My friend's wedding is this weekend and i am broke! I was going to just get her a card, is that bad? What else can i give as a gift that is inexpensive or free? I should also mention that she is not really a good friend, but we've known each other for years. I am debating even going if I cant give her a gift and also because she has ditched out on me on my birthday parties, baby shower, etc. What do you guys think? Should I even go, and if so, is a card ok as a gift?
2007-12-28 09:54:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Here is some more info:
I DO want to have her friendship, even though she has burned me a few times in the past, i just dont know if she is worth my time because she never has made time for me in the past. ALSO, her wedding is NEXT weekend, her bachlorette party is on Sunday - she just called me yesterday to invite me to it - but told me her friend will call and give me the details - her friend has yet to call and i'm wondering if she just felt obligated to invite me? If she really wanted to invite me, wouldnt she have let me know a little more in advance? I'm so confused! Also, I have NOTHING to wear to her wedding, no dressy clothes or anything - are jeans and a nice shirt ok to wear? Sorry for all the additonal questions...
2007-12-28 10:44:57 · update #1
You should not invite people to your wedding just to expect a gift. Go to the wedding if you want to...they are most likely not going to open all the gifts there anyway and take a head count of who brought a gift. Just go and pay your respect and when you get paid you can get her something nice that you can afford if you want to. I think she'll understand!
2007-12-28 09:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not a good friend and she has avoided events that require her to give gifts, I would say that the card is fine. If you're not comfortable with that, RSVP your regrets at being unable to attend. An invitation does not require a gift. If you feel you must give a gift, get with the parents of the bride or groom and ask if you make a basket of goodies would they be so kind as to put them in the new couple's house for when they get back from their honeymoon.
2007-12-28 10:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by MSC Lieu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have any pictures of you together? or maybe take pix (clean ones) from the bachlorette and make an album? I would be embarressed to give just a card,( knowing that I bought a new outfit for it.)...even if you only give like 20- at least its something. Not that it is all about money, but they are paying for you to be there, so if you aren't good friends and cannot afford it, you don't go...
2007-12-28 11:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation. If your not really good friends it's not worth your time or gas to even go. (unless you love Weddings). If she hasn't had the time for you I would just say you have a bad case of the Flu. It's going around really bad. Tell her congratulations, sorry you can't make it. tell her you will talk with her after the Honeymoon. Most likely she may not even remember you didn't go. goodluck
2007-12-28 10:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by Rusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can make her something? Do you knit? Scrapbook? Paint? Bake?
Although we don't invite guests just for gifts, one would still expect some type of gift from a FRIEND. Especially a close friend. Let her know money is extremely tight for you now, but your homemade gift is truly from the heart.
2007-12-28 10:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never required to bring a wedding gift, so you could always give her a nice card. Then, if in the future you do become better friends, give them a gift on their anniversary.
2007-12-29 17:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason you were invited is because they wanted you to be a part of their special day not for what you could give them. (people should not ditch an invite just because you are incapabe of gifting at that time.The moment only happens once,a gift can be given at any time)
2007-12-28 10:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by strandlock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Include a coupon for services in the card that you can do without paying anything.
For instance maybe while they are on honeymoon you go and scrub the house from top to bottom so it's looking bright and shiny when they come home?
Offer to babysit so they can have a few date nights (if they have kids)
2007-12-28 11:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go, an inexpensive picture frame or keepsake. You can probably find her registry and buy her something from there. Odds are you will find a lot of clearance and markdown items now because it is after the holidays. If you rsvp'd then it is only common courtesy to go she already paid for your plate.
2007-12-28 10:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by nurse ratchet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card should be plenty if you do go. But you just said that you don't really view her as a good friend- so don't feel obligated unless you really want to go.
2007-12-28 10:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋