OK, here's the deal. I have a first date with a lady that I have gotten to know pretty quickly. She and i hit it off right to start with, seem to have a lot in common and talk comes really easy. I met her at my friend's apartment, she is her next door neighbor. So I have been to her place twice now, we sat and talked for a looooong time. Her daughter was asleep. She is new to the area, doesn't really have anyone to babysit but wants to go out with me. So I offered to take her and her daughter out for a date. I love kids and don't mind it really. But should I be a little wary that this lady is already comfortable bringing her daughter along on our date, though i am the one that suggested it. I mean most stuff I have read about single moms tell the mom to take it very slooooow when introducing their kids to a potential man in their life. So should this be a red flag to me or is it possible she feels that comfortable that fast with me?
2007-12-28 08:14:24 · 6 answers · asked by O2BEFISHIN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and her daughter is 3 1/2 if that matters. I have meet her briefly one night before she put her down for the night. Her daughter is a cutie and i have a son myself and love kids. Mom acts like she usually doesn't let her daughter see her "in a relationship" but instead just tells her that this is mommies "friend".
2007-12-28 08:17:13 · update #1
I have no problem with it, so i guess I shouldn't sweat it if she doesn't. it just seemed a little odd to me that she would let me in so quickly, but then again we did seem to hit it off right away. i have talked to her friend and she tells me that the mom really likes me and wants to take it slow relationship wise. We will see. I think I will bring her a single red rose and her little girl a stuffed animal? Or is the red rose going too far too fast? I do want to take her a flower of some sort, I am a romantic that way. If not a red rose, what?
2007-12-28 08:53:25 · update #2
Well I think she does trust you she must if she lets her kid around you. Yes maybe it is fast for you but maybe she trusts people too easily and you should be aware of it but don't strees. And she probably just calls you friend to her daughter is so her daughter can also get to know you better. also maybe she trusts you a lot already because you already have a kid and she feels that you would take good care of her.
2007-12-28 08:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should make too many snap judgments in this case. By your own admission she's new to the area, so competent and reliable sitters have yet to be found. Would you prefer she delayed any attempts to get to know you until that situation is resolved? If so, tell her. Also, don't assume she's grooming you to be a father-figure of any sort; this is merely a creative solution to a daunting problem.
But, for your own peace of mind, why don't you address these concerns with her before your date. Good luck to you, and Happy New Year.
2007-12-28 08:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i desire you start up relationship different individuals. this isn't a sturdy relationship. And to start, he's at present divorced, so this relatively does no longer bode nicely.tell him you the two ought as much as now different individuals after which you act on it and start up relationship. You deserve greater suitable. He desires to be pushed into the relationship international on account that he's utilising you for convenience yet would not p.c. to settle for the recent actuality that he's single, relationship and available to style relationships. it is nice, HE would not p.c. to settle for that. he's utilising his daughter as an excuse and projecting his very own emotions onto her. He would not care sufficient approximately you to have even one eyebrow raised approximately his relationship activities and he would not p.c. you to hitch his existence yet. and probably in no way. so which you would be able to hold in there like the poster kitty putting from a tree limb yet you're permitting him to handle you in a fashion you does no longer settle for from a chum. Are you that desperate?
2016-10-20 05:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she just doesn't have anyone to leave her with that she trusts. She probably really appreciates the fact that you seen her problem and offered to take her and her daughter out on a date, you sound like a nice guy. Good luck.
2007-12-28 08:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by gklb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure its not a big deal if you love kids anyway. At 3 1/2 even if something happens with you two, she won't remember it anyway.
2007-12-28 08:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she just dont have anyone to keep her especially because she is new to the area. She cant trust anyone else to keep her. I think it was nice of you to offer to bring her along.
2007-12-28 08:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sheree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋