My 17 mo has always gone to bed without a fuss, if you ask her is it bedtime? she nods her head and takes herself off to her room BUT the last 3 days (both day & night seeps) she has cried and cried, last night it was 1 hour 20 mins and just now its nearly an hour. At first I went in there as it was really out of character and she fell asleep instantly when next to me, but Im pretty sure she's now throwing temper tantrums so I have been letting her cry, am I doing the right thing?
2007-12-28 13:53:45 · 8 answers · asked by poshkeri 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Maybe she's had some bad dreams.. you might try a nightlight.
Asking your kids if they want to do something gives them an option, by the way... "it's bedtime" is better than asking your child permission to put her to bed....
I'm sorry you are going through this.. and i sure hope you get some good answers here. If all else fails, talk with her pediatrician. Sometimes they have really great answers, which we might have thought of in the first place... it's happened to me a few times!
take good care.. and give that baby a snuggle from me !
2007-12-28 14:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a phase and can be over a number of things (seperation, fear, attention etc) What I would suggest doing is trying some of these things:
1. Rub her back for a few minutes right after you turn off the lights
2. Reading her a book right before bed in her room. Just a short cardboard book with bright pictures.
3. Getting her a nightlight or some kind of light up mobile
4. Try having music playing in the backround. My boys really liked this as babies and different music worked for each kid. One fell asleep with rock music, the other with kid songs in the backround etc. Maybe tape recording your voice singing/reading.
The last possible thing to do would be to lay in her room. You don't know how long the phase is going to last and having you lay on her floor could become a habit. At her age she can put the puzzle together of: I want mom in the room with me. I cry. Mom comes into the room.
Best Wishes and happy new year =]
2007-12-28 14:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My (at the time 2 3/4) would throw the biggest fit when it was time to go to bed. I would let her cry for hours (by that I mean 2-3) she would just get louder. I eventually would lay on the floor in her room with my head down. That seemed to help her out. And when I would not hear her any longer, I would crawl out. This went on for a couple of weeks but I would keep getting closer to the door as the weeks went on.. Now she goes to bed with no trouble.. I think it was more of a separation thing....
2007-12-28 14:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by mjemler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At about this age they develop an imagination. Dreams seem real, and very scary sometimes. Create a relaxing bedtime routine for your big girl. Read calm peasant stories, cuddle, and play nice music. Give this about 15-20 minutes. Then a tuck in and quick exit.
2007-12-28 14:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Liz H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you ever watched Supernanny, bedtime tantrums is the #one million ingredient she deals with. I propose you pass on her internet site and seem over the thank you to handle it. Her approach is particularly powerful and he or she deals with youngsters lots worse than yours. yet easily, you placed an exact recurring at bedtime which you be certain you persevere with each night. i might propose giving her a chilled tub and interpreting her a mattress time tale. after which you kiss and hug her and say it's time to pass to mattress, and turn off the lights in her room, and you are going to be able to desire to close her mattress room door. and then she'll complaining and freaking out. do no longer pass after her in her room to lecture her. whilst she comes once you (which she positively will) say "it extremely is bedtime now" (that's ALL you assert, no longer something greater) and take her by utilizing her hand, and placed her back in her mattress, and close the door. No dragging her or donning her. If she comes out once you back, *do no longer say something*. You already repeated your training as quickly as. purely take her by utilizing the hand and lead her back to the room. in case you refer to her then she'll think of that's a activity, and by utilizing interacting along with her, you're merchandising her incorrect habit (study: purely like once you spank her, even nonetheless it is not your purpose, you're merchandising her undesirable habit on the grounds which you're interacting along with her whilst she is being ambitious!!!) keep bringing her back to mattress each time she gets up, yet do no longer say something. it would take you all night long, you will possibly no longer get any sleep. despite the fact that it feels like your daughter is a speedy learner and finally she would be in a position to be taught what sleep time is all approximately. you are going to be taught greater approximately this on the information superhighway website under:
2016-10-09 08:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to shock her?
when she gets at her worst tantrum, get on the floor and throw a tantrum. kick, scream, the whole yards. Then, get up slowly, and walk out.
my mom did this to me, and i never threw another tantrum.
2007-12-28 17:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, let her cry. If she has an audience, she'll have a tantrum. Once she realizes that you're not her audience, she;ll stop.
2007-12-28 14:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. If she knows that crying will get you to stay with her she will do it every time.
2007-12-28 16:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋