My friend is planning an extravagent wedding in August and her sister announced on Christmas that she's pregnant and due in August. Her sister always has the attention, having had two big weddings already and my friend is always backseated. How or what can I do to make her feel better? It's not fair to her to be backseated during her own wedding process!
2007-12-28 13:10:45 · 12 answers · asked by Haley J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Grow up, things happem in life and you deal with it. Each things is special and it could be in her own mind with a chip on her shoulder. just tell her ya'll are going to make this the best darn wedding even and go from there.
Surely no one thinks the sis planned the birth on or around her wedding.
2007-12-28 13:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 5⤋
Sorry to sound rude, but she needs to grow up. She can enjoy the spotlight of planning a wedding while her sister has the spotlight of planning for a baby.
And just because she's due in August does not mean it will happen on her big day.
2007-12-30 01:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The wedding should be planned as scheduled regardless of the sister's situation.
If the invitations were not yet sent (6 weeks is the usual time, so it's likely they were not yet printed), planning the wedding for a few weeks prior to the sister's birth plans would accomodate the sister (and parents/grandparents), although this is not absolutely necessary. In order to appese people, it's not a bad idea to accomodate family members--particularly those close to the bride (ie siblings/parents).
It's also normal for people to not attend a wedding due to health constraints; pregnancy being one of them. It also seems strange that your sister should announce her pregnancy so early, as most wait 3 months due to normal pregnancy complications. Coming from a competitive family, all I can do is empathise and try to help.
Your wedding is 8 months away. Changes can be made. While not ideal, sometimes it's best that siblings do not attend one's wedding--the day is for the bride and groom, followed by the parents--not their attendees. If the bride would not be happy at her own wedding with an unwanted guest, even if that happens to be a sibling, the bride should be accomodated.
Speaking from experience, make the day your own, and have an incredible time. There are always problems, setbacks, and other unknown issues. If you can rid yourself of known problems, it'll make the day more enjoyable for the guests of honour--the bride and groom.
I know this is not a popular response. My own sister did her best to discount my engagement through many means. At the end, she offered to not go (to her friend, my then fiance)--then lied to my parents and told them that she was uninvited (she, her husband, and daughter were supposed to be part of the wedding party). I even brought an extra bridesmaid's dress for her to the wedding should she come, as well as an extra hand-maid basket for her daughter, who was to be a flower girl.
They didn't show. We all had a great time, and I'm glad that this we all had an incredible time. I wish she had shown up, but do not regret a thing. It was my day with my husband, and both families were respected, and all of the guests had a great time and it was a wedding we will all remember for the right reasons--a celebration of love, family, and friendship.
2007-12-29 03:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by LV 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know all about having my spotlight taken...
My boyfriend of 4 years proposed to me. He had been planning it for a while and the weekend he got my ring his brother proposed to his girlfriend. I never wanted a huge wedding...just an October wedding. Guess what? THEY are getting married in October. I thought my bridesmaids would look really nice in brown...but SHE chose brown. I wanted tree names for my tables...guess what? Yeah...everything I want to do she is doing. Well I am now getting married in September (1 month before them) and I'm not discussing wedding stuff with her anymore because I don't like having to change everything and I don't want to "copy".
My advice...your friend should be happy for her sister but remember that her wedding is HER day...and to just enjoy it!
2007-12-29 21:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are that she will not have the baby on her wedding date. even if she does, everyone will be at the wedding instead! there is nothing that she can do about her sister being due around the time of her wedding. she is just going to have to deal with it.
2007-12-28 22:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww...That's so hard! I know because I have a sister and it's so painful when you feel like the spot light is on your sister all the time! The best thing you can do is make a HUGE deal out of her wedding and do everything you possibly can to organize all of the wonderful events that need to happen before the wedding....engagement party, shower, bachelorette party. There are so many things you can get online that make her feel like royalty....I have a tank top that say "The Mrs."on it, I also have one that says "The Bride"....It's SO much fun to get those special things. There are ones that say, "The Future Mrs. (future name here). She needs to feel super special and she will...Remind her that this is her special day and focusing on being backseated is only going to hurt her more. On a positive note: Just as your friend is becoming "The Mrs." and is a beautiful bride her sister will be at her fattest and most unattractive! (I know, mean, but true!) ; )
2007-12-28 21:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by joyfulgirl1968 3 · 7⤊ 5⤋
Well, clearly the sister should have an abortion. Imagine, taking the spotlight away from a BRIDE!
Or maybe you should all grow up and/or move to planet earth...
2007-12-28 23:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mich 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
That's tough... I'm sorry.
There really isn't much you can do though... did her sis get prego on purpose...
If the invites haven't already be sent, all plans set, etc... you could change the date so that there is not this conflict...
2007-12-28 21:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If the wedding date isn't set in stone then I would move the wedding date. I sooo know the feeling. I wish you guys luck.
2007-12-28 21:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by redbrat34 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋
If anyone is REALLY concerned about that situation, they need to spend about a week in Baghdad. Pregnant women there are getting raped and killed because of their religion. Some people think that the world revolves around them. They need to get over themselves and just LIVE!
2007-12-28 21:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 4⤋