My boyfriend has his own place, about 40 minutes away from my house. I have my own car, but gas prices are CRAZY right now and I am burning so much gas all the time.
I always end up at his house because he has his own place, and I still live with my parents (he's 24, & I'm 21 but I'm in university & pay my own tuition which is why I live at home). It's getting so costly going there all the time, I'm spending $60 a week on gas. He has never once offered to help me pay for it and I've hinted so many times that it's costing me a lot. Should I expect him to help me pay for it or is this unreasonable? What should I do?? Help! Thanks :)
2007-12-28 07:45:36 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are going to see him...then he should pay.
It's tough being in school and paying for everything. Talk to him...don't hint. Tell him out-
right that if he would like to continue to see you often, then he should pay at least half the expenses it would take to do so.
If he is being cheap, then see him less often.
Or have another boy toy on the side, that you don't
have to drive 40 minutes for...lol :o)
Take care...and good luck in school.
2007-12-28 08:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by joseph t 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No don't ask him for gas money. He's paying a mortgage and has a lot more expenses than you do. You don't have to go see him all the time. You could meet up somewhere in the middle for a date. If you are spending $60 on gas a week you must be driving there every night. If it's a problem with money, don't go see him so much.
2007-12-28 07:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a the makings of some SERIOUS resentment. I went through this before when I was dating someone and he had to drive, because I had no car. I tried to compromise by taking the bus to his house on weekends, but in my opinion if transporation becomes a problem, that is the start of a break up.... resentments build. The love wasn't big enough for him to keep driving...
I think if he hasn't already offered it might be a big annoyance for both of you if you ask him... I would mention it, but if he says no, please, don't get pissed. It's just that he isn't thinking this is a problem. Explain to him that you are spending a lot of money to see him, and since this is the way he would like it, would he mind giving a little for gas. You could take the bus, but I think that would only heighten your resentment.
Good Luck
2007-12-28 07:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets face it if your 21, you need to act liek it. Adult don't hint about soemthing they just say it. The next time you speak with him say 'I am spending alot traveling up here to spend time with you. Since this is a relatioship we both want to be in is it possible for you to help with the cost of gas for be to travel up here" The other things to take into concideration are who foots the other bills when you visit? Does he pay for dinners? Movies? He has rent and utilities to pay also. So maybe you are being unreasonbale but you will never know until you just ask.
2007-12-28 07:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by TAB~loves~ZACK 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple .... don't go there as often and as he starts to miss you, ask him if he will pay for your gas. If not, then assume that he is using you as his home delivered booty call and either accept it or move on. you are at an age where you have the opportunity to meet so many new people and experience life in so many ways. take advantage and live a little.
Have fun, be safe and enjoy life!
Happy New Year!
2007-12-28 07:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by steveheremd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop going to his house for a couple of days and see what happens. Sometimes with guys (you're old enough to know this by now) you have to come right out and ask for what you want. Hinting at gas prices just sounds like you're complaining. If you want gas money ask for it. Does he have a car? Maybe he should pick you up sometimes. If you stop going over for a couple of days, hopefully he'll ask why you're not coming over and then you can tell him you can't afford it. Then hopefully he'll offer you some money. Hope I helped!!
2007-12-28 07:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmygurl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im engaged and going to college and my fiance lives 6-7 hours from where I'm at. He comes at least once a month to stay with me sometimes twice and each time he comes I pay $20 for part of the gas and I pay for a nice dinner for us to go out to.
Instead of hinting maybe you should tell him your situation. Possibly tell him that you're not going to go over there as much. If its such a problem and he won't pay then don't go there if you can't afford it.
Does he pay for stuff while you're there? Does he cook your dinner, take you out to eat, etc. Compare his costs with yours and if theyre even then theres not much you can do. You have to realize he is paying rent and rent is expensive, food is expensive, water, heat, utilities, phone, internet, etc. is expensive. A car payment, insurance, and whatever else - he has gas for work to pay for - so maybe he does spend more a month and you should pay.
2007-12-28 07:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by Virginia Chic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop spending so much time at his house and start actually dating so he can make the trip out to you. I'm sure you are going there to have s3x so no I don't think he should pay for the gas. You have a choice not to go.
2007-12-28 07:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "shut up Children", ask your parents... but also STOP HINTING!!! if you are in a serious relationship with this guy dont hint and tell him you need help, if he is a good boyfriend and has extra cash , he would gladly give it to you.. it would not be unreasonable for him to pay half of what you spend, NOT ALWAYS, but sometimes to help you out...
2007-12-28 07:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by smashingtime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's expected that he pay. If you're going to his house technically you're the one expected to pay. You just have to decide if it's worth it. Should he offer to pay?? Probably so, but you have no way of making him do this. If you're really bothered by the fact that you have to pay all the time the only thing you can do is ask him to help you out.
2007-12-28 07:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋