Ive been going out with the girl of my dreams for a month now and a week a go we were both ready to go all the way but i realised the condom i had was too loose therefore i told her i had lost the condom! Im scared to have sex but i really want to (and so does she) what should i do?
2007-12-28 08:58:53 · 28 answers · asked by Alex P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if it makes you happy do it
but think about the consequences first
2007-12-28 09:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi Alex. First of all forget the gibbering children who attempt to make fun of you rather than answer the question. It is not unusual for a condom to be to big, but you have to take what was going on into the equation, this was your first time with this girl and there is a possibility you were a little scared, therefore causing you a bit of a problem. It also depends where you were at the time. No matter if you are the biggest man in the world if you are in a cold place can effect the size.
There are a couple of things that you can do. The first is not to panic, it happens and not only to you. when your girlfriend are ready to try again, try to remain calm but sexually excited. If you get a chance go to the bathroom and try a condom, if it is still to big, tie a knot at the base, the elastic will help you do this, but not to tight, this will not only help keep it on, but it will also sustain an erection and you can show your girlfriend, just how long you can last. Don't worry about that, men use products brought from a sex shop to help them sustain an erection. Don't let a thing like that put you off, many first timers have a difficult time, just take your time and let things go at there own pace and enjoy every moment you have. Best wishes and a happy new year. Peter
2007-12-28 09:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by The Honest one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, Mr. Alex....time to breathe a little. Relax. It happens.
Check the size of condoms you are purchasing. Try this privately without her around. Get the condoms and then give yourself an erection. Put it on and see how snug it fits. It should be snug, but not pinching or hurting the skin.
Practice this a couple of times and then you'll get comfortable with it.
Also, when it comes to intimacy take your time. You don't want to be scared -- but be ready. Let pleasure be your guide and take some comfort in knowing that you are responsible and using protection for both you and her.
Once you let yourself go a little you will enjoy the experience much more. Then your next worry is going to be making sure you have enough condoms! Oh, don't forget to check the expiration date.
Cheers!.....Finn.
2007-12-28 09:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ar scar d to have sex, but you really want to?
you ar scar d to have sex without a condom? if this is the case then this is a good thing, just speak to her, tell her the truth, many people donot talk before they have sex, this is a really bad thing, protection is very important, how old ar you? i would go to a clinic, maybe family planning, you can get free condoms, they can also speak to you about safe sex, and as a couple if you would like. if there is no family planning then that is an upset, although as a couple n if you both feel comfortable then i would discuss the situation with her, dont rush, discuss your options with each other and get some more condoms, preperation is priority to rushing, you donot want to rush, this will be your first time together, n if you lie to her n tell her you have lost your condom, she may feel that you would like to put it off a little longa, be honest with her n allow her to be honest with you, it is bound to be awkward, it is great you ar able to ask
2007-12-28 09:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by serious sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and buy another pack of condoms, it's as simple as that. As far as different sizes go, I thought they were all the same size. I'm not a big lad but I have never had any trouble in the past with fitting them on. Maybe you stretched it, you have to roll it on. Ask her to give you a hand next time.
2007-12-28 09:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tango 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems pretty straight forward, get new condoms, and as far as I know they have size markings on the boxes so make sure you read it so you don't have to 'lose' the condom again.
Good to hear that you're practicing safe sex, good job.
2007-12-28 09:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rudy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST GO OUT AND DO IT :]
However I must say its good to hear about a guy worrying about protection :]
Uusally its all
' Dont worry il be careful'
I think sex is made out to be a far FAR bigger deal than it is
2007-12-28 09:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by :] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a more snug fitting condom. Do a test before the real thing..... Meaning try some on so you can figure out which ones fits best.
2007-12-28 09:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by START 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the pharmacy and ask for the lady that does the condom fittings. She will help you get the correct size and they're normally quite helpful and understanding.
2007-12-28 09:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the only reason the condom was loose was the pressure you are putting yourself. yes its a big thing losing your virginity, bet seen as you said you's are both ready for it. just chill out and enjoy each other company and body. just take it one step at a time.
2007-12-28 13:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by Phillip J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must begin by sticking your male parts into her female parts. That's how it's done. Don't be nervous, but loosen her up a bit first. Don't make her cry.
2007-12-28 09:03:09 · answer #11 · answered by phythic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋