can they ?
as long as they wait to get married?
2007-12-28 08:19:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yeah I guess. But I can't picture it being any real kind of engagement. I mean is there a real aring involved. Do either one of the kids have jobs. I mean really it is just like playing house with a bunch of kids. I don't think it is to be taken seriously. It is kids trying to grow up to quickly
2007-12-28 08:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Technically, I think the 'engagement' is only between a couple that decide 'ok, we're engaged'... No official papers or anything for that part, just the couples decision.
However, and not to be mean, or controlling, or any of that stuff, just the fact of how life goes and the mental difference of people between 15 and say ten years later at 25...to be honest it's rather foolish for anyone that young. The divorce rate is very high for even people who got engaged and married in their young 20s, because mentally they are still developing up until about mid-20s and have a *huge* chance of growing apart. And a high amount of couples who marry that young do.
If *you* are the 15 year old...if you are so determined, maybe you two should consider the option of 'engaged to be engaged someday'...and no I didn't just make that up, I've heard of it before. Maybe you can mark it with a pretty, but different kind of ring or other piece of jewelry, but not as official as an engagement ring. Leaving that until you are an adult woman (say at least 20) and he can better afford a nice engagement ring at that time. (And you can be better sure that he's grown into the type of man you want and need in your life...i.e. he has good career ambitions and is actually working on it, rather then not being able to hold down a job, etc., because who knows what he'll really be like at 21 or 28.) Whatever you do, when it comes to married, do wait until your 20s.
2007-12-28 08:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Indigo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can get engaged at anytime. However, you cannot get legally married for a while unless your parents sign! Which is good, because 15 is way too young to get married. I know you don't want to hear that but trust me. I am 19 years old, and if I would have got married at 15, I would definitely be divorced by now! Wait until you are older to make the decision. Have fun being a teenager, once you start focusing on marriage things change drastically.
2007-12-28 08:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by HRiCHxO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW what it's like to want to get engaged at 15. And it's OK. But I waited and I still am with the same person and getting engaged soon. But trust me it's better to wait, because it's better to get to know that person more and once your 17, 18, 19 so on, trust me it's a big difference, you change, you become more mature.
It's ok, if you feel confident and good about it, but I was in that position too and decided to wait and it was WORTH it, trust me, things change. (I'm not saying you won't like that person anymore, I'm saying you'll be more mature and it'll be better for both of you.)
2007-12-28 08:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by jadaifrias7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally, yes. There are no laws on engagement. but, I would think they should wait until they're a bit older to become engaged. Why not do the promise ring thing? that's what they're there for- people too young to be financially responsible or mature enough to really get engaged.
Things can change alot in high school and college. Why don't you wait till the end of college to get engaged?
2007-12-28 08:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jordan D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In their own little world's they can, but they can't legally married w/o parental consent before 18. Most likely an engaged 15 year old couple will be broken up by 18.
2007-12-28 08:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by J'adore 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
anyone can get engaged. at any age. it's just a promise to get married. but why the hurry? how about an understanding that you're serious about each other, then if things continue to go well an engagement after high school or college?
2007-12-28 08:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by cols1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get engaged at any age.
The only time age will be taken into consideration is when they get married. Its either 16 or 18 depending on the state.
2007-12-29 17:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes with a 10 year engagement
2007-12-28 08:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check your state laws. Just because something is legal doesn't make it wise. I have yet to meet any teenager who still has the same interests and friends when they hit 18. Even at 18 you're nowhere near done growing up so making a lifelong commitment to someone at that age is stupid.
2007-12-28 08:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋