My 12 year old son thinks its wrong for me to take away his things he bought with Christmas money when he acts impoperly.Today he was acting very inappropriatly throwing attitude toward me and his siblings. I took his playstation 2 away from him temporarily that he bought with Christmas money. He feels that since he bought it that it cant be taken. He thinks its fine to take an actual gift from Christmas. I feel that taking something bought with Christmas money is the same as taking a gift.
2007-12-28 12:38:12 · 34 answers · asked by I_H8_Thumpers 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Yes, you can take it! He needs to realize that all he has to do is behave and he will have all of his toys. He should have thought about it before he started misbehaving. Good job for following through!!
2007-12-28 12:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have been in same spot you are in.....what I did was take the TV i bought away for the day no tv no ps2..... I have also when he was grounded from it took the plug in that goes to the wall away he had ps2 but he had no power. He is the child you are the parent their will always be rules in life might as well get use to them now. 11-13 is a hard age for the parent the kids want to be treated like they are an adult but want to act like there a little kid and boy the attitudes they get. Good luck and stay strong they will grow out of it!
2007-12-29 04:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a 12 year old thinks, and what we have to do in order to discipline are worlds apart.
If my kids didn't behave appropriately, they had things taken away or were disciplined in some way. End of story.
You could always ask you twelve year old what sort of punishment HE thinks is appropriate. That may not sway your decision to take away the playstation temporarily (in fact, it might make you giggle inside), but at least you are giving him a chance for input.
Maybe if he's without the playstation long enough he will think before he talks or acts out... suggest he counts to 20 in his mind before he talks or acts from now on, too?
I have to do it, and i'm 50!
2007-12-28 14:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long are you aren't permanently taking away his things, you have a right to tell him what he can and can not play with regardless if you bought it for him. However when he is 18 years old it won't work so well anymore. If you had bought the PS2 for him would you have still not allowed him to play it? Yes. He is being punished and sometimes punishment means having things you enjoy taking away from you temporarily. Explain to him he will get it back as soon as his mouth is back under control.
2007-12-28 18:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make the approach to him that you are ready to start treating him like a man, but he needs to start acting like a man. I would try to talk to him in an adult conversation, and try very hard not to treat him like a child.
I would tell your son that with owning things, comes responsibility. He needs to treat you with respect. He may have bought it with his own money but while he is living with you and you pay the electric that enables him to play his games, then he better wise up and not bite the hand that feeds him
He may have bought the PlayStation, but did he buy the TV, the games, etc....
Good Luck, teens can be difficult!
2007-12-28 13:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by **Lynn** 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell no he lives under ur roof u pay the rent u put food in his stomach the clothes on his back u are entiled to take away any of his toys that u please. He is not 18 he has no rights over anything. Even if he was 16 and earned himself a car u still have the right ot take his keys away! If you let him know u are unsure in ur parenting skills he is gonna walk ALL over you.
We as adults get things taken from us even if we pay for it too if we get busted with drugs in a car the car gets repossessed. he needs to learn consenqenses.
2007-12-29 00:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by missology 101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELLO you pay the bills, you are the legal parent! Take it all away and keep taking till he gets the drift that untill he is 18 you are the one in charge. Get ahold of this now.....It will only get worse. It may have been bought with his money, but the electricity to run it was not. The room he is playing it in was not and the TV on which it plays was not. If you have to get this logistic with him, then do it. POWER TO THE PARENT!!!!
2007-12-28 14:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Moose 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it is wrong. It doesnt matter who bought the gift, if he is being bad there needs to be some punishment. I think you did fine by taking away something he likes. Maybe he will start acting his age ! Good luck.
2007-12-28 12:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is off limits. He is the minor child, you are the parent. If he misbehaves, there are consequences. Just because he received something as a gift or used money given as a gift, doesn't mean he can ignore your rules. When he gets a job, pays rent, and buys groceries, then he can label things as off limits.
2007-12-30 17:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by nativeAZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the same thing. Either way, it's your house, your rules. Tell him to quit being such a brat. There are plenty of kids who got nothing for Christmas. He's lucky he's got people in his life to give him Christmas money AND people who care enough about him to punish him when he needs it.
2007-12-29 15:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's something VERY important to him, obviously - you chose the right thing to take away. Something else wouldn't have gotten the same reaction.
Don't back down... make him deserve the item.
No matter if he bought it, or you did, he's in YOUR house, he should respect your home and the people in it.
Good job.
2007-12-28 15:06:51 · answer #11 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋