Is it normal when you are considering suicide...?

Question

...to think about wanting it to hurt the feelings of people who said they cared about you?

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you don't really want to kill yourself. Sounds like your feelings are really hurt and you want to lash out at people. Generally, when a person is serious about killing themselves, they are only thinking of themselves.

You sound like you're just being a drama queen and having some problems dealing with your emotions. We've all been there. I'll tell you what I've learned. The best way to get back at people who have hurt you is to do really well. Ignore them and make something of yourself. Prove them wrong. My ex-husband had me convinced that I was worthless. He would alternate between telling me he was madly in love with me and beating me. It was the very worst kind of marriage. One of his biggest beefs with me was that no matter how hard he tried, after four years, I never got pregnant. Every time I had my period, I was so scared because I knew he was going to go berzerk.

So, what did I do? I got some balls and divorced that piece of Shhhhht. Then I found a man who treated me right, didn't care if I couldn't have kids, etc. Now, I am happily married with a well-balanced man and pregnant. So, did I want to kill myself when I was with my ex? Yep. But my ex recently found out that I'm pregnant and I hear that he's been drunk for a week. My revenge on him was to push him out of my life and do whatever I could to be happy.

I suggest you do the same. By the way, there is no shame in seeking counseling. I don't think I would have survived without the help of my doctor.

Answer 2

No it is very abnormal and very selfish. To be so angry with another that you contemplate taking your own life just to hurt them is a betrayal of the love you know they have for you. You are thinking only of yourself.

I am an old man who once was suicidally depressed, tried it, failed and got help. It was probably the most selfish thing I have ever tried. Depression and teen suicide are on the rise and seem to me to be reaching epidemic levels. If you are depressed it is a God given or evoloved natural signal to you to change course as your present perceptions and situation are wrong for your well being.

Changing your habits of thinking (and thus your analysis of your perceptions) is relativily easy until your thinking becomes so consistently negative it becomes self reinforcing. That is because negative thinking results in a down (sad or depressed) feeling which results in more negative thinking etc. You finally wind up clinically depressed. Changing your situation may be much harder. especially if you are not an adult. But you can stop doing and viewing negative things like watching TV or playing violent video games.

To get back your good feelings toward the person you want to hurt by suicide just forgive them in your heart for whatever they have done to you. You will be surprised what truly forgiving another for wrongs done to you (or asking for forgiveness for a wrong you have done) will do to elevate your mood.

Good luck in overcoming depression if you are feeling it (it may require a therapist to recover), good mental health, peace and Love!

Answer 3

As a teenager, anything goes. But you need to be focusing on your future, not your present. I remember feeling the same towards my parents. I didn't feel they knew me and they didn't spend enough time with me. Well, they worked. And, as it turns out, I shut myself off from them. I would hang out with friends for days at a time and they really had no clue who I was because I wasn't allowing them to know me.
I didn't have the best childhood, but my parents didn't beat me and they taught me good values about money.
And if you are talking about hurting yourself to get back to ppl who aren't your parents that lied to you, who do you think will really be the victim in the long run? Think about your future and decide what you want to be when you grow up. When you figure it out, start reading and studying whenever possible on that subject. You can never start too soon! Good luck!

Answer 4

It is quite common for adolescents to consider using suicide to hurt the people around them. However, if you are thinking these things you should find someone to talk to who is not a peer, because it is a problem.

Answer 5

i believe it is normal to think about the subject, but to consider comitting suicide yourself is not normal. It is probably time to speak with somebody that is not judgemental towards you... maybe even a professional counselor or your pastor. Seek help, and remember that there is nothing wrong with asking for help. good luck and God Bless

Answer 6

Never ever do it! If you need help then find a friend or loved one.
You were put on this world for a reason. You need to find out what that is. Suicide is a selfish act and is for chumps.

Answer 7

i think everyone at least once in their lives thought about it and i think they be fibbing if they said they didnt . if you really have urges to hurt yourself get on the phone immediatly and call 911 or a close friend of family member and go to the hospital where someone can help you. nothing is ever that bad where tomorrow cant start to fix it.

Answer 8

I have no idea if its normal or not, but trust me, its NOT WORTH IT. You will hurt the people who really do love you, and they will feel awful the rest of their lives. IT WILL GET BETTER. LIFE WILL NEVER BE THAT AWFUL THAT YOU NEED TO COMMIT SUICIDE.

Answer 9

No it just proves what they say all along about Suicide that it is a selfish act. How about talking to the people and just tell them that they bug you instead of resorting to such a stupid attention getting act.

Answer 10

yea if ur pissed at them and depressed. But thats why i cant do it cause i myself love too many people to let it all end and never see them again. I felt that way once and now that i look back on it i relize it was the worst feeling and stupidest thing to ever think. Dont do it cause ur just depressed. Dont do it at all.