My adult daughter has a serious issue with her adult brother which lead to a complete break down in relations. I , as their mother tried to intervene but it did not work . Now she is also ticked off at me and says I should mind my own business and it is between her and her brother . I have helped her many times to get along in life, now to get her way suddenly it is none of my lip . What do you think? Was I wrong to get involved .
2007-12-28 09:34:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wanted to let by-gons-be-bygone when I extended my hand and called her at Christmas, but she insists I have to apologize first or she is not interested to make up with me even. She hung up on me .
2007-12-28 09:52:24 · update #1
What you did was right. Regardless of what has transpired between the two of them, they are still family. You as their parent have the right to let them know when they have done wrong, it doesn't matter how old they are. And if she is an adult she should realize that she doesn't have the right to disrespect you no matter how old she is. Calling to tell her Merry Christmas was a good thing to do. Now the ball is in her court. Give her some time to cool off, and hopefully she will come around. The only "I'm sorry" you should extend to her is maybe, "I'm sorry that you don't have enough respect for your mother to hear me out, and understand where I am coming from. I love you and your brother equally, and I as your mother never want to see my family torn apart."
2007-12-28 10:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by AB 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not wrong to try to help mend the rift between your daughter and son, but since your daughter has rebuffed your efforts, your best strategy now is to stay out of it so you are not accused of taking "sides." You can, however, let your feelings be known by telling them both that you are disappointed that they can't find a way to resolve their differences and that you look forward to the day when they can get along. Good luck, and God bless.
2007-12-28 10:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have four adult children and I make it a point never to get involved in their disagreements...but if the situation was, IMO, outrageous I would give my opinion loud and clear and if the ones who don't like it object I'd tell 'em to deal with it...and fix the problem before I have to....and I've done just that.
I don't care what their reasons/issues are...they are siblings and nothing between them can't be fixed.
BTW all four have never stopped talking to each other....and me. besides they know I've got an Ace in my pocket....I'll tell MY mother they're behaving badly..lol works like a charm.....
2007-12-28 09:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what her issue is with her older brother?Because that would help you understand the situation.
Not wrong for trying, but I always say it takes two to Tango. If they both can't get along, someone has to be the bigger person and try to patch things up.
2007-12-28 09:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't control what your adult children do in their own home. You can demand good behavior in your own home, however. It may be that had you not become involved the two of them would have worked it out on there own . if neither one of them live with you, then it really isn't your busuiness. I would express my displeasure that their disagreemnts cause strife in the family and that I am sorry if either of them feel like you are taking sides and leave it at that until they both act their age.
2007-12-28 10:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you talked to the older brother.As a parent you want your kids to get on with each other.No you were not wrong to get involved.Its probably best to kep out of it now and let them resolve their own differences of opinion.Your daughter probably thinks that you are taking sides.
2007-12-28 09:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋