I broke up with my ex 2 years ago and from time to time we still talk to each other on the phone and sometimes at school, I already have another girlfriend whom I have a son with is that still still considered cheating if all were doing is talking.
2007-12-28 05:46:57 · 22 answers · asked by BSL Fighter 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the talking is just friendly (not sexual, not "I love you", not "I wish we were still together") then it's not cheating. If you would be comfortable if your girlfriend was speaking to an ex in the same manner, then it should be fine. Don't hide this fact from your current girlfriend though...
2007-12-28 05:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not considered cheating, but I would be honest with your current girlfriend about it. Let her know that you two are just friends and that you don't have feelings for her anymore. It's best that she finds out from you instead of some other way. Besides that, how would you feel if she was talking to an old flame and didn't tell you about it? Trust is the foundation of a relationship and if you don't have that than you don't really have anything. Be honest with your girl and also respect the way that she feels. If she tells you that it makes her uncomfortable and that she would prefer you not do it then I would listen to her. Is talking to your ex really worth losing your family over? Put yourself in your girlfriends shoes. Good luck though sweetie and I hope that everything works out for the best.
2007-12-28 13:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by silentrefuge86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. This is a case where your intentions and the intentions of the person you are talking to matter.
what do you talk about?
off limit topics are:
issues with your current GF
flirting and phone sex with the old GF
Anything that you wouldn't say to the old GF in front of the current GF.
Do you hide it from your current GF?
If you have to hide the fact that you talk to this girl from the current GF, then you might want to either re-think the current relationship (is her jealousy reasonable or unreasonable) or stop the phone conversations (are they really innocent friend talk or is there flirting going on)
Are you secretly trying to get with your ex or is she trying to get you back?
If you can honestly say that neither you nor the ex have a hidden agenda and this is truly talking between old friends, then you are not cheating.
If you want to remain friends with an ex, I strongly recommend that you include your current GF in any socializing you do with the ex. This shows the GF that things are above board and the ex that you are with the GF and happy. If your ex resists getting to know your GF, then you know she is trying to win you back and you will need to stop the phone calls if you want to stay with your GF. If you resist the ex and your GF getting to know one another, then you do have a hidden agenda and need to stop the phone calls. If your GF resists getting to know your ex, then you need to reassure her of any fears she has.
2007-12-28 14:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, does your current girlfriend know you still have contact with your ex? Or do you keep it under-cover? If she knows, and you are honest and have nothing to hide, then there is no way this is cheating. But if you are communicating with the ex, and keeping it from your girlfriend, I would consider it cheating. Not neccessarily PHYSICALLY, but EMOTIONALLY. And this can hurt just as much, if not more.
2007-12-28 13:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Tori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depend's on 2 things does your current gf know about it and how it makes her feel? And do you still have any feelings for your ex that can be rekindled? If she is ok with it, then no there isn't a problem. However if she know's and it is a problem try and concisder how you would feel in her shoes and the time you spend talking to your ex could be time spent with your current girlfriend.
2007-12-28 14:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur just talking it not cheating. but if ur girl doesn't like the fact that ur talking to ur ex. u shouldn't cause u 2 have a child together so u 2 will always have 2 put up with each other.
2007-12-28 13:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by playgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if you're just talking. But I always say if you can't do whatever it is you're doing in front of your girlfriend then it must be cheating. So if you're talking to her a certain way and you would not want your girlfriend around to hear it, then you're doing something wrong.
2007-12-28 13:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Story Unknown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. If you lie about talking to her, that just makes you look like you're being sneaky, if you're up front and respect how your girlfriend feels about you talking to her there should be no problem at all. I think it's great you were able to stay friends.
2007-12-28 13:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by nikirollerblades 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, what are you talking about. If you really care about your girlfriend you will limit your talk time with your ex. You might not have a bad intention in your mind, but I promise you that your ex has a plan in hers. She will not admit it but it sounds like she is not over you.
2007-12-28 13:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by everythingszenidontthinkso 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends what your talking about, basically, dont talk about anything with your ex that you wouldnt talk bout in front of your girl. Would you want her talking to her ex? Just dont do nothin ypu wouldnt want done to you and you'll be fine. Hope my answer wasnt confusing =)
Go with the answer above my mine...thats what I was trying to say juss not in so many words
2007-12-28 14:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by ..... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋