Yes, getting scolded at can make children very emotional. They can even get sick and tired of getting yelled at, and sick and tired of either parent / guardian getting angry with them. Even when I was a kid, if either parent got mad or scolded me I would yell back at that parent and get mad at him / her back. I would even get emotional as well sometimes.
Does your child either get emotional (Cry) to get you to change your feelings toward you and apologize and to get you to understand that he / she isn't appreciated by your anger? Or does your child get mad at you back and yell at you to get you to understand that he / she resents your anger towards them and doesn't appreciate it at all?
When Dorothy smacks the Cowardly Lion's hand and scolds him for chasing Toto, he cries.
Are these issues your child has in life? If you're a parent with children with emotional problems, behaviors, or whatever, post a response and tell me what you know. Simple answers will not be rated.
2007-12-28 14:40:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My child does this but she does have extenuating circumstances for it. her father is extremely abusive towards me - she witnesses and hears that abuse. Do I allow her to get away with it? Nope - we have rules and they are always the same, discipline is always the same. She knows if she does a then b happens. If she then does c then d will happen. Thankfully we have not gone to x, y or z yet :-)
Consistency is the key. Even though they might be angry and yell back, children crave stability and rules. Anarchy is a child's worst enemy.
2007-12-28 14:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 children a boy and a girl. One has autism (the girl). I find that my son is more apt to be the one who gets the smart alec attitude when he is scolded. My daughter usually will straighten right up and then sometimes she gets really upset to a point where she can't calm herself down. It takes a while for her to do that but she has an underdeveloped nervous system and she is mentally about half her age so I guess kids just go through phases and I'm sure it will pass. If you are really worried about the emotional or psychological condition of your child, I would take them to a psychologist just to make sure there is no underlying developmental or mental problem. It took me a long time to decide to have my daughter checked for autism but i finally did it and now I can deal with her better knowing that she is not like all the other kids and that she never will be. I love her though. She is the sweetest kid you could ever meet.
2007-12-28 14:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone yells at me, i normally do not hear a word they say.. my father spent countless hours, maybe even months or years, YELLING his frigging head off.. i didn't hear him.. it was just a waste of hot air and sound waves meandering from his bellowing lungs out into the universe somewhere....
I never yelled at my parents...
When i became a parent, i yelled at first, because that's what i LEARNED growing up.. soon realized yelling was about as effective as brushing my teeth with dog poop.
When my kids did something wrong, and it was serious enough to warrant "scolding" i asked them to sit at the kitchen table.. meanwhile i took a time out for me, and went outside or into the bathroom to pull my hair out momentarily. then i took a deep breath, and went back into the kitchen to talk with them.
I asked them how they felt about what they did, and sometimes even asked them if they thought they should receive a punishment... sometimes i asked what punishment they thought they should get?
Occasionally, i took their advice on punishment... most of the time, no. Sometimes i figured that the fact they got caught misbehaving was enough punishment... plus having to sit at the kitchen table to 'talk calmly' was usually a fate worse than death for them... believe me, i think they'd rather have had a spanking.
What came out of all of this is that, as adults, my kids and i have FABULOUS communication. The talk to me about their lives, and share with me... it's really nice...
Once my younger son did get a spanking but i didn't give him that spanking.. he was 13 and raised a hand to me.. my husband was there, saw it, grabbed him by the scruff of the neck and politely toted him off to his bedroom and gave him a few good swats... that was the end of that, and my son was so embarrassed.. well, he never did that again.
2007-12-28 18:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My children are quite normal (most of the time lol) anyway, they are both different with their behaviours. The 13 year old girl when she gets in trouble, always has an answer and someone to blame....or brings things up from the past, or brings things up about friends being allowed to, she quite often yells at me and gets emotional "poor me" kinda stuff. My 11 year old son gets angry (silently) but obviously and usually storms off to his room and won't speak to me (which actually hurts more) .... very different personalities
2007-12-28 22:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by kimbathewhitelion02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 05:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my daughter does something that deserves scolding, she is told sternly why it is wrong, along with the scolding. If she is upset ( like crying or yelling) she is told to go some where to calm down, once she is calm we talk rationally about what she did and why I got upset, by the time we are done talking she isnt frusterated anymore and knows that I love her but what she did was not ok. That works for us.
2007-12-28 15:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by mjoy2685 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i have an 11 year old son and we go through that daily. sometimes several times a day. we both get stressed out alot. he is really emotional at times. he can go from good mood to hating himself and life then come back to me and say hes sorry for the way he acted. then 20 minutes later start all over again. he does scream at me most of the time and thats what upsets me the most. i have 2 older kids, 15 and 16, and they wouldnt dare scream at me the way he does! but no matter what i say or do to him the next time he gets angry it happens again. oh yeah i forgot to mention he has ADHD and has been on meds for 4 years now. and it seems like we are back at the start again. i feel like i could pull my hair out most of the time. i have tried almost everything! well theres nothing i can think of that i havent tried. he gets into alot of trouble at school also. me and him both get emotional. i try explainign to him..once i calm down, exactly why i get so upset, and how he is disrespecting me and making me feel when he screrams at me also. he knows what it feels like to be screamed at too. but once he gets mad again its like he doesnt think..he just reacts....
2007-12-28 18:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I get where your coming from when my dad yells at me for coming home past my curfew I yell at him back because in my mind I'm angry at him for not extending my curfew. I'm not a parent I am a 16 year old girl, but I think i know how it feels to get yelled at by a parent. When I get emotional it's because I know Wat I did wrong, but I don't want to get in trouble for it. I don't have emotional problems, or behavior problem's. I just know because I've been through it.
2007-12-28 14:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they didn't get emotional then I didn't do something right. They have to have some emotional response. But yell back at me?? Never! They knew better than to do that, only made their punishment worse.
2007-12-28 14:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by murigenii 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is 2 and acts differently most times he will cry sometimes he gets mad and yells back but crying while yelling he seems to be very sensitive even if someone like say his grandfather will tell him not to do something not even yell or anything just simply not to do something he gets upset
2007-12-28 14:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋