A friend of mine "WAS" getting married tomorrow in Michigan...I originally told her that I could not attend because of it being around the holidays & so far away. (I'm in Texas)...Well she convinced me to come after all a couple of weeks ago...so I was talking to her on Christmas eve & tell her I'd see her this weekend. So today here I am in Michigan, sitting at the airport waiting for my delayed flight BACK to Texas!!!!! I get here and go to the hotel she told me about, & the desk clerk say's there is no reservation in your name or my friends name...so I tell him that I am there for the wedding...& he tells me that that particular wedding had been cancled last week..WHAT last week when I just talked to her...So I'm trying to get ahold of her...finally 3 hours later, and she says well we postponed because my parents couldn't make it...we thought you wouldn't come anyway!!! Now I'm out money plus I'm stuck at the stupid airport & will probably have to get a room..
2007-12-28 09:42:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I want to be reimbursed for my expenses...but I dont want to be a total bit@h about it...how should I go about this...I had to ask for special time off from work so I'm not even gonna get my holiday pay now. This cost me a little over $900
2007-12-28 09:44:11 · update #1
I am the same girl that asked how to tell my friend no...and I guess I got suckered in...I'm so mad now though...I just talked to her...she could have sent an email, called, sent a text message something!
2007-12-28 09:49:13 · update #2
If you're the same girl who asked a similar question a while back about how to tell your friend no after you'd said it many many times... I'd just write her an email when you get back stating that since you RSVP'd yes and just spoke with her a few days ago, you'd wonder if she could help you out on the expenses of the unnecessary trip.
I guess my advice would be : Get tough, she sounds like a flaky friend AND bride!!
2007-12-28 09:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by chaychayolei 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the lady above me....that sucks though that she didnt even tell you that they delayed the wedding!! Just tell her that 900 dollars is alot of money lost because there was no wedding...if she's a good friend then she'll help you out as much as she can..if not then I'd think about your friendship.
2007-12-28 09:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by peterson51785 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you could no longer make an exception for some human beings -- this is rude and could rather tick off your different travelers to reach on the marriage and notice somebody else with young little ones while their very own weren't invited. You the two flow no young ones in any respect without exceptions, or you enable little ones. in case you opt to no longer invite little ones, you handle the invite to the dad and mom in basic terms and on the RSVP card pre-fill their names & the style of human beings invited. as an occasion: Mr. John & Mrs. Sally Smith ___ of __2__ Accepts -- that way you're making no point out of their little ones and you're patently indicating that in the process basic terms 2 human beings from the family participants are invited.
2016-12-18 10:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told her you weren't coming......of course she is not obligated to call you. If you talked about coming after the wedding was cancelled she should have said something though.
From a legal standpoint you don't have any claim to getting your money back and it's doubtful that the bride has that kind of thing (or money) on her mind right now to pay you back. Chalk it up as a loss and a lesson in sticking to your guns?
2007-12-28 11:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just lay it out plain and simple for her. You shelled out $900 bucks for this caper and the whole thing never came off. She did not inform those who'd been invited. Evidently she doesn't keep track of things very well. I think she should reimburse you for the expense of this wild goose chase. You might also want to rethink your friendship with this lady.
2007-12-28 09:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with the e-mail suggested above. This way all of your arguments can be stated clearly and calmly. If you receive no response from this, you should then call the friend and discuss it with her. But remember that the more argumentative you become, the less likely she'll cave.
P.S. I would RSVP 'no' to the rescheduled wedding.
2007-12-28 09:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
She obviously wasn't paying very close attention on xmas eve if you told her you would be there and now she is using the excuse of 'we didn't think you would come'.
I don't like your chances of getting any money back either.
2007-12-28 10:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Julie R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldjust sit her down and say look i was there for you and i wasnt told the wedding was canceled dont you feel like i did my part? i am now out 900 dollars and i would like for you to remburse me the money if you can,my work time is lost but i need my money to cover bills, i would appreciate it .Thank you.
2007-12-28 09:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by wanna know 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a crappy crappy thing for her to do. SHe doesn't sound like a very good friend. she sounds like a flake. Unfortunately, you can't expect her to refund your money, and she probaly won't. Just don't let her talk you into going to the new wedding.
2007-12-28 20:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by sden2616 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I would take me and my bags to her house and INVADE. Look her right in the eye and say that she must need you otherwise she would have told you not to come....
Then she'll repeat "we thought you wouldn't come anyway" and you can go to "Well I'm here now, what's to eat, I'm starved! This trip just cost me $900.00 and I don't want to waste it!"
2007-12-28 10:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by bountifiles 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋