i was on this chat room. and we were having private chat. and i know he isn't a old perv cuz he was really nice, i saw him on cam, and i know he goes to a high school. so anyway, before i found out all this and we decided to become friends, i lied to him about practically everything. i lied about how i looked, and when he asked for pics i gave him something i found on google images. he thinks im a hot filipino girl now. which is not true. so now i have to tell him im a black ugly girl. wat do i do!?
2007-12-28 10:05:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your relationship wouldn't have made it this far if he didn't like that personality that he knows already. If this guy really likes you for you because of the person that he's grown to know then it shouldn't matter that much how you described yourself physically. True friendship is dealing with the good and bad in one another while working together through your stuff. Insecurities, difficult times and hardships bring people closer in relationships anyways when they deal with the issue(s).
The only love you keep is the love you give away, not talking about sex here either.
If this guy has such a hard time accepting who you are then he's probably just going to mess up your life later on down the road with his junk (attitude and thoughts) and hold you back from some incredible things in life. Also, don't ever compare yourself to those you see who only wish they had some of the awesome traits that you do. I'm sure others are jealous of you in different ways.
By not sharing the true feelings, your just trying to fill a gap in your heart of what you wish you had or desire.
Look in the mirror and see yourself as that beautiful woman that you really are. Don't forget as women we can wear makeup too. *smile*
2007-12-28 10:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by aglowfireball 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women, here is the only thing you can do, try not to reveal this to anyone, it's top secret.Gain 100 lbs., dye your hair, get plastic surgery, grow body hair, wear sunglasses at night, go underground, join the witness protection program, get lots of tattoos, become a lesbian, move to China and tell him you sell Amway.
2007-12-28 10:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by dnjo303 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue lying! let him think what he thinks. seems ur both way too young to be messing on the internet. planning on meeting? Geeze, I hope not! for a clear conscious however, just tell him, if he's a true friend he would understand that u lied to be SAFE (which is why I say keep lying...it's safer)
2007-12-28 10:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why lying is pointless - the truth eventually comes out.
So tell him the truth - that you lied because you were afraid he wouldn't like you the way you really are, and you hope he can forgive you and give the real you a chance. Send him a real picture.
2007-12-28 10:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how understanding this guy is, but if you really like him you're going to have to risk everything and lay your cards on the table. Eventually he'll want to meet you, or he'll want more pics of you and your lies will catch up to you. Confess to him, tell him you were scared, and hopefully he'll understand.
2007-12-28 10:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Seattle_Slacker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, if he likes you that won't matter! And by the way some of the best looking people I've ever seen are black!!
2007-12-28 10:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by karen m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't of lied in the first place.
2007-12-28 10:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by kharilli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is ugly in life each person has 1 person for them in life
2007-12-28 10:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by sweets 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On-line dating is not safe and
forget about the pictures
just don't go on it anymore.
And next time don't lie to people
always be yourself!
2007-12-28 10:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo! Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont.. you tell him you are a beautiful black girl ans send him a pic.... explaining that you were just goofing around at first, and you dont give out real info at all until you are comfortable...so here is the reality..... dont let it linger..
2007-12-28 10:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Joel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋