I was drinking at a bar and was really tired and intoxicated, and I slipped and called my boyfriends best friends wife a fat miserable *****, and I said it to her sister... So anyways, I feel pretty bad, but I can honestly say that I have never really liked the girl. And now it poses a problem when my boyfriend wants to hang out with his friend, who I totally think is a cool guy. How do I tell her that I am sorry without sounding subservient, or like I worship her, cause I don't, I just want to fix the situation..
2007-12-28 08:57:36 · 20 answers · asked by Doll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest: say you were drunk and said things you didn't mean, and that you're sorry. Leave it at that. She probably won't forgive you -- but who cares? People say things they don't mean (or do mean, in your case!) all of the time. The only thing she can do is get over it.
2007-12-28 09:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROFL over and over again..
Ok sorry I shouldn't laugh but that is freaking hilarious..
ok serious now..
If you really think going to her will keep the things cool with your B/F and his best bud, than I would give her a ring and tell her look I have done a really really bad thing and I am very sorry for it..and tell her and tell her how sorry you are.
your probably gonna have to be on the phone sucking up everything she dishes out at you.. BUT take it in pride that you were woman enough to go straight to her and applogize for saying what you did and didn't mean to be mean and rude......
If your to scared...( I would be)
I would wait until i faced it and pretend you forgot all about it....because you were so drunk.....(if that is an option) but if not just wait until your faced with it.... and tell her your sorry... that yeah you don't care for her much but you were totally out of line for saying what you did and that was wrong regarless whether you like her or not and you are sorry for insulting her like that.... You can ask for forgivness but if you take this route you most likely will not get it.. so don't expect it..
wish you the best of luck girl sounds like your gonna need it.
2007-12-28 09:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by twnmsk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy even when it hurts.
You don't have to like your BF's best friends wife for things to work out. You life is with him or might be if he isn't some moron from a rock in the back yard.
That's is the way things are. If you face to face with her. Tell her you are sorry you said it, but it really is how you feel.
2007-12-28 09:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by Panama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh geezzz...sounds pretty tough if you ask me. Maybe you can tell him that you didn't mean to say those really harse words but at same time, you can be honest to him that you are not THE biggest fan of his wife. But you will continue tor respect her for his sake?!? something like that..
To be honest, I am in same situation. My husband has a friend who don't like me. And in the past, he has talked badly of me. Him and I used to be friends until we got into a fight. My husband got stuck in the middle. It's not a problem anymore caue we moved out of state and don't see him. My point is....you don't need to deal with her vice versa if you two don't get along. Good luck.
2007-12-28 09:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Just a girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by mrotek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just simply say, "I apologize for the inappropriate things that I called you. I was intoxicated, but that's no excuse for my immature behavior. I know we've had our differences, but I hope that you can forgive me." Then the ball is in her court and you have nothing else to worry about. Just be sincere about it. If you aren't truly sorry, then don't apologize. It just makes you look like an ******.
2007-12-28 09:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you were drunk and that you have a history of saying stupid things while intoxicated. Go on and give her some examples (fake ones if you have to) of things you've said about others. Hopefully she will laugh it off. Good luck!
2007-12-28 09:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by oorah_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her if she brings it up, that you shouldn't have said that, but sometimes the things she does or says make you think that of her. That way you aren't kissing her *** or lying about it to her. Maybe think of one really good example of why you thought that of her and tell her that is what you were talking about when you said what you did. You can also apologize for name calling because you wouldn't like it if someone did said that about you.
2007-12-28 09:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by = ) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? It sounds like the alcohol gave you a push in the right direction. You said how you feel about so why would you want to fix things if she is a miserable ...?
2007-12-28 09:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just pull her off to the side and say that your sorry and that at the time you were drunk. and that you would like to get to know her a little better. i have the same prob. and thats how i solved mine, so i hope that this helps. good luck
2007-12-28 09:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by curious_c12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋