I had this man cheat on me and I am still with him. Do you think i should of forgave him or let him go.
2007-12-28 08:28:08 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would have let the person go. Married or not cheating once means its over...
2007-12-28 08:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
the number of men who would not cheat on you is smaller than the amount of men that would not cheat on you (in my humblest opinion)
That being said, I was cheated on by the woman I loved most in the entire world, and it destroyed me.. What it comes down to is respect. Does this person respect you?
You have to look over all the details of what happened and look for the callous disregard to your feelings and your love for him.
I say move on, and not just for the sake of spite, but because there is better love out there, and if you aren't looking for it, you won't find it.. change is the only constant in human life, and we should attack it on all fronts.
"the only thing we know about the future, is that it's going to be different."
2007-12-28 08:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. Real sorry. I thought about that and i came to the conclusion to forsake him 'cause it's so hard to forgive and to suppress the allembracing pain. I know that when there's a true love, A TRUE LOVE, devoted, you just give everything to your loved one, everything and you cannot 'even' think of anyone else not to say cheat on-- that's simply out of the question. Once you know you've been cheated on, you don't wanna live cuz everything is broken, demolished, marred and you want to forsake that person. So it's up to you. I don't wanna be your aide in this complicated question. Good luck to you. And once again I'm very sorry to hear that. :(
2007-12-28 08:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by me_always 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he loves you as much as he said he wouldn't have cheated on you and hurt you. He is showing that he is selfish and has no concern if he hurts you. I'm sure he will act remorseful now but whats done is done ans you should move on to someone that really cares enough about you not to hurt you.
Real love doesn't hurt.
2007-12-28 08:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you should take a break for a while dont break up just spend less time talk to him once a week just to let him know your good. dont let him do what he did and forget about it let him take the time to see what he did to you and how he hurt you are if he comes back a new man with new goals after a month then take him back if he have an attitude and puts the blame on you forget him. and if he dumps you that shows you how sorry he really was not.
2007-12-28 08:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by pinkparadiseforever 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I kicked him out!!
I was with a guy for a little over a year. We were planning to get married and we lived together. I caught him cheating on me and kicked him out.
2007-12-28 08:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-28 08:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just walk away it will save you a whole lot of heartache later and anyone you do date set rules and boundaries up front so he knows what to expect and that you are not willing to put up with any bull. You have to protect yourself first and foremost anyone else unless they are your children are secondary.
2007-12-28 08:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by Vivianna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't expect to get an answer from this thing. Only you can decides that according to the personality of that person. For example, is he a type that make that mistake only one time or he is not trustworthy. Yea so only you can decide. Don't let other people decide your life.
2007-12-28 08:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by TSW 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of whether he'd do it again. The better question is could you ever trust him again. Trust is a key to make relationships work without it it's pointless going back.
2007-12-28 08:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by PoWder 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him once shame on him, forgive him twice shame on you. Point being everyone makes mistakes sometimes, but I would proceed with caution, however in time you may find that as bad as you want to forgive and forget, you may not be able to. In those cases it is best to cut your losses and move on. Sometimes we can forgive, but the pain is so bad that we can't forget, and instead of torturing yourselves, move on. Good luck to you both
2007-12-28 08:32:18 · answer #11 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋