We've been together about 7 months. He's always done his own laundry, cooking, etc. and has never expected me to do anything for him. Sometimes I offer to cook for him, because I like doing "old fashioned" type stuff to take care of my man, it's just who I am :-)
So, he doesn't have a washer and dryer in his apartment but I do. I offered to let him do his laundry at my place, and he did a couple of times. He did all of the loading and folding himself. Then one time he was busy, and I offered to do it for him (I really didn't mind).
A couple of days ago he brought his laundry over. I saw it sitting on the floor and said "Is that your laundry?" He said, "Yeah, I brought it for you to do," with a big smile on his face. I said "What, am I your b*tch now?" And he said "Yeah, you're my b*tch!" This was all said in a very joking manner, we joke like that all the time and we both laughed.
I'm going to do it for him, and honestly I don't mind. But AM I being his b*tch?
2007-12-28 07:25:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. I'm pretty sure he would have asked me nicely and not just expected me to do it, but instead we had a joking exchange about it...
2007-12-28 07:26:40 · update #1
Good partnerships share the chores - especially if you are both working.
Just make sure he does his fair share - I do !
2007-12-28 07:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You offering to do something can cause him to think you'll always do something which doesn't mean you are his b- tch but it could cause him to think you don't mind and actually always want to. Make things clear with him after you do it and tell him you expect him to still do his laundry until you say you'll do it. If he tries to lay it on you again just let it sit there on the floor and not do anything about it. At some point he'll need more laundry and he'll come over to do it. And if it continues to happen tell him to find a laundromat and pay for it all. That should change things.
2007-12-28 07:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Virginia Chic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him get started with the bad habits. You should have smiled right back at him and said "This b*tch doesn't do laundry. The machine is in the other room. Get busy if you want clean clothes."
2007-12-28 07:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Pam H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand thatlike doing stuff for him. I live with my fiance and am that way too. However my fiance does not expect it at all. Sometimes i let the laundry pile up and as soon as he see's it piling up he does it. Basically you never want them to expect you to do it. And it seems like he is expecting. This is going to become a habit. If i were you i would stop doing and let him do it.
2007-12-28 07:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by gemsjay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since it never got nasty, why not just say you'd be more comfortable if he didn't assume you're going to do it and kept in mind you consider it a favor and not an obligation. Pepper the convo with jokes when able since that seems to be how you two like to interact. It'll keep it from getting too intense.
2007-12-28 07:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Steve A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two have a good time, it's nice to be able to kid and joke around like that. If you really don't mind doing it then don't even think about it, just do it. I'm sure he didn't really mean that you are that but you put it out there first and playfully he played back.
2007-12-28 07:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tabby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just worried that he will take your kindness for weakness. Don't worry and do it this time, but if he continuely brings his laundry for you to do every week then I will say something... even if it is through a joke... something like... I think we should take turns being bi*tches..
Good Luck to You~
2007-12-28 07:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by HotJewels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a joking exchange as it's the first time. But next time, tell him he's on his own. You're his girlfriend, not his mother and not his maid.
2007-12-28 07:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by xK 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
But you DO mind because you wouldnt have written this if you didnt. And yes you are if you do it. You need to say hey I dont mind if you use my appliances but do not expect me to do your laundry for you.
2007-12-28 07:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bring your trash over to his place and leave it for him to take out (old fashioned roles and all) that way you can take turns being b*tch.
2007-12-28 07:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by Shavon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋