I'd like to know what people really think of couples who choose to live childless. I'm happy about not having kids, I know kids can bring a lot of joy but not everyone is cut out to be parents.
2007-12-28 13:51:10 · 18 answers · asked by mojo 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
There was a time I didn't think kids were for me, until I had my daughter. Then a son later, and another to come, I'm glad I have kids, because I wouldn't know what to do without them.
It's all in the individual. Maybe one day those who don't want kids, will think different.
2007-12-28 16:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, if they don't want to be parents, I'm glad they're not having kids. Kids do better if their parents are happy to do their job.
I did a lot of living before I had kids, travelling, working various jobs, trying out all kinds of hobbies & lifestyles. For me, none of those compare to the feeling of fulfillment & purpose and... what's the word for doing something that really challenges you, brings you closer together with your partner, and makes you feel proud of yourself & your life when you try your best, even if you make mistakes then have to try again?
Anyway, so, because I did the childfree thing until I was in my 30's and, since, have discovered how much, *for me*, it all pales in comparison to how I feel being the person I am as a parent, I sometimes wonder if the people who are childfree & claim to be loving it really know what they're missing :D
But, then again, I'm sure they look at my tired, tied down, financially challenged, frazzled self & wonder the same thing about me!
2007-12-28 16:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
I had two kids of my own, but have had several friends who chose to have no children. I think that is a personal choice. Whatever works for the individual is their own business.
I have seen too many people concerned about "what will everyone think if i don't have kids?" ... well, it's virtually NO ONE ELSE'S BUSINESS whether we have kids or not. And it's RUDE to ask "when are you having kids?"....
Yes kids can bring a lot of joy, but some people have other things in mind and goals in life which do not include having children. Nothing wrong with making personal choices.
Every day people who can't take care of a kid to save their life have babies. How nuts is that?
2007-12-28 14:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I allow everyone to make their own decision without judging.
If you or anybody else choose not to become parents, that is your choice. I am not going to tell you that you are selfish or judge your choice, because I know nothing about you.
Everybody has their own reasoning towards having a family or not having a family. It doesn't make one choice better than the other and it doesn't make one choice good and the other choice bad.
I agree, not everyone is cut out to be parents, for many different reasons and I commend you for making a choice, for yourself, without worrying about the judgment of others.
There have been many people who have chosen to be parents who have abused and hated their children, and these children become adults, and these adults have problems.usually serious ones.
I wish you a happy life and if you feel that you would like to connect with children in another way, there are many different ways in which you can do that, if you so choose.
Peace and love,.
2007-12-28 14:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
One of my best friends and her hubby chose not to have children. They travel a lot and they are both Dr.s. They are extremely busy and are always on call. They decided not to have children just to have a babysitter or nanny raise them. They are very happy being childless and have no regrets.
I think if it is not for you, good for you for living the life you chose. I think it is horrible when people have kids just because it is "expected" of them and then they are miserable most of the time.
Be happy and live life the way you want.
2007-12-28 14:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I live a child-free life to and extent.
4 days out of the month we have my husbands kids for weekends.
I think it's a personal choice and i think it's a wonderful choice if you choose to make it. What i dont like to hear is all these people who have children saying oh but it's so wonderful and it's so great and your selfish for not wanting children.
Well wait, arn't i being nice to not have children because i'm selfish to myself.I mean that would be the correct logic. But some people dont see it that way.
donnnabel... "Children can make your marriage life more complete.Life without children were boring.If that's what you want nobody can forced you to have child /children in your life."
I think that was so unfair of you to say. Children dont always make a marriage life more complete. Gee i know people who's marriage has ended because of children. Not because they did anything but because they were simply there. And life with out children isn't boring. I have a very enjoyable life with my husband when the kids arn't here. ( that isn't saying that i dont have an enjoyable weekend with them here) My life and my marriage are very happy and unboring without children in my home. Matter of fact i find it much eazier when i dont have to worry about feeding the kids when they arn't here.
I love my kids, but i More so enjoy life when they arn't here.
2007-12-28 14:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people might think that theres something weird, but I sure don't. Personally, being a parent is one of my greatest fears. Im really afraid of having the traits that my parents did. Its a lot of responsibility that many people cannot (or in the case of my parents should not have) tried to handle. There are a lot of kids that are put through grief because their parents dont act like they should. Personally, I respect you for doing what is right for you.
2007-12-28 14:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by sarah r 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a choice that everyone has the right to make. Not everyone wants to have children and that's fine. Personally, I love being a parent and I feel like it's my purpose in life. But that's me. If someone decides to not have children I think that's perfectly fine.
2007-12-28 14:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i have 4 boys and i cant imagine how live would be without them yes as they were growing up they were a pain in my butt sometimes. mostly when getting into trouble at school, i spent half my life at school meetings but all in all it is good they grew to be strong, good husbands, good fathers . but as you said some people just do not want children and that is fine, i know when i am gone i left the best part of me behind my children
2007-12-28 14:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by hillbilly up 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids and have no negative thoughts about people who choose not to have kids...believe me at times I am completely envious they don't have to deal with the stuff I do with raising two kids! I figure to each his own...never have kids if you don't want them. Nothing wrong with choosing not to have kids.
2007-12-28 14:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋