i'm verbally abused and i don't know what to do..?

Question

so yeah, i mouth off like every other teenaged girl...but my mother makes it seem like...way worse than it is. whenever she scolds me she says things that never leave my mind and hurt me so much as to the point where I'm very depressed, have an extremely low self-esteem, and I have cut myself.

she's called me:
worthless piece of sh.it
*******.g bitc.h
piece of garbage
worthless
etc.

i'm not a perfect teenager, but...i don't know whether i do deserve this or not. i know she really needs to get help but she doesn't think so, obviously.

now it's gotten to the point where i have been suicidal. i have never really come out about that before. I really don't know what to do.

thanks, guys.

Answer 1

I'm sorry that you are going thru this. At some point all teens feel they are mistreated. I'm not saying you aren't, but I remember thinking the same thing when I was a teen. My mom would say and do things in anger and it seemed like it was always directed at me. My mom still denies doing/saying anything out of line. I know that as a human, we all say and do things that we regret later. Hopefully your mom regrets saying these things to you. If she is anything like mine, it won't do any good to talk to her. But if you think there is a chance that things would change, talk to her. I don't know the whole story, so I wouldn't venture to say get SS involved. You need someone you can confide in and trust. Suicide is definitely not the answer. Nothing is ever worth taking your own life. Things will get better. You do need to get help for you and for your mother. I'll be praying for you. God Bless.

Answer 2

You need to talk to someone like a guidance couselor. Suicide is not worth it. Trust me sweetie I have been there and done that, but I was fortunate enough to survive. You need to sit down and talk to your mom. Tell her how it makes you feel when she says things like that to you. You also need to take responsiblity for your actions and words as well and also apologize to her. Maybe she feels like she doesn't know you anymore and just doesn't know how to reach out to you or cope with how she is feeling. You are her daughter and she loves you very much. The older you get the better your relationship will get with her too. I know I didn't get along with my mom when I was a teen either and now we are like best friends. We tell each other everything. Let her know that you love her and hate fighting with her. It's worth a shot. The worst that could happen is that things stay the same. If you need to talk sweetie just send me an email. Good luck and I hope you two can work things out.

Answer 3

Let her know how you feel about the words she choses to

use on you. I would suggest you write it on a paper and pass it to her and let her read how you feel.

Know that your mom may lack some parenting
communication skills and try not to take it personal. It is easier said than done but keep that in mind.

Know that you are a special person and sometimes people are suppose to nurture that idea fail in doing so for one reason or another, but that does not take the fact away that you are special.

Find it in yourself to remind yourself that you are special and do not let that awareness go. You will need to retrieve to this awareness every so often in life.

To bad your mom is failing to nurture this but sh it happens.

Write down things you like about yourself and things others say about you that are good. keep this close by and look at it when you begin to feel those thoughts your mom has left in your head and they begin to make you feel down.

Good luck and be blessed.

Answer 4

Those words she uses are meant for herself, possibly her parents or someone said that to her! It was tough being a teen because you know you can do better for yourself but you are a few years too young to try. She obviously feels badly about herself, and has no idea how to stop saying these things. You need to talk to people who are in similar situations, Try a self-help group, like alateen. Check to see what help is available to teens in your area! Those feelings will not last forever, but there is help available if you seek it.

Answer 5

Sounds like your mother has some real anger issues.

Sometimes the only answer is to survive the best you can until you can leave. That means don't be confrontational and don't giver her reasons to jump on you (although she may come up with her own anyway). Remember, you can't chose your parents, and you can't stop time. You will grow up - you're life will be yours.

Answer 6

You have to know one thing, when a person does this it's a reflection on the person that does it. She surely believes that she herself is all these things. I know it's hard to live like this, and you should take others advice, but most important, don't believe her.

Answer 7

seriously tell her how you feel, and talk to a good friend you trust or talk to a therapist. it might seem weird at first to talk to one but it will help tremendously. dont feel embarassed to either.if its coming down to the point of suicidal get professional help because suicidal or not, this will affect you for the rest of your life somehow

Answer 8

Dont hurt yourself because of her, whenever any1 hurts me, i hurt them, why harm myslef if they made me angry.

And secondly thats really mean what she says to you, mine does too and much worse, i just leave it and say and what are you, but thats me.

I really dont know what to say, because i go through the same thing with mum and others :S

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear that. I would try to talk to her and see if she sees the severity of this problem. If she;s in denial then you should speak wiht another adult in your like maybe a relative or teacher.

Answer 10

Talk to your high school counselor. Your mother should not talk to you like that. I feel so bad for you. Please don't do anything to hurt yourself. You are worth more than that. If you feel that you can not take it anymore, try staying the night with one of your friends. Talk to your friends / boyfriend about it. But, please talk to your counselor. He/She will be able to help you, and could possibly talk to your mother and help her too. No one should have to put up with being talked to like that. Good Luck honey.