Oh it is Christmas time,..
my husband said that this year he is not going to get me a Christmas gift. I agreed but I am hurt. He got a gift (which he always does) for his mom and grandma; but he did not for me. He does not give his brother any presents either.
We have been married only a year.
I don't want to be all dramatic, but I am really hurt by this. I love giving out gifts to people I love, so I do not understand.
We get along great, we love each other, but it really hurts me. He did not give me a birthday gift either. Why didn't he?
2007-12-28 13:27:12 · 18 answers · asked by Becca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If it hurts you than you shouldn't have agreed not to have a gift. He did nothing wrong if you gave him permission. Talk to him about it and let him know your true feelings instead of saying one thing and feeling otherwise.
2007-12-28 13:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by rod85 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I didnt get a gift from my fiance of 2 years. I got him stuff...but told him I really didnt need anything since christmas isnt about that, its about spending time with family you love. That and he always worries he will get something I wont like so he just takes me shopping all the time. Hes taking me shopping for clothes next week and getting me a necklace. But I really could live without it.
2007-12-28 14:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Angie♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely talk to him. I have no idea why he didn't get you something, but I understand why you are hurt. Most of us want to hold onto some traditions from Christmas from when you were little, and opening gifts is one of them. Plus, you would want a gift from the most important person in your life - your husband/best friend. Talk to him. Let him know how sad you are.
2007-12-28 14:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by shrades77 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Baby,.....he may have told you why he doesn't believe in gift giving.....you could tell him that you would really appreciate a gift from him at Christmas, Christmas Eve, your birthday, Valentine's Day and Mother's day...or you could just take a couple of hundreds out of this wallet....since he doesn't spend that money on anyone else....and buy you a gift thanks to his frugalness....
2007-12-30 01:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by Philip T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to open the lines of communication and let him know how you feel. Maybe tell him you thought you were okay with not getting gifts for each other, but you realize now that it just makes you feel too awful. Communication is the key to any successful relationship.
2007-12-29 03:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand your being hurt by this.. but I'm wondering why he chooses to buy gifts for his mother and grandmother, but not spouse or siblings.
Sounds like he may be a personality who believes (rather.. KNOWS) that Christmas, birthdays etc. have begun so materialistic that he doesnt want to feed into that and spend obscene amounts of money on gifts that really have no purpose. Many people believe the bigger the gift, the more money they spend, the more they love me. Is that true? Why so? Perhaps he would prefer not to put a dollar sign on how he feels about you. Perhaps his mom & grandmother made a big deal about not getting gifts many years ago and he figured its easier to just buy them something to shut them up.
I think you need to tell him you were hurt by this. Find out from him WHY he prefers not to buy gifts... Is it because he doesnt want to put a materialistic image on how much he loves you, or is it that he's cheap?
Do you have pretty much everything you want and need? If so, what else is there for him to buy you?
Talk to him, tell him, "you're right, i agreed to no gifts, but you know what... I was hurt by it... WHY do you not want to do a gift exchange? " Have him validate his choice, and let him know it hurts you. If its just him being cheap, tell him to knock it off and get you something nice! If its because he doesnt like to put dollar signs on love.. then be happy, you're married to a wonderful & intelligent man!
Good luck...
2007-12-28 13:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mom2Boyzz 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
This is not selfish of you as the first answerer said. It's called a sign of affection to give a gift to the one you love!! Give me a break! He can receive gifts from others with no problem, but not give any to his WIFE at least???? This man needs some serious talking to!!!
2007-12-28 14:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by chloe1995 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell him how you feel; or do you think he knows already? Don't let it continue on for another birthday or Christmas. Everyone like to feel special with a gift. don't agree to something if it makes you upset......Good luck
2007-12-28 13:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by joni 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i feel your pain , tell him how you feel , even if it was flowers or a card , you deserve something, all women like gifts .
2007-12-28 15:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this get in your way. If you love him a lot, gifts shouldn't really matter. Tell him that you are hurt and maybe he'll get you one next year.
2007-12-28 13:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by milo85510 4 · 1⤊ 6⤋