when you are in you thirties ..... having been in love in your twenties ..is it so different now ?i have two children so it will be different anyway but thanx for your serious input in advance?
2007-12-28 12:26:09 · 16 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no !! i haven't anyone at the mo but i'm thinking into the future , how different it would feel , having so many heartaches along the way it changes a person x
2007-12-28 12:46:32 · update #1
This is a hard one Bex and not sure whether I can give you the answer I don't fully know myself but I do know that if you don't open a little and allow a person a glimpse it will never happen we get in this world what we give out so I believe it starts with yourself be open to the possibilty and then good things will follow but I agree the love you have when your younger is nothing compared to when your older because were wiser more sure of what we want. I hope you get your wish this year Bex I really do you deserve it.
2007-12-28 23:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It didn't work for me in my 30s because I was too 'kid orientated' -HE had never been married before and had no children and just couldn't hack the fact that the children came before HIM -a point he wouldn't allow -he had to come first - it was very very difficult for all of us. After a couple of years , he was off and married a 17 year old because she had no baggage !
In my 40s however, my kids were grown-up and I was a nan and living on my own (ha ha -babies everywhere again) !
It was then that I re-met an old friend who invited me for drink one Sunday lunchtime and he had grown-up kids and grandkids and we had so much in common and 'things' fell into place nicely and without effort- a natural thing
Bex-you'll know- when you can give someone a key and know the kettle will be on and the potatoes peeled ready and the rubbish already put out -you'll know when the kids say 'mum, is ........coming today ? can we go to.......?' etc etc
Don't look too hard -you'll miss him !!
2007-12-29 04:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by nanny chris w 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel in love with the father of my children when I was 16, had a baby, got married had two more children and then we got a divorce when I was 28. Now I have fallen in love again and realized that the first time was okay but mature love is so much more fulfilling and right.
Not real sure if thats advice but I just feel complete now with this man, like I know what not to do in love now and it makes it better.
2007-12-28 12:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by DJ R 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Having lots of heartaches does change a person & how they react in love. I am nearly 30 & find I am a lot less selfish than I was in my late teens/early twenties. I know what being single feels like & its not much fun. I would do anything for my boyfriend. That is real love. I like making him happy & as a bonus this always makes me feel happy too. We are very compatible & easygoing. You know yourself much better as you get older & learn more too. This helps in relationships...
2007-12-29 03:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 37 and have never stopped searching for the kind of love i had with my first girlfriend when i was 17! at that age your hormones are all over the place. you cant think about anything else apart from what is she doing, who is she with, were is she,when will i see her again. i can tell you now for a fact that you will never ever feel that kind of love again..its called puppy love! as you get older and have children your priorities change and you realise that YOU are not the most important person in the world anymore.all of a sudden you realise that your feelings and emotions are harder and more controlled! its called getting old!
2007-12-28 12:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am in my thirties and I am not in love. But dating now would be very different (if I went on a date, lol). I am more casual and I don't try to change anybody. I know that love doesn't mean that I should allow myself to become lost in the other person and I know that how I deserve to be treated now. So this may not really answer your question, but as you get older, you loosen up, you have your priorities straight and you tend to have casual sex more (which apparently makes them feel 'used'.. who knew?), lol.
2007-12-28 12:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh hard one Bex, for me in my twenties it was butterflies pure and simple, hundreds of butterflies when I saw him, a feeling of nothing else matters when I was with him.
As for now? Same as you I have to consider my son first and foremost and I worry that I will overlook love because of worrying about my son.
I still believe that ( and hope) that when that day comes again, in my thirties that it will be the same.....
Butterflies hundreds of them!
2007-12-28 23:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi,l would not know Bex, being married for 40 years,lol. But l hope You find someone,and its as exciting as you are expecting,it to be xx Love Jo xx
2007-12-29 02:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
real love is hard to come by. of course everyone has a first love, but for another one, is kinda tricky. u never really know whats it gunna be like, jus like the first time. for the guy, everytime you see him, you get butterflys, an du forget everything thats around. hes always on your mind and your always on his. everytime you talk, u fell like your fallin in love with him more and more. he says your beautiful, not hott. you can trust him with everything you tell him, even if it is your deep dark secret.
i wish you the best of luck
2007-12-28 13:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Cinderella 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes it does change you, but don't let it scar you??? only for the man of your dreams to come along and you think he's just like the last one, there is someone out there for everyone. i truly believe this so never give up hope and never stop looking ??go on then take a peek????
2007-12-28 23:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋