is your spouse/son/daughter/other in war??

Question

if yes, can you please tell me how it is affecting you and/or your children at the same time.

im doing an essay for enlgish on anti war and how war affects children and spouse'
thanxz :D

Answer 1

My husband is currently on his way to serve in his second tour in Iraq. Our children have grown, so it is just me at home when he is gone. How does it affect me? In many ways.

**I become very lonely.
**I am fearful that someone will break into our home and try to hurt me or rob us (we do not live on an Army base).
**I work many more hours at my job than I do when he is home.
**I hardly ever eat.
**Sometimes I go to the movies and see 4 films all in the same day because I am wanting an "escape" from reality.
**I must handle more responsibility, paying the bills, doing the handyman stuff/repairs to the home, being both father and mother to the kids (even though they're grown), car maintenance, etc.
**I feel very proud that my husband has chosen to serve his country.
**I pray for his safe return.
**I pray for our country and its leaders.
**I wear a yellow ribbon pin with his first name and his rank on it.
**In each email and phone call to him I let him know that I am taking care of things for him while he is away.
**I cry a lot.
**I count the days until he returns home.
**I am thankful that I live in a country where I have freedoms which millions of others do not have.
**I remember that "Freedom Isn't Free" and that it must be purchased with the blood of Patriots.
** I go through phases each time he is deployed. 1st I go through "shock"....I sometimes forget he is gone and try to talk to him, and find that he isn't there.
2nd I go through "sadness"....I realize he is gone and the knowlege of what is coming crashes down on me and I miss him terribly.
3rd I go through "anger".....I become mad sometimes because the brunt of the responsibilities is now mine, that I must make all the decisions, that I am stuck here by myself.
4th I go through "acceptance".....things fall into place, I learn how to handle things without him, I get into a rythmic daily routine.
Then just about the time I am okay with his being gone....he comes home again. It's the life we've chosen. My husband was a Soldier when I met him and I knew this was the life I'd lead. He is worth it. And I wouldn't change him or a single day of our life together for all the riches in the world.

Answer 2

The book "While they're at war" would be a good reference as would "Heroes at Home" if you want the REAL story. Otherwise I would say try finding some families in your area to shadow and talk to - real people not just on line "friends". Perhaps you should do so BEFORE forming opinions based on fallacy.

Main reason is because it's just to LONG to cover on Yahoo answers. Also the fact that most spouses and families are PROUD to serve alongside their service member and take the good with the bad whether they are "anti war" or not - you will be hard pressed to find those who will speak out and risk offending or endangering their spouse.

Answer 3

First of all I would like to say that Anti-war is not what I believe and I dont think that asking military wives things for an Anti war essay is smart. But because I am understanding I will let you know what is going on in my life right now. I have an 8 month old daughter, this is my husbands second tour in Iraq with the Marine Corps. He is in the infantry division. Although my daughter is young and she was 6 months old when my husband left this time, she knows who he is. She will look at his pictures and say "dad" and when the phone rings she yells "dad" because she knows thats how she has talked to him lately. I on the other hand am a nervous ball of emotion. Its the worse around the holidays but you couldnt ask for more of an amazing feeling than the day they come home and you see them for the first time in 6-7 months. But as for my life, I am still in college, spending all the time I can with my family because I know I will be moving as soon as my husband comes home. Its not as hard the second time around but the first time is horrible and most of the time you spend laying around and crying jumping everytime the phone rings and chasing down the mail man to get your letters and praying you got one from them. I hope your essay goes well and I hope the others arent to hard on you with their responses.

Answer 4

i with courtey, i'm not anti-war so i won't answer your post because i think you might flip anything i say to make it fit your needs. However i will say that my husband and i have decided not to have kids right now because of operation tempo and because of personal beliefes. I have no problems with military kids in good families because the kids have the support they need to cope however they didn't choose that lifestyle like a spouse did it was chose for them...... My problem is with the benefits system of the military that makes people who don't want children have tons of kids just for the extra money/benefits they will get, that's the things about military life and kids that i have a problem with.

Answer 5

ok you are a child so I won't give you" full attack mode"
My son is in the Army.
I am very proud of him.
He is doing the right thing. He is smart enough to realise that his country needs him and brave enough to answer the call.
I know that if anything happened to him I would mourn him every day of my life.
But even then, I know he is in exactly the right place,doing exactly the right thing.
He will never fail in his duty unless he is dead.
He lives for honor and duty and country.
what do you live for?

Answer 6

I hope no one answers your question....do your own work.
You already have an opinion in your mind, just make it up as you go along, so at least you will have the answers you want.