2007-12-28 06:28:28 · 72 answers · asked by snowbunny83090 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on the individuals. I have known some very mature 17 year olds along with some very immature 30 year olds. If you can successfully take care of yourself, manage a bank account, take care of all your debt, etc, then I would say that your ready.
2007-12-28 06:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. You haven't finished developing emotionally & personally. That takes time & you may find that in 2-3 years you are not the same person you were at 17 & that you aren't interested in him anymore (or vice versa). Besides, what's the rush? If it's really love then you won't mind waiting until the two of you are finished with college. Divorce is also very expensive. It's really hard to get a divorce & it can cost up in the thousands of dollars, especially if you have kids.
There are also a lot of things besides love to think about. Most parents will not support a married couple at all. If you are responsible enough to get married, you are responsible enough to pay for everything yourself. Uncle Sam thinks the same way. You will get less for any college tuition assistance since they'll assume that since you are married that you are financially able to pay more of the tuition costs. That's the whole reason my little sis is waiting to marry her guy. Also, life insurance is expensive & necessary. Your parents' insurance will not cover you when you are married. You need insurance more than you know. You also need to think about the cost of living. Neither of you has lived on your own yet at all. Love is easy when you are in high school & everything is already paid for you (rent, utilities, food, ect). Many relationships fail b/c of money issues.
Wait on it. Finish college first & get a good job. More marraiges fail b/c they got married too soon & they didn't try to lay down the true foundations of marriage (love is NOT all you need). If you really want to be together, rent an apartment together & have a long engagement.
2007-12-28 06:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you are truly in love with this person and you have known this person for a really long time and are comfortable with them. If you have any doubts at all about being with this person then yes, it is of too young of an age to get married. And if you are planning on going to college then I would personally wait. You never know what could happen when you meet new people or you just don't seem to get along anymore with the person you are going out with. But it is entirely your own decision. If you really love this person and think you would be together forever then your not too young. But you really need to think about it. Good luck!!!
2007-12-28 06:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel 17 is too young. You and your lady friend haven't grown enough to truly know what you want for the rest of your life. I know you think you are but I have been there. You will not be the same persons in even 2 years. Careers could take you in opposite directions. Have you two discussed children because it could happen whether you want it or not. Are you two financially able to even live together comfortably moneywise? Marriage is forever and requires alot of work with great responsiblity so think responsibly together. I would take some time in this decision. If you two truly love each other then think carefully and talk to each other.
2007-12-28 07:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by nursling1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough question. I was just 2 months past my 18th birthday when I married my husband. We have been married almost 33 years and consider each other our best friend. Marriage is something you have to work at and you have to be committed to make it work. Anything your mate does now that slightly irritates you will be a major irritation after you get married; I can't explain why. If there are things you think you can change about this person, forget it. Though you do go through changes during marriage, the main thing you learn is not to push each others' buttons. You will probably be broke for the first 20 years of your marriage unless you continue in school and get a good job. It can be done, but will be tough. Good luck to you.
2007-12-28 06:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by cmdynamitefreckles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is going to say yes you are too young. I am going to agree. I got married when I was 22, and even I think that was too young. There are so many things in life that make you wonder why you fell in love with that person. If you dont get married and you wait until you are 24 to 27, imagine how many times you can fall in and out of love. When I was 18, I was in love with a guy that was my best friend, but you know what, I am so glad we didn't get married. Now that I am older, I can look back and say that it probably wouldnt have worked out.
Did you know that there is a part of your brain that doesnt finish developing until you are in your mid twenties. That is one reason why you should wait until you are older. Right now you think things are all wonderful, but the truth is, you havent seen anything yet. You are too young. And if this is the right person for you, it wont hurt to wait and see if you two really do love eachother. If you do, you can wait.
2007-12-28 06:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
17 is too young. There is still so much you have to learn in life that getting married at such a young age will hinder that. Also, statistically it is a fact that getting married as a teenager will end in divorce. Just be together. If you guys still feel the same after a couple of years than go for it. Right now, just wait and enjoy the relationship the way it is. Good luck ; )
2007-12-28 06:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Hazel Eyes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at 17 you still have no idea the difference between what you need and what you want. Just because you love somebody doesn't mean you need to get married to prove it. If you are going to go to college get that out of the way first, get a job and save up for a house or an apartment. Handle your educational and financial sitations first before you decided to even start down the path to marraige. You will only regret rushing into things and if you do really love each other then you should both be able to wait and grow up a little bit before you tie yourselves down to a life you will never be able to leave.
2007-12-28 06:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kayti C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is in fact very young. Since you are still a teenager you may find someone else out there for you. Give this relationship some time and then see how you feel. You just think you are in love, but really you only think that. See what happens in the future like when your 25. I know you love this person so much you'd do anything to spend the rest of your life with them, but don't think just because of your feelings, you can get married right away. You shouldn't get carried away with everything.Love is special. We all know that. It gives everyone a great feeling. Maybe soon you find someone else is out there for you. WAIT UNTIL U GRADUATE COLLEGE!
2007-12-28 06:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Even if you truly feel that way, and I hope you're right, that doesn't mean you should up and get married. Bad idea! Bad! Go to your room! So you've found your soul mate... I congratulate you and wish you all the happiness in the world. If you're truly meant for each other, you'll be able to get married later, when you've finished school (college preferably) and have a few years of life experience and financial stability. All you need is love... Great song, but if you're both struggling to put food on the table, you'll find things turning sour rapidly. The best way to destroy a great thing is to rush it. Enjoy your youth.
2007-12-28 06:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by ima_super_geek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so personally yes. No matter how much you're in love, marriage doesn't really do much other than makes it legal. If I were you (I'm 18 right now) I'd wait until I've graduated and got more qualifications behind me and perhaps wait another couple of years just to be more sure you want to commit fully because 17 is still really young.
2007-12-28 06:32:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋