party's being hosted at a restaurant and the meal was free but the guests were asked to pay for their own drinks if they wanted something alcoholic. I thought this was fine..but to be expected to kick in twenty bucks and to bring a gift, is just too much and inappropriate.
2007-12-28 23:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you having a keg or a ton of alcohol and you know people won't bring their own, I don't see a problem in asking for a few a bucks to help pay for it- no matter what the party is for. I've thrown to many parties and provided the alcohol and thought people might bring some to share with everyone else, but very few did. In the end, you paid for people to drink. Now if no alcohol is involved, then just get your food/goodies/whatever else yourself. Be a generous host and provide all the food.
2007-12-29 01:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by RJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask $20 per head. But use the full money for Charity or donate it to an orphan or orphanage. Before asking tell everyone that you are going to use the money for this purpose. You will seen by your friends like a Bill Gates. I am sure this will be your BEST birthday ever. Need not mention that others will follow you and you will become a good leader.
2007-12-28 23:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Common Man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've only heard of people charging money to attend a kegger or another party like that. However, birthday parties are different. If you decide to throw a party, it's your responsibility to cover costs. It's really tacky to ask people to pay money, especially $20. It sounds like they are trying to MAKE money, not just cover costs. Bad form.
2007-12-28 23:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is rude to throw a party for yourself in general, but then to charge $20 a person on top of it?! That is outrageous. Maybe we shouldn't be throwing parties at all if we can't cover the expense of throwing said shin dig. I would give them a subtle piece of my mind.
2007-12-28 23:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by regina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 40 year old asking for money to pay for their party is very tacky. At this point in one's life if they cannot afford a party, they shouldn't have one.
2007-12-28 23:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR RIGHT...WHEN PEOPLE ARE INVITED, NEVER PAY GO TO THE A PARTY..THAT THEY ARE INVITED TO..
RUDE???? RUDE????
WHAT WERE THEY STUPID???? RUDE...
THAT IS BEYOND RUDE...
WOULD YOU GO TO A PARTY GIVEN BY SOMEONE, FOR THEMSELVES... AND TOLD YOU HAVE TO PAY TO GO TO A PARTY THAT YOU WERE INVITED TO???!!!!
WHY DON'T THEY GO ONE STEP FARTHER?? GET MARRIED, AND INVITE A 100 PEOPLE, THEN CHARGE THEM $100.00 PER HEAD..????
DAAAAAAA
AGAIN...
DAAAAAAAAAAAA
HELLO?!!!!!!!!!!
DIDN'T SOMEONE YOU KNOW TAKE A COURSE IN
STUPIDITY 101..
NOW IF ONE IS LETS SAY AS AN EXAMPLE SAVE MONEY FOR BREAST IMPLANTS AND EVERYONE KNOW IT... AND SHE STARTS TO GIVE PARTY'S ASKING FOR A DONATION TO THE CAUSE.. THAT'S OKAY... EVERYONE KNOWS ABOUT. IT....
BUT, IF SOMEONE INVITED YOU TO A PARTY AND THEN TOLD YOU IT WOULD COST $20.00, THAT'S NOT A WELL MANNERED PERSON..
SILVERWOLWON
2007-12-28 23:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by SILVERWOLFWON AKA MOM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's rude, unless you have an amusement park it your backyard. 20 dollars is a lot. Is the person expecting a present too?
2007-12-28 22:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by xoxo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋