I need everybody's answer!!) Pleease tell me,..how would YOU understand this if it happened to you?

Question

Please take a minute to read n tell me!!!!!
---Let's say,..me and and this guy have been verry close friends since high school. For straight two years,..we would go out at least 2 or 3 times a week. Just me n him. He would take me to a restaurant at night,...we would go to movies,..And then he'd call n say "lets go dancing", and it was just for couples,...or he would call, we'd talk,..n after we say bye,..he was tellin me really quick, so i coudnt even hear "love ya..bye." He was calling soo late at night,..to see if i was asleep...i dont know what else to say.
--We would always be holding hands,..but NeVER kissed or n e thing. There was a time when he told me, at the movies "This is not a date,..you know that right? We just came to see a movie". I've been so confused that you wont even imagine. And has also often told me, (would call n say).."I just called to say I Love you.! My life would be incomplete without you."
I just want to know, how do YOU GUYS see this?

By the way..he has asked me couple of times,.."what do you think,? should we go on a date or you think it will be weird? cuz i wanna try something new with you"

Answer 1

sounds like he kinda likes u, but hes not sure if u like him back, so hes got his guard up when he says its not a date and stuff like that. u should talk to him about it tho, just to check and see whats going on with u guys. good luck! <3

Answer 2

Ok, could be one of 3 things.

1) (Previous Experience) He really likes you, but is very shy and doesnt like being rejected therefore is trying to hint as much as possible wanting you to make the first move.

2) He is a best friend (a real good best friend). Does he act kinda campish, has he ever had a Gf?

3) He is a very confused individual and doesn't know what he wants himself, sometimes he feels like he loves you and other times he feels like he likes you - if this is the case then a realtionship would not work.

I understand it's hard, but the only way is too ask him I'm afraid and that could be a bit awkward and maybe affect the realtionship you to have if it's not the answer you are looking for.

Answer 3

There are two possible answers.The first one is that you guys are the best of friends or two-you guys are slowly beginning to change your relationship to a romantic one but fighting it also. Everything you wrote that this guy does is possible with best platonic friends----going to movies and restaurants,talking late , holding hands, and saying affectionate things to each other.I get the impression that you love this guy and want to take this relationship to a romantic level. If I am right, then take the bull by the horns and lay it on the line with him. Tell him you have feelings for him but his actions and words are sending you mixed signals and messages. Tell him that you need a straight answer whether he would like you to be his girlfriend and if he loves you as a girlfriend. This would force him to give you a definite yes or no answer and will allow you to decide on what your next step will be.I hope things work out the way you want them to .

Answer 4

This is a tough one.
Is there any way at all that this guy might be gay?
I had a gay friend in college who acted the exact same way. He was NOT flamboyant...as a fact, he was sexy, fun and totally into me, but not sexually. We would go out and hug and sometimes hold hands...I became so infatuated with him, but when it came to moving deeper into the relationship, there were excuses. He finally came out to me, and tho I was disappointed (because I liked him so much) I realized it wasn't about me.
If I'm off base...sorry. It just sounds eerily familiar.
And another reason....if he is college-age (you said friends SINCE high school) then he is right smack dab in the middle of his horny 20's, when every guy on the planet is looking to hook up. I can't imagine that he would spend so much time with you and not want to "do" you....
You didn't mention anything about his friends, or if he has had a girlfriend, so you may want to do a little exploring into the other aspects of his life.
If you have guts, you can ask him directly "so, we spend so much time together doing intimate things, why is it that we haven't moved closer romantically? Do you not see me this way? If you have "nothing to lose" and want to confront him (with acceptance, not judgement) you can ask him...."well, I know you like being with me, but you are obviously not attracted to me sexually. Are you into guys instead?"

wow. good luck. this one's a whammy!

Answer 5

Weird- best bet would be to just ask him.. it might take some courage, but after you get the qu out of your mouth, you'll be glad ya did.
Couple of theories tho.. he really wants more, but is insecure and doesn't want to be the first one to say it incase you don't feel it too.
2- he's gay and hasn't come to terms yet, so he really does think of you as a best friend, and is afraid to tell you the truth for fear of losing you.
3- he wants his cake and eat it too-- by this i mean, has he dated other girls during this time? maybe he wants to be with you because you're fun to be around and you guys have a lot in common, but he also wants to be with other girls for sexual purposes.
but you could drive yourself nuts speculating-- best bet-- summon your courage, and call him right now to ask what the deal is.

Answer 6

Sweetie, I'm a contact with you and have heard this Q prolly 6 or 8xs by now! What answer do you want? Becuz you already have it in your head what you want from him ya' know? Your other questions r grt tho! Hope I didn't offend you! Sorry if I did! =)

Answer 7

Well, if he was an only child, he might consider you like a sister, and he jsut wants to make sure you're always happy.

Answer 8

He's probaly just as confused as you are
If you like him make a move but make sure he doesnt have a gf
or remain best frans =}

Answer 9

umm he wants to spank u and its not working lol its been 2 years i mean dam let him in the kitchen

Answer 10

you both need to date