I met my bf's best friend about a handful of times over the course of 3 years. The times we hung out he seemed like a nice enough guy. Mf bf and I live about 70 milles from his hometown (where his best friend currently lives) Last summer, we wer visiting my bf's parents' home--having a bonfire/dinner-- when his best friend called him. My bf invited him to come over and hang out with us (seeing how now that he lives 70 miles away he only sees him occasionally--the best friend never visits him over here). My bf hung up the phone and was visibly upset. He said he didn't want to come over and that he should ditch me and he'll hook him up with one of HIS gf's friends. Obviously this upset me and ever since then I haven't trusted the guy.
Last night my bf was in town and hung out with him, his gf and her friend/their roommate. I didn't mind because they were just going to dinner. He then told me he was going to spend the night which upset me since he wants to hook him up with her friend.
2007-12-28 06:30:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My bf is now mad at ME bc I got upset. He said that his best friend was joking and that I should get over it bc he's not going to stop hanging out with him.
I don't think it's my fault that I don't trust his best friend and that I'm uncomfortable when they hang out-- especially knowing that he now rooms with his gf and her friend--the one he wanted to hook him up with. My bf claims he was joking but I don't think so-- he wouldn't have been upset if he was joking.
Anyways, I think it's his best friend's place to try to right his wrong and apologize to me. Until then, I won't be comfortable with them hanging out.
Thoughts?
2007-12-28 06:34:08 · update #1
I would be upset as well!
Seriously you need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him that his best friend was completely wrong for having said that and that you deserve an appology from him. And you also need to tell your boyfriend that considering what his bestfriend said... he shouldn't have slept over there.
You can trust you boyfriend, it's just the other people that you can't trust, especially after he said something like that about you. Honestly, your boyfriend was kind of in the wrong for not taking up for you.
2007-12-28 06:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by HaiLeY 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing to forgive. You are entitled to talk to other men. He sounds as though something has made him flip if he has never reacted before. Tell him that you are faith full in every way and would never never cheat on him, however there will be times when you will talk to other guys as you are being social and that is the way life is. Nothing else. You need to draw the rule in your favour here now. Trouble could be ahead. Is it because you are now living together that he believes that he can control you? Well if so it bodes bad for your future, the signs are not looking good so far and unless you can agree that he will not throw unnecessary strops ever again (people can be hard to change) then he must go. Your happiness and safety are your most important issue here. He may be showing a side you have never seen before, which may only get worse. Be vary wary now before you commit more to this man, have children etc. You must make the right choices in your life, so many people do not and mess up their lives for ever. I wish you good luck.
2016-05-27 12:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to dump you BF. He is cheating on you and you think he is not. Read your own writing. He is putting his Best Friend before you. You are actually number 4 in his life. His Best Friend, #! Best Friends GF #2, Best Friends GF Roomate #3, then you. Not counting his mother and sisters. Get it. He is just not that into you. You need to dump him and fast. PS he did go out with the other girl and spent the night with her. What do you want a private viewing to believe it happened. OMG wake up. Good Luck, remember, dump the jerk, he don't appreciate you and you don't need that.
2007-12-28 06:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by FILE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him for what? Being a best friend?? If anyone is in the wrong here, it is your BF, who is the one who took the offer to spend the night with this guy and his 2 girls. Sounds like he is the one who wanted to party. Maybe you should think about getting a new boyfriend.
2007-12-28 06:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Wiz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO you shouldn't thats wrong of him but why did your bf do that knowing that you knew his best friend wanted to hook him up.. dinners one thing but spending the night?
2007-12-28 06:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by jwissy8@sbcglobal.net 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
oh ur bf is up to something he doesnt need to be going on a "double date" u shouldnt have let him go in the first place or u should have gone with him
2007-12-28 06:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"don't think it's my fault that I don't trust his best friend"
Do you trust your boyfriend? I would guess that's why he's pissed off at you. You are basically telling him that you think he will cheat on you simply because he's hanging out with his best friend.
2007-12-28 06:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Leaf 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no ur bf is obviously taking up your friend on this offer! you can forigive him but have nothing to do with him.
ps. dump ur bf before he dumps you!
2007-12-28 06:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope because he doesnt want you to be with your bf because now his friend cant see him as mutch as he want to.
2007-12-28 06:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋