Never had a boyfriend =[ !?

Question

Im 16 and ive never had a boyfriend, or even had as much has a little peck on the lips.
I just feel really depressed and i cry sometimes. I don't mean to sound bigheaded but i get told all the time that im pretty, like this girl walked past and randomly told me im really beautiful. But if its true.. boys just dotn see it.
I have NO! confidence hardly and this is the reason. I try so hard to be confident though.. its like a cycle, I get really upset , then i try hard and get dresed up and put on a smile and talk to boys , but by the end of the night there kissing my mates and im just standing there. I know your all just going to say ''Just wait , true love will find you or somethign like that'' But i just want tips about how to get noticed .. and maybe just get a little kiss. I get upset lookin at couples, and im always on my own. Its hard at school when it comes to converstations about getting-off and boyfriends =[ because i have to be quiet and hope the convo passes and its awakard

Answer 1

Ur only sixteen years old dear. everything in time believe me. U should focus more on your education and hobbies. Boys will come in time. I was the same way and now I wish I could go back to how things were. Tips try to dress better, makeup not cheap or slutty but some nice gloss and mascara. Take pride in your self and what you do. Getting off OMG do you know what being 16 years old and getting off gets you PREGNANT. Focus on your confidence and education. You will be happy u did.

Answer 2

I'm 17 and never really had a serious girlfriend. Now kissing girls is a totally different story, but actually being with a girl for a significant amount of time, that hasn't really happened. Especially since I live in Southern California, and relationships are always shallow and short lived. Teenage romance doesn't last out here, there are so many attractive people that it's basically a endless whirl pool. But teenage romances are short lived anywhere. They rarely carry on that long, and when they do, they take up most of your life, you can't have much fun with other people cause your girlfriend, or in your case boyfriend, is gonna wanna hang out. Maybe it works better in the UK, which it seems like that's where you're from, but in America, teenage romance is just as much of a fantasy as the inspiration behind it.

But to be more noticeable, you have to stand out in a positive way. Being bubbly, happy, sweet, nice, etc. Have a great personality and always look good. Don't be shy to approach someone you are interested in, just put some effort into it, it may not always come to you, you'll find that you have to go get what you want rather than have it handed to you.

Answer 3

Your confidence should not be based on how much attention you get(or not). You get noticed by being yourself, by treating people with respect. You're 16 right? You have so much to learn take your time, what good is a kiss if it's from a TOAD! When the conversation turns toward "getting off" as you put it consider yourself LUCKY how many of the girls participating in that conversation wish thay hadn't. I will bet the majority. Hold on to the most precious gift you have to offer "that perfect someone" which is YOU KNOW already ...you

Answer 4

i feel the same way. im about to be 16 in 3 months and i havent had a bf either. sometimes i get depressed 2 or nervous when they try 2 talk 2 me ={. I dont really have a lot of confidence either but like u I try 2 put on a smile just to get through the day but its seems harder and harder 2 do when u see other couple.But i dont kno, maybe we will get a boyfriend 1 day. good luck =D

Answer 5

Oh gosh!! I remember feeling like that at 16. Now looking back I wish I had enjoyed that time. But look, I know it's extremely hard but you don't want to get noticed for the wrong reasons. Be yourself!!!! You may not have confidence but guys like girls that are sure of themselves. No that you don't need just anybody that you need the perfect guy. And be willing to wait for him. All the other people you see in relationships probably got them the easy way and will end up in a world of heartache so be confident and happy with yourself and put your best foot forward. Someone will notice if they haven't already and you'll be so glad that they did. If you can learn to love life single than you'll love a relationship even more.

Answer 6

Hey...don't be so down on yourself. Its OK that you haven't had the experience so what? I know that you want to hear this but it is true...boys are not everything. Get a hobby and find something that is interesting to you. Join a youth church group or some after school programs and this way you can meet different people without thinking about hooking up all the time. I think that will help you out.

Answer 7

You sound like a wonderful girl. I wouldn't get all bent out of shape over it. You remind me of my wife she was beautiful and was a virgin when I met her. She was 28 by the way. Although I was very experienced I always treasured the fact that I was the only man she was ever with. If you want to get noticed it's much easier for a girl than a boy. But make sure you're getting noticed for the right reasons. Nobody respects a slut. Good luck.....

Answer 8

I felt the same way in highschool, I felt so unloved and ugly but I grew out of those feelings, it took some time but I was ok. I'm almost 30 and I still have never really had a serious boyfriend and honestly I don't even care anymore. I'm so happy to be by myself without someone, it such a nice free feeling. You're only 16, don't worry about it. Boys your age kinda suck anyway lol, guys are so much better when you and them are older. Don't worry I'm sure your a great person and guys your age just want sex and don't care about any personality.

Answer 9

it will happen on its own..... my boyfriend & i met when i was almost 19 years old. i never even made any guy friends on my own until my boyfriend and I met. i still have no other guy friends than him. ALL of my friends are the hot, latina beauties that been through so many relationships. i am a skinny white shy girl. It is not worth the trouble to get involved in pointless relationships. In addition to all their relationships, they have been in countless depressions because they thought he was "the one." i would not worry about it. When you go to college and get a career you'll find someone with the same interests like yours and you'll hit it off. if that doesn't satisfy you, i would recommend just joining clubs to get to meet people and keep a routine so people get to see you often and get to know you and trust you and like you.

Answer 10

Try to be as open with people as possible, but still remember that you can't trust everyone with what you have to say. Take some chances. I'm sure guys see that you're beautiful, but not every guy has the balls to say it to a girl. that feeling you have happens to every girl, you're not alone. I can't really say this with out it sounding mean but, try not to keep your head in the clouds when it comes to guys, it's very rare that a 16 year old finds true love, or even knows what it is or feels like. People say they do, but don't be fooled. Whenever you feel stressed or depressed when you see a friend with another guy, just remember, that's going to be you someday but with someone wayy better. Be careful though, like I said you can't trust everyone.