So, she told me about this guy, he was her first boyfriend or whatever, and she was really exited. They have been going out for a couple weeks and they kissed and he was all romantic to her, then, out of the blue, she imed me and said he broke up with her. She said he said he was like all of the other girls he dated, who were sluts, when they didn't even hook up or anything. SO, I feel really bad. She's really heartbroken and I don't know what to say. I told her that she wasn't a slut and I called him an asshole. Now what ?
2007-12-28 09:41:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All you can do is be ther efor your friend. Nothing you say is gonna help her really and you have to watch what you say about him cuz if they get back together then she'll be pissy with you. So just listen and agree try not to say too much. Make sure she knows your there for her if she needs to talk or cry that's all you can do for her really.
2007-12-28 09:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by twistedtoad03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say perhaps she isn't telling you something. I'm not suggesting that she actually hooked up with this guy, but maybe while "kissing" he felt intimidated----like maybe she is a little more experienced than he is---putting a little more into it than just puckered lips. If this is the case, and if he's a little immature anyway (I have no clue how old the guy is, but from your post, I'd guess 16 or under), then it is natural for him to run---he's scared witless!
It also may be that he felt things stirring inside him, while they were kissing, that he had never felt b4 and it made him feel uncomfortable and afraid. Many boys and many men, when they are confronted with such feelings run the other way and blame their partner for some violation or another to justify their actions.
2007-12-28 09:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to cheer her up. Plan a day to the nail salon, go shopping, whatever! Just do something girly and fun. It will take her mind off the pain she is feeling right now. Speaking of which, don't mention dating/guys, or the guy who she broke up with. It will only make her remember. Try to force her AWAY from those thoughts. Kudos to you for wanting to make her feel better.
2007-12-28 09:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your initial reaction was the right one. He was a filthy asshole who doesn't deserve a woman. Tell your friend that everytime you date someone new, you learn something about men and what you want out of life. Tell your friend that this was just her first relationship, and just like dresses, the first one is rarely a perfect fit. Tell her not to bother sulking and take her out every night to places where she can socialize with guys worth her time.
2007-12-28 09:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by Chit P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, my personal opinion is that this is really a bunch of high school drama....All that aside....DON'T SAY ANYTHING!
Listen to your friend--really listen and just be there to support her. You don't want to break into cliche's and honestly (if this is the high school years we're talking about) she is not going to be in the right mindset. You cannot make sure that she will not want to be with him or try to get back with him. What you can do is support her and be there for her.
Invite her out to the mall, to coffee, to see movies, to sleepover and do your hair, makeup and nails, to get a pedicure...to play sports...STAY ACTIVE :) Just be a good listener and a fun friend!
2007-12-28 09:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by ღyesღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont complication approximately it, purely communicate flippantly and attempt to make her snort, is there some thing she LOVE'S like extra then something (food song some thing of yours she Love's which you dont prefer exc.) if so get her what she loves, do something you could to take her ideas off him, as quickly as she has have been given all her tear's out. that's going to all be good dont complication. acceptable desires ^_^
2016-11-25 23:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by broadway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are the friend of someone who goes through a relationship breakdown, you forget how much the other person is hurting. You need to be there for her and listen to her despite how boring she may become in the coming days and weeks. She'll remember how good you were to her and will be the same back when you need her.
2007-12-28 09:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just confort her, and listen to her rants about how much she loved him blah blah blah.
Make her feel special again by going shopping and buying sweets and chocolate and stuff, and having a girl sleepover with face masks and stuff.
It might sound sad, but it works, still with me and i'm 17 :o)
Make her remeber that she may have lost him but she still has wikid friends, and that there are plenty more fish in the sea.
(but dnt try and find her a new bf too soon, might hurt her feelings and make her remember he ex)
hope she starts feeling better :o)
2007-12-28 09:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of weeks! That's nothing. In the scheme of things this event will have no real effect on her life an the person she will become. But remember one thing, never regret something that once made you smile.
2007-12-28 09:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by tanzer360 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't spend too much bashing him - that just send the message that she makes poor choices. Instead, focus on "I know this must be difficult" and "you'll find someone better". Listen to her and validate her feelings, and keep predicting good thigns for her in the future. Focus on how wonderful and worthy she is.
2007-12-28 09:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋