I just got back home from the holidays and I've had 4 different guys call me last night.
Guy #1.. I've known him for about a 1 1/2 years....I used to want to talk to him, but the thing is he lives 5 hours away back in my hometown. He used to be my reason to wanna come home to see him but I've only seen him 2wice in the last 1 1/2 (he's always busy). I used to call him a lot, but now I barely call b/c it wasn't going anywhere. Anyways he called yesterday wondering why I didn't call him Christmas so we could see eachother. Thing is I don't like him like I used to.
Guy #2.... I've known him for 10 months.... I've hung out with him a few times... He lives in the same state as me, but I don't like him like that. He seems to only want sex from me. He called me last night to go to a club with him and then stay the night over. I stood him up.
Guy #3.... I've known him for about 6 months...We used to work together and used to hang out a lot....he used to like me and wanted to be in a relationship w/ me, but something happened. We still talk and hang out just not as much. I really like him and would love for it to be more and he knows that, but just wants to be friends now. Last night he called me to come see him, we ended up having sex and I stayed the night over.
Guy #4...I've known him a few weeks.....Never seem him before, but talked over the phone almost everyday for the last couple of weeks.... I met him through a friend...Anyways he wants to meet me but of course I've been stalling. He seems like a really nice guy, but I don't want him b/c I'm head of heels with guy # 3 and he knows that.
I've never been in a relationship with any of these guys, but I want one, but only with guy #3. Does this seem crazy? What should I do? I would like some opinions.
2007-12-28 05:35:28 · 3 answers · asked by tc22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You had 4 guys call you because it's the holidays and they were feeling lonely. Trust me, all of them wanted sex. #3 was the lucky one. You aren't crazy for being confused. You're just overwhelmed with all the attention.
If #3 just wants to be friends, stop having sex with him until he wants to be more than just friends or he'll never change. Let him know you're worth more than he thinks and he'd be lucky to have you for his girlfriend. If he doesn't wake up, be friends with the other guys, but don't give them any sex, either, until they realize what a catch you really are.
2007-12-28 06:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by from me to you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your emotions aren't stimulated by the others, but this #3 guy makes you doubt yourself and stimulates your emotions. EX: "Why doesn't he like me?"
Your emotional level around this particular guy is so 'roller coaster' it excites you and you MUST know 'why'. He intrigues you, so your attraction to him continually raises. You know why the other guys like you so they are, in a word, boring. Boring is not exciting like #3, so you choose him.
What to do about it? Do whatever must be done to know whether he is attracted to you. If he denies you, go out with someone else.
Once you understand why he's your choice to date, the easier it is to find a solution. You know I'm right about the emotional roller coaster....don't you? What's even scarier is that I'm a guy, so just imagine how I do socially. I know....it's amazing.
2007-12-28 13:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by The Icon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step away from the situation, relax, and find the best one for you.
2007-12-28 13:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by hdedone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋