I was so excited to get a call for an interview today from a local, well paying buisness. I call to tell my Hubby at work, and he is, well, less than ecstatic. His reasons are that I should be home taking care of myself, plus the buisness is in let's say, no the greatest of neighborhoods. I don't understand, we need the money. Expecially when the baby comes. Plus I get BENIFITS! (healthcare, GREAT maternity leave plan)
Has anyone been through this with there man? What should i do? Should I go or not? What should I say to him? Help please!
2007-12-28 07:47:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
perhaps he feels that because he is the man he should be supporting you and the baby (when it comes). if you want to work and you need the money then go for it. explain to ur husband that just because you are pregnant doesnt mean you cant work and that you understand his concerns but you need the money - babies arent cheap - i should know ive got 2 of em! im sure if you word it so he doesnt feel your denting his ego he will understand.
2007-12-28 08:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Natz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit him down when he gets home and you two discuss it but let him know up front (if you do think this way tell him this) I will go with whatever your final answer is because I respect you and your opinions but I want you to see where I am coming from. Tell him why you want the job let him know about all the benefits and the leave and what not. He may just be saying it as an initial reaction and has not thought it though. good Luck
2007-12-28 07:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of 3, 2 boys and a girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this really depends on how far along you are i think.... you should stay out of high stress situations and rest of course. I think if you are still somewhat early it can be risky just bc your 1st trimester is a big growing period for your baby...but so is the 3rd haha really talk to your hubby about this...tell him your side of it and maybe you 2 can come to an agreement. My husband would just want me to take it easy...thats all. He trusts me to regulate the things i should and shouldnt do. Just talk and i know you 2 will feel a lot better. I hope I could help.
2007-12-28 07:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home mom and I love it. I think ur hubby might just be worried about were ur job is. I worked at a Safeway when I was pg. And let me tell you it took a tole on my body metaly and physicaly. He could be worried about ur baby and ur health. if you are thinkin about staying home when ur child is born....Just remeber it's all about budgeting ur money so keep in the life style that your living. I can understand where ur coming from and here he's comming from. Luckly my hubby's insurance is really good. He didn't have to pay 2 have our son.
2007-12-28 08:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by krollamyben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no medical reason why you cannot work then there is no problem. Especially if you want to work. You are going to need the money, trust good pampers are expensive. So is formula if you are not breastfeeding, and all the other things such as equipment and clothes. Keep your job honey he will love you for it in the long run.
2007-12-28 08:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just really cares about you honey! He doesn't want you straining yourself while carrying baby. It really depends on how many months preggy you are, but maybe you and your husband can comprimise. Just work until maybe 6 or 7 months and only work part time.
I hope you have a VERY healthy baby and I know you and your husband will be great parents. God bless.
2007-12-28 07:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by SJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him about you working til you feel you can't if your Dr. says you can't you will stop...my bf already told me the day i find out im pregnant (if and when) i have to put my 2 weeks in at my job and if i can trade off the last week or days and he would get a 2nd job if needed....your husband is just being careful he wants whats best of your you should be happy that he cares that much there are alot of woman that work til the day or 2 b4 they have the baby and the husbands don't care
talk to him about this and find out what the job expects of you pregnant or not
good luck!
2007-12-28 07:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, my husband is like this. He needs me to work right now, but I know it buggs him that he can't support us enough so I can stay home. I'm 25 weeks and I'm really having issues with my back and I know he feels bad.
It's an ego thing.
Does he know how much it will cost w/o insurance? Tell him that and he might change his mind real quick.
2007-12-28 07:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by BlueBlue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's ego might be the issue! Let him know that you want to do this and it's important to you (not just for the money). Many women work while pregnant. Good luck!
2007-12-28 08:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can write down all the pluses if u do take this job, and he just cares about u and the baby that's why he doesn't want u to work, so assure him that u'll be taking care of urself and the baby.
2007-12-28 07:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by acia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋