I have a 3 month old son, and I am single parent, thanks to my son's father. He is in the picture almost once a week, but I hear from him alot. He decided before the baby was even 3 months old in the womb that we were not gonna be a couple so I kept on sleeping with him and everything, and now he is on and off and I don't wanna be with him. Yea we still sleep together and all but the sex is good. We fight over him smoking weed and not wanting to work. I am just now getting financial aid to go back to school so I can be a better person for myself and my baby and he looks at me like I am in the wrong. When nice guys try to talk to me he ruins it everytime. I admit I broke him and his girl up, but he was with me before he was with her. But now I wanna settle down and have another baby within the next year and he doesn't know what he wants. What do I do?
2007-12-28 07:51:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
get rid! He doesnt knpw what he wants and you need to make up your mind. you cant not be together and still sleep with each other - even if the sex is good. It will have an effect on your child and he smokes weed and doesnt work - do you really want this for your children? can you really see him changing? can you honestly say you want to have another baby with him? it sounds like hes using you for the sex to be honest and the sooner hes out of your life the better.
2007-12-28 08:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Natz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, if this is as good as this guy gets, is that really good enough? Second, you can't break someone up that doesn't want to be, maybe not your best moment, but it doesn't 'obligate' you to stay with him. Third, if he 'ruins' it when nice guys talk to you, that means that you are already looking and already know that you don't want this long term, you just need to take action.
Finally, I am not sure of your reasons for wanting another baby, but if you are going to back to school and already have one child, how will you complete your studies with an infant and a toddler? You seem to have made a decision to improve your life, and while it wouldn't be completely impossible to do it with two children, you would need a LOT of support to keep in balance and it sounds like Dad wouldn't really be a part of that. Just my thoughts... I wish you the best of luck
2007-12-28 20:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!!!!!!
Your life seems wayyyyy complicated enuff without trying for more children!
My advice for what to do with your ex would be let him be a father and your friend but not a lover or bf etc.
Get back to school like you planned and build a better life for you and your baby. Concentrate on that not more children for the state to support financially.
2007-12-28 08:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Just me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he hasn't got a JOB, that alone is a red flag in my book. I be damned if I'm gonna support a grown man.
I'd love to have another baby too, but it will be with someone who is gonna fly straight and do right by our child and me. I don't want to be a single mother of two.
2007-12-28 08:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex immediately.
Focus on raising that child, and remove yourself from the dysfunction. You're not a victim of circumstances, you're a volunteer.
It's not about you anymore. It's about the child. You want to teach your child that this type of relationship is acceptable?
Go back to school, get your degree, get a career, and most importantly - get some self respect.
2007-12-30 02:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by desertchik2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex will be just as good with someone else. In fact so much better with someone who has a job and cares for you; who will wine and dine you then spend a romantic evening together......do you really think your child/ren deserve this man as a father?
2007-12-28 09:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by skuleathome 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey he sounds like a loser. Do you really want this for your child? And to think you want another baby with him. Take a step back and realize what he put you through.
2007-12-28 07:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
seriously get a life and grow up for heavens sake
2008-01-01 01:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sandali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP!!!!! My god you can barely type a paragraph. Stop having kids with anyone!
2007-12-28 07:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by Heidi A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋