I give up!?

Question

Have you ever felt that just as you feel things are getting better, something bad happens??

three months ago i was going out with a girl and a month later she left me for someone else. After about 2 weeks of our break up, a girl added me from Hi5 (a website like myspace, bebo and facebook) and she added me on msn. We started talking and getting closer, we started texting and calling each other but she had only seen 1 picture of me and i had seen a few pictures of her.
We decided that we were going to meet each other next week in a friendly way... Last night we stayed up all night over msn and were chatting and she told me she loved me and i told her that i loved her back. This morning we were texting for a while and then she asked for a few more of my pics and i sent them to her. After i sent them to her she didnt text back and at night she told me that her cousin saw all the texts and she deleted my name from her screen name (it said i love MOE)..

She thinks im ugly right??

The thing is on msn i asked her if she saw my pictures, she told me yea and that she thinks they are cute but im sure that she didnt mean it. Her responses were much slower then usual... And i asked her what happens now and she said 'i dont know'.

Her cousin didnt say im ugly, she told her family and that meant that she 'got her fone taken away from her' which she told me and i dont believe and that she isnt allowed to go to school by herself which means i wont be able to meet her.

I dont know wha to do, the last 6 months in my life have been nothing but pain and all i want to do is cry cry and cry more. My brother knows about my problems and all he ever does is laugh at me...

Answer 1

WELL SWEETIE LEAVE HER ALONE AND FOR ONE THING JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE SAY THEY LOVE YOU DO NOT MEAN THAT PERSON REALLY MEAN AT.SO OPEN UP YOUR EYES. SHE IS PLAYING GAMES WITH YOU. AND RIGHT NOW YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT YOU TRYING TO GET YOUR LIFE BACK TOGETHER FOR YOU NO ONE ELSE OKAY.

Answer 2

First of all, don't give up.
Relationships aren't all about looks and that's obviously what she believes. I think you should take a break from dating.
Learn how you can get girls, get in a good relationship.
I have the same situation. I had a boyfriend for a month and a half. He lived in England, I live in the USA. We dated for a month and he fell in love with someone else. We were going to meet up also. Love hurts, but everyone has the pain.

Answer 3

Well that could be right, but do you really want someone who is superficial? Don't let it hurt you to long. You will find someone who will love you for you someday, don't rush it.

Also when you meet someone on the Internet you don't always get what you think you are getting.

The next time you meet someone on-line, after you have reached a comfortable stage with conversation meet them, see if the connection is there in person as well as on-line.

Often people can get stuck on looks and looks do fade, beautiful people have been in awful car accidents that take their beauty away.

You have to love the PERSON, the being. If you fall in love with someone based on anything but love, what do you have if that other thing is gone. . . for example money, looks, house, car, life style. If you "fall in love" with someone for the money, and the money is gone do you leave?

Good luck, and don't let it keep you down too long.

Answer 4

In my opinion, pondering whether she thinks you are "ugly" is a negative way to respond to your situation. First of all, if she is the kind of person who would reject you based on a few pictures, in spite of the strong connection you had formed, then she's not the kind of person you want to be involved with, right? And if she doesn't care for your appearance, how will knowing that help you or change the outcome? There is always going to be someone who is not attracted to us, just as there is always going to be someone who IS attracted. It's a big world, with room for people with all tastes. If there is one thing I regret from my past, it is the amount of time I spent belittling myself for the way I look. Every person who turned me down just made it possible for me to look elsehwere and eventually meet all the fantastic people I now call my friends. When one door closes, another one opens--for everyone.

Answer 5

No not at all! It means she got busted by her cousin! Maybe this person is not the person you thought she was and she certainly sounds very young and immature. Not a good idea to tell someone you love them if you haven't even seen them! A real girl would not care about your looks anyway but what is inside and I can tell that you are a beautiful person just by the things you say.

Answer 6

well.. people shouldn't ever meet up w/o seeing alot of photo's of eachother before meeting. Why go through the disappointment ? Of course you can fall in love with some ones personality but there has to be some kind of physical attraction, I mean seriously. So your probly just not her type. Next time, be straight forward and send pics !!!!!!!

Answer 7

Get a grip here, dude. Seems to me that the cousin was way out of line. Maybe the cousin thinks you're ugly, but that's way beside the point. Contact this girl again and find out what's what.

Answer 8

you probably arent her type...

But a tip for the future.... you dont love someone after texting for a bit and chatting on msn.

I have met loads of people off the net and it just doesnt work that way. You may click with people via chatting... but LOVE is a totally different ball game.

Answer 9

I dont think she thinks your ugly. Maybe she didnt expect you to look like the pictures you sent? Are you sure you sent her recent photos? Plus I know not everyone looks the same in person. I honestly look better in person than I do in pictures.

Answer 10

Well to be honest yeah.. her and her cousin thinks so..

but there are other fishes in the sea look for someone ealse and to tell the truth mostly but prob not for some people like you maybe.. internet relationships never work out..lol

Answer 11

It sounds like her cousin deleted all the texts and changed the screen name.

Haha, dearest whatever your name is, you shouldn't worry yourself over these little details which are more than likely exactly as they appear to be.

She probably likes you alot, and if I know a thing or two about cousins (Which, my god, I do) its that they're troublesome little bastards that really like messing with they're mother's sibling's offspring haha.

Chill : )

-Collin