I have a sex problem? and more...?

Question

okay well sometime last week I had casual sex. n a freaky thing happened today. :( I was doing my ladie business (cleaning there) n wehen i douched a piece of condom came out of me... yea i know. im soo embaressed, but secondly that means the condoms broke.. :( n he didnt know or didnt tell me =( ladies help me.... were like each other but thats it. hes childish n leaving soon 4 the army. so my question is do u think he did it on purpose?

ITS FREAKING embaressing. cuz like that was totally unexpected. :( n i don't know if he would flip out.

Answer 1

he put it on,,and also took it off,,he had to know that it broke...he knew and didn't tell you,and thats wrong...does sound like he is very childish....you need to be more careful with who you decide to have sex with from now on..save it for someone that you really care about,,maybe even love and can trust..good luck.

Answer 2

I have no idea if it was on purpose or not, or if he knows. Where you guys in the dark? How would you being pregnant help him? He'll still have to go to the army.

Whats important is that you make an appointment with your doctor to get checked out. I don't know how old you are, or whatever, but if you don't want your parents to know you can go to Planned Parenthood. They'll help you with STI tests, and all of that! You'll be able to make sure you're healthy, and find out if you got pregnant or not. If you're pregnant, then they can help you with options; what to do if you choose to keep the baby, adoptions, even help you with abortion info if thats something that you choose ( they don't pressure you into anything!).
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
Go here for info/ to read up on tests/ find a location near you. I've been, and I had a good experiance.

P.S: Don't just believe the guy even if he says he's healthy. He might not know if he has something. I'm sure you know all this but... it never hurts to be reminded and you did say it was casual! :)

Answer 3

First off, I would schedule an appointment with your gyno or nearest clinic ASAP. Second, I highly DOUBT he did it on purpose, since from what you say, he's immature and leaving for the army. Don't concern yourself with why or how it happened, you need to make sure that a) there are no more left over pieces of condom inside of you b) make sure you're not pregnant (though it's too late to take the morning after pill, and it's probably to early to tell if your pregnant) Either way, I would still go get checked out. Good luck!

Answer 4

No I don't think he would do that on purpose, if so it wouldn't be broken, he would have just poked a hole in it or something. I would think he would feel it if I broke, but I can't say for sure as I am not a male. You should talk with him about it and as soon as a test will work, check to be sure your not pregnant and don't have an STD. Discuss your feelings and concerns with him about what to do if you are pregnant BEFORE he leaves. You may also want to think about getting on birth control just in case something like this happens again, and keep using the condoms to prevent STD's! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Due to the testing/integrity of most condoms I doubt it was intentional. Could have been expired and he did not tell you because he was horny and di not want to run to store.

Or he did not notice guys really don't look that hard at it afterward or he thought he broke it when he took it off after. So did not say anything. (sounds likes only a piece fell out of you)

If concerned call Dr about the RU, STD test, and pregnancy test if you are late.

Good luck. I suggest you make sure to carry your own condoms whether you plan on using them or not then you know you are always covered.

Answer 6

Did he break the condom on purpose? Absolutely not.
Did he see it was broken and purposely not tell you? Entirely possible. If he's childish and soon leaving, he wouldn't want that responsibility of the child or the abortion, if it comes to that. He'd be hoping that nothing comes of it and he can forget about it while he's miles away.
Of course, it's also entirely possible that he didn't know that it broke. Did he take it off in the dark and just toss it? If so, it's likely that he didn't know.

Answer 7

First figure out if your pregnant or obtained any STDs from the guy and then worry about what to do. If you are not pregnant and didn't contract anything..then there is no reason to get yourself worked up. Go get tested first of all before you do anything else. I really wouldn't think he would do it on purpose if he's leaving for the army. That makes no sense. Again find out the truth of the matter first and then talk to the guy. No need to get him or you worked up over nothing. Go to planned parenthood, or your doctor.

Answer 8

i`m a bloke so I hope that doesn`t bar me from answering the question .
I don`t think it`s at all possible "to break a condom on purpose".
It may have happened in the throes of passion,but I doubt "he" knows anything about it .
Why not tell him?

Answer 9

It's hard to tell if he did it on purpose or not. . I'm not sure why he would do it on purpose. I don't know how he could have not known about it. .it would be obvious when he removed the condom, surely he seen that part of it was missing? Just ask him about it and see what his reaction is. Talk to him in person so you can see his facial expression when you ask him about it. .Good luck!!

Answer 10

The odds are small that it was purposeful, its obvious the condom broke, and that does happen, sometimes Ive heard they can slip off completely and get lost inside ya, its never happened to me though, (coz I dont get out much these days bwahahaha)

Answer 11

It depends. Did he give any clues or hints that he wanted a baby?
If you didn't feel any different during sex than you would with any other guy who was using a condom, then maybe it just broke.
I don't think he wants to have a child if it was just casual sex.