Why is he lying to me? Im so confused!?

Question

I received I missed call from a random number, while I was at work. So the next day I called twice (from my mums phone) to see who it was, no answer!
The next day I get a text asking who this is. So I text back saying: I should be asking you the same question, I had a missed call the other night, and I said who I was and I asked who are u? So he text back saying sorry I thought u called me because I didn’t have this number before. So then I text from my phone, saying yea u did call me from this number, and what’s your name? the person said sorry for bothering me and it was maybe a wrong number, so then I text back well have a happy new year who ever u are, wish u would tell me your name. He text back saying, I find it best to keep it mysterious have a great year all the best.
Then found out going through my mates phone it was my ex's number, he obviously changed his number, but he rang me, and then didn’t want to say who he was. Why did he ring me in the first place? We haven’t spoke

In 5 months. We were together for 2 years and our relationship ended in quite bad terms. We both broke up, but in the end he wanted it more then me. Not even 2 weeks after us breaking up he was hooking up with his current girlfriend. He knew I still had feelings for him. He still has no clue that I know its him. Do you think he was maybe drunk and missed me so he phoned me and now regrets it? Do you think my reply was ok?

Answer 1

Yes your reply was good.
You were both together for 2 years, thats a long time.
Even though he seemed to have moved on and got him self a new squeeze, doesnt mean he loves her. He probably felt suffocated in the relationship and broke up with you, and to deal with his pain, asked out the first airhead that said yes to him.
He maybe misses you and still has feelings for you, thats why he rang you, but then chickened out thinking it might not be a good idea.
For now i think you should stop worrying about him, and move on with your life, go out with your buddies, meet new people, flirt with stangers, You sound young, so make the most of it. If it was meant to be with him, he'll come back.
For now think about you, and what you want to do with your life. Best of luck.

Answer 2

wow, your situation with this guy (not the phone part but the way you broke up, the length of your relationship, him getting with a new girl, and the amount of time since you've split) is nearly the exact same as mine with my x girlfriend. it's really really tough especially when THEY contact YOU. I don't know what to tell you though. Maybe he just missed you and wanted to talk; not saying that he wants to get back with you, two years is just a long time to be with someone and then just cut them out of your life entirely. I think you responded appropriately though, you seem to have the upper hand in the particular situation. After a few days have past I would probably even consider texting something like, "xxxxxxxxx, i know this is you.... one of my friends told me this is your number. why did you call then lie about it? you know despite our differences in the past you can talk to me if you need to."

Answer 3

first of all, i think it really depends on his maturity level.

there really are a lot of possibilities. it is possible that he was drunk-dialing you, exs have done that to me in the past.

it is also possible that he was just trying to be annoying. one guy that i dated in high school did the same kind of thing, he would disappear for months at a time, then suddenly a text from him (or a call, sometimes) would appear out of nowhere. i still to this day do not understand why he would do that, but i think that he didn't really want anything but to get under my skin!

maybe he's trying to see if you are single or if you have moved on, you know, pump you for information by pretening to be someone you don't know. although, if he didn't ask you for any of those kinds of details when you started texting him, that may be less likely?

i think it really depends on his level of maturity, and since you don't say your ages, its hard to tell. the possibilities are endles... wait and see if he does it again, if so, then you'll at least know he still thinks about you. :) but i would still advise to move on, if he does. guys that like to play mind games are never worth the effort and the pain.

Answer 4

Is he still with the girl? Maybe he could only call when she wasnt around, and couldnt answer or talk when you attempted to call him back..
if that isnt the case then he obviously was bored and thinking about you...either way, leave it alone, its all just a game to him in the end.

Answer 5

i think maybe you need to just forget about it, if you still have feelings for him then ring him back, see what hes doing at new year, but obviously he is finding it hard to get over you and he wants to speak to you still. maybe he did it spur of the moment, and regretted making a fool of himself after, thinking youd never know it was him. if you like him text him. if you want to gt over him dont and delete his number pronto cos you will just do the same thing, call him when your drunk or just need a chat. good luck.

Answer 6

Maybe he was calling to see if it was still your number, or he chickened out on speaking with you or leaving a message. An ex of mine opened up an email account pretending to be someone else in an attempt to get info about how I felt about him (but I knew it was him by the way he writes.) Its semi-psychotic in my opinion.

Answer 7

The guy sounds like he's wanting attention. Hes trying to control you. Don't pay attention to him at all. Don't play his game with him. It's clear that hes not over you and the new girlfriend is to just make you jealous. Forget about him! Your better off.

Answer 8

Um i could not tell you what is going on i had the same thing happen to me but they wanted to know what i was doing and who i was with and is was my EX and he still cared bout me he just wanted to know what i was up to and if i was dating anyone

Answer 9

He probably missed you but then got scared when you actually returned the phone call.

Answer 10

HE IS MOST LIKELY CONFUSED.
HE OBIOUSLY MISSES YOU AND THINKS OF YOU.
YOU HAVE HIM HOOKED HE KNEW HE MESSED
UP NY LETTING YOU GO. ANYWAYS IT ENDED FOR A REASON THERE ARE PLENTY OF OTHER GUYS OUT THERE, HE SCREWED UP AND YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE WAY BETTER THAN HIM PAY NO MIND TO HIM. I WISH YOU THE BEST AND HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!