I catch so much heat from my co workers and my family because I don't have any children yet I would love to have children oneday but I have not met the right man. And I don't want to have any children if I am not Married. Any advice how to handle the criticism?
2007-12-28 10:47:23 · 32 answers · asked by wiser 1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just know this, misery loves company, I am by no means implying that being a mother is miserable , Im a Mom, but I can imagine life must be grand for you, Your single with no one to tie you down. That looks really appealing to us Mothers that dont have the luxury of coming and going as we please. I love my son and wouldnt trade him in for the world but at the same time, I wish I would have had the sense to think this thing through,and waited for a better time in life. I think your a smart woman to have waited and I think that the criticism is just jealousy. Just smile and think about how smart you are for waiting for the right time
2007-12-28 10:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by that hot chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore the comments, I get the same ones since I am 25 also not married or have kids. It is so annoying. Its like what do people think... saying that is going to make you feel good?? Lets just say it isn't a good feeling when someone is constantly making you feel less of a person just because you don't fit the standard mold. All my old friends from growing up are at least married and or have kids so I already feel so incomplete and depressed about my life sometimes already without people constantly reminding me of this and telling me I need to do this and that and why am I not this or that! ANNOYING not mention non of their business!!!!!!! Keep your chin up hun and know that you're not alone theres other gals out there.
2007-12-28 11:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by sweetjalapeno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them to get off your back.
My girlfriend is 36, and has no children, by choice. She gets that all the time.
I am 41, with no children, by choice. It is worse if you are a man. I have been called "gay", "communist", "selfish", and everything else.
The truth is 1 in 5 women over 35 will choose not to have children. So no it is no all that rare. Some examples are Rachel Ray, Sandra Bullock, etc.
2007-12-28 22:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you don't want kids. Then they will leave you alone. I know you may want them, but the only way people will stop asking is if you say you don't want kids. My co-worker is 30 and she doesn't have kids yet. It's normal these days to wait longer, the fact is your family probably just bugs you about it because the older you get the more danger there is involved for yourself and the baby, but that's no reason to just have one. If you aren't even involved with anyone then you are definately not ready. Good for you for wanting to get married first.
2007-12-28 10:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not common, but I think it's the best way to go. People who marry younger have a higher divorce rate. By waiting until your thirties to marry and have children, you have a much better chance of providing a long-lasting and stable environment for the kids.
As for the criticism, there are ways to deal with it. I'm a 36-year old single man and my mother used to ask me when she'd get a grandchild. I told her she'd get them when I was damn good and ready. When I got pet rats, I sent her photos and told her to meet her new grandchildren. That shut her up long enough for my younger brother to spawn a tiny humanling.
2007-12-28 11:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lee Harvey Wallbanger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ignore them. It is MUCH better to find the right guy to have children with than the wrong guy who will make your life a misery and mess up the lives of your children. You should take your time and not feel bad. An increasing number of women are delaying having children until they are older, so you are certainly not alone.
2007-12-28 10:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by The boy from London 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No this is not rare at all, and more and more women are not having kids till they reach there early forties. It is safer now than it used to be to have kids at this age and a lot of women are choosing to do this. So if they criticize, bring that up. You will meet the right man you are still young.
2007-12-28 10:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by cactusflower333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 40 (gasp) and I have no children. It is not up to anyone to tell you or criticize someone for not having children. Children are a big responsiblity and big expense to.
You could look at the offending person and ask if they know anyone because as far as you know there is no immaculate conception to date unless the japanese have come up with something - they are brilliant
2007-12-28 10:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by daisyduck4007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right, it will come. But if you never have kids, don't worry. A lot of women never have kids. You're not alone.
Look at me. I am also 34. I am still a virgin. I will never ever become a father because I am an ugly loser. Does it bother me? Sometimes. But I have to deal with it, just like you have to deal with it too.
2007-12-28 10:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by NJboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if u wanna have kids this late.
Think when ur child is 10 u will b 44
when there 20 ur 54.
I think this will b fine now to 37. But after that i think it is kinda gettin bad cuz if ur 40 and ur chlid is 10 ur 50.
But that is good.
Dont hav any kids b4 if u not married.
But if u get married at 40 that is not bad having a kid that late. It just means when ur ready of them.
2007-12-28 10:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋