To make a long story short...I'm black my boyfriend is white. We already get enough sh*t as is with us being in an interracial relationship.Yesterday, me and my guy went out to dinner with 4 of his friends who are dudes. 1 was his best friend. Anyway, some how or another, the convo lead to sex and a womens role bed. So his my guys best friend makes a remark about black women and sex and links it to me and my dudes sex life. I'd rather not say what he said... but everyone at the table starts laughing out of their a** and my dudes knows i'm pissed off because now I know he has been telling people things about our sex life. I talk to him about it today and he had the nerve to say "sh*t happens" right now, I can't even talk to him because I think he has broken a bond and trust that I don't think will ever been link again. Obviously we need to talk about this again.How do you deal with a guy who has gone around telling people about your sex life? I was humiliate sitting there by myself
2007-12-28 12:35:11 · 10 answers · asked by Reese 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok I've read and heard everyone views and opinions. Thanks.
2007-12-28 12:56:51 · update #1
this is unacceptable coming from your boyfriend. period. he might have thought he was just joking around with his friends and you were going to think it was funny also. but you didn't and when you told him about it he was an *** to tell you that "it" happens. although if you put yourself in his shoes you might realize he didn't know what else to say. even though he knows "sorry" is the best answer it sometimes is too hard and embaressing to do. if he is the typed of guy who has a lot of pride then that is how it is. Talking about it again could be a good idea on the one hand but on the other it could break you two apart. it really matters how you talk about it more than anything. don't let anger cloud your mind and don't let things he says offend you. you know he probably doesn't mean it anyway. If it were me i would slightly bring it up to break the ice but not go into a thourough talk unless he does it again, he most likely got the message that you don't like it.
just mention that you know sh*t happens but it still hurt your feelings or such things invades your privacy and you don't like other people being able to know what only the two of you need to know.
2007-12-28 17:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by tc_sherman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? This sounds so juvenile.
Nonetheless, although it's uncomfortable to know he's talking about your sex life with his friends, it's not an offensive thing. Guys tell about their sex life when they're proud of it . . . not necessarily the sex itself, but the person they're with. You should be happy he talks about it with his friends.
Secondly, if you're like most women when you're with your girlfriends, you have no room to talk about him telling his friends. Women tell their girlfriends what their guy does in bed, just like guys do. The difference is that you're smart enough to tell your girls not to tell anyone.
If you want to be upset with your guy about something, be upset that he feels it was okay to let his guy friends have a sexual conversation with his girlfriend present - THAT is what was disrespectful.
2007-12-28 20:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by paradisegb07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no! your man should know better! yall need to have a discussion ASAP! I mean I would forgive him its not like us girls don't tell our friends stuff that has happened in our relationships. But then certain things should stay between you and him. There is a time and place for everything and that wasn't the time nor the place where your boyfriend and his friends should be discussing your business like that...especially in front of you. That was so disrespectful! He and his friends should be ashamed of themselves. Well I hope it works out between you and him.
2007-12-28 20:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sienna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a risk you take. Guy are guys... they talk about it just as much as we do. I'm the same way... I tell me friends a lot about my sex life. I tell them things about him and things he does and things I don't like etc... it's the best way to get feedback and advise. It's entertaining and it's how we learn. Don't be angry at him for behaving like a normal human being. Tell him how uncomfortable the situation made you and that you would appreciate if he didn't tell his friends personal details... but don't get angry... it's natural human interaction.
2007-12-28 20:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jaelyn 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you do not have a bf. you have a child playing at being a bf.This guy is too immature for you .Find someone who has integrity and is mature. You truly don't want to babysit for his mother ,do you?
2007-12-28 20:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by for the times 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg thats so horrible of your boyfriend , and is the biggest no no in a relationship. I would dump him for that
2007-12-28 20:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, I wouldn't put up with this.
Even scarier, what kind of reputation he is giving you. A$$hole men grr....
2007-12-28 20:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have went off on him and his friend, then i would dump him
2007-12-28 20:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you talk to him again and if he doesn't resond to that, dump
2007-12-28 20:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by Thoughts 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop
2007-12-28 20:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋