2007-12-28 07:44:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
first dont acuse her or him you can sit her down and ask her if daddy has done anything that makes her a little uncomfortable you can also give her a doll and ask her where daddy has touched her also talk to your husband if you are pretty sure your daughter has been sexual with her step father i would get him gone and far from your daughter.hope this helps.
~Brianne~
2007-12-30 10:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is what I notice about your question: You are phrasing this in terms of what your daughter did, not the the step-dad (who is the one who would be responsible). Also, you are talking about trying to "prove" it. Both of these attitudes seem to put you in a somewhat adversarial relationship with your daugher. If she has been victimized, she needs you as an ally.
This is not a small matter, and not easy for anyone to solve. Lack of proof is no reason to let this drop and it is essential that you get counseling. Good luck!
2007-12-28 08:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by FormerBoy 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can't help but notice that your screen name is "a king's queen." Well, if he is sexually abusing your daughter, he is no king.
I agree with other posters that you seem to be blaming your daughter, when it is the adult/parent's legal and moral responsibility to not commit a crime against any child. Even if he tells you that she "teased" or "flirted," you have to be strong and recognize that it's just his sick justification, not the truth.
Talk with your daughter. Make sure she knows that you do not blame her at all. That she is the victim. That you want to protect her, no matter what it takes. He may have told her things that keep her from telling you. He might have threatened to kill you, for example, if she tells anyone. You might need to get a therapist to talk with her to find out the truth. If she goes to school, her school might have a counselor you can talk to. Or, if you go to church, talk with your minister to get more help.
2007-12-28 09:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by GrewInMyHeart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter? Ask her questions. Let her know you will listen. If you suspect abuse you should take her to a doctor immediately. Confront the stepfather. He'll lie of course, but watch how he answers. Watch how he looks at her. Men almost always show interest outwardly in one way or another. Lastly get your daughter away from him now.
2007-12-28 08:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to ask her exactly what has happened and you need to take her to a DR. to prove it. The Dr. will direct you step by step in what you have to do.It's OK if you do it just even if your wrong about it just be careful with who you talk to and who you tell about this.Be discreet about and find out, its better to be safe then sorry. and like someone Else said dont accuse anybody before you have proof.I hope you find out exactly what is really going on.
2007-12-28 07:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by nana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would get and take her in and have a pap. done on her to see if she is having sex. but i would also ask herif she is with her step dad and explain that she needs to tell you the truth because its not right. also set up hidden carmeras and maybe have a friend that you know ask your daughter about it or even have them ask her step dad as a friend if he is sleeping with his step daughter. I hope that everything turns out and that its not true that they are. Your in my prayers
2007-12-28 08:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by curious_c12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat it out of him! Seriously though, keep asking her directly and take her to a counselor. Set up hidden nanny cams all over your house. That is child molestation if this is happening and you HAVE to protect your daughter at all costs.
2007-12-28 07:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by TLS (Caitlin is coming! 5/15/08) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are sick F*cking dogs. She hasn't been sexual with him...he's stepped over the line and been sexual with her.
Sounds like a man who needs his dick super glued to his stomach while he's sleeping!
2007-12-28 08:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear...why do you think this? You need to ask her if anything different has happened between her and her step father but don't accuse unless you know for sure. I hope everything is ok!
2007-12-28 07:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Duderoni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to provide more information for people to give you sound advice....
But whatever the problem is make sure you stick by your daughter... not the bloke... blood is thicker than water... and hes an adult she is younger
2007-12-28 08:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by Just me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋